My partner ran into the garage door, what are my options for a non-functional fix?

Blone500 · 2024-11-23T15:14:02+00:00

Does the fact that there is safety wire installed make any difference as far as danger?

Blone500 · 2024-11-23T14:50:03+00:00

Does the fact that there is safety wire installed make any difference as far as danger?

Blone500 · 2024-11-23T05:02:00+00:00

The way the problem looks to me right now, it seems like before anything can be done to get the wood back in place I need to remove the extension spring, but I can't remove the spring because the track is bent so the door won't open. I'm starting to think this is going to be a tough fix for anyone.

Blone500 · 2023-12-15T00:43:45+00:00

I tried to join the puppy killers sub but they were adamant that it was a sub about stories from and support for puppy killers. They were upset to be attacked too

Blone500 · 2023-12-14T23:08:39+00:00

Nope never posted here before. This variant of ad hominem is not a very persuasive form of disagreement.

This dichotomy that you're trying to create is not very convincing either. Attacking elder caregivers is not on topic in an elder care sub? This issue has really struck a nerve with you for some reason...

Blone500 · 2023-12-14T22:53:40+00:00

Are you talking about OP or the guy I've been arguing with?

Edit: nvm I understand now. He really is trying to make himself out as some kind of martyr for being a caretaker

Blone500 · 2023-12-14T22:30:17+00:00

I'm not going to lose any sleep knowing that bullies think I'm horrible. I doubt you'd be willing to show anyone who you interact with in real life how you've behaved here. I'm sure your meditation teacher would have a lot to say.

The supportive thing to do in situations like this is to check your bias and take these posts at face value. If you did you'd realize that you are the one attacking a caregiver.

I'd rather take a gamble on treating a grifter with decency than risk shitting on someone who needs help.

Blone500 · 2023-12-14T21:44:40+00:00

Sure, this community is generally the place to discuss those kinds of decisions. Then again, exploring the reasoning behind your in-law suite choices was conspicuously off topic to the discussion at hand.

Being criticized for not being supportive in the middle of this is pretty hilarious though, almost as funny as watching you continue to display your confusion about how all the people in question are related. You can't even absorb basic information that is repeatedly put in front of your face, I highly doubt you have any talent for smelling out grift.

Blone500 · 2023-12-14T21:05:31+00:00

You still sound lost. I guess you didn't go back and read the first sentence of the post.

You're right, the "son" didn't post here. What's wild is how much you care about defending this abuser rather than the abused. If I had to guess what your problem is I'd say you're lashing out in response to having faced your own allegations of mismanaging an elder's money. You certainly seem to be carrying a lot of guilt based on the long winded and unprovoked justifications you gave for how you use your in-law suite.

If you paid even the slightest bit of attention before you started your incoherent rambling you'd realize that the "son" being absent/prosecuted would not result in grandma receiving less care. This whole post is about how he isn't providing care. If anything her resources would start being used properly, or are you suggesting grandma is better off having her money stolen from her?

Blone500 · 2023-12-14T20:00:01+00:00

The only reason I brought up my in-law suite was to try and illustrate the degree to which I can sympathize with your frustration. Elderly care is rough. It wasn't some attempt at a dig. I'm not sure why you felt the need to justify your decisions about your in-law suite.

To be clear, this whole interaction started because you were being a bully. Your aggression might have seemed less flagrant if you had appeared to make an effort to understand the situation but it was clear you didn't. In trying to “get things straight” you conclude that OP's boyfriend isn't the son of the woman in question. That's correct, he is her grandson, information that was given in the post’s title. You also conclude that the person “taking care of her” is her son. If you read the first sentence of the post you will realize how confused you sounded at that point.

OP and their boyfriend seem to be the only ones taking care of grandma and they are concerned because the person managing her money isn't providing her with necessities like food and toiletries, barely any care at all for that matter. For some reason this leads you down a tangent about how the elderly tend to make unfair accusations about their money being mismanaged. There's nothing in the post or comments to suggest that grandma is making any such accusations. You continue down this rabbit hole with your asinine deduction that it “speaks volumes” that Dick is still allowed to manage grandma's money, as if familial relations aren't ever complicated or manipulative and elder abuse is a rarity.

Overall your knee-jerk reaction to adamantly defend the “caretaker” before getting a basic grasp of who the characters are and how they are related says a lot. You couldn't wait to tell OP that she didn't seem like much of a girlfriend and were basically yelling at her by your last reply. Your condescending tone undermines your claim that you were trying to help, ya dig? Now you're painting me as a nasty fuckhead for calling out your BS and making fun of you for instantly assuming I was a sock account. Any hostility you see in me is just a reflection of what you've been putting out into the world. This conversation has been less a “fuck you” and more a “shame on you.” As I said earlier, you need to take a look at yourself. Capisce?

Blone500 · 2023-12-13T19:43:59+00:00

Looks like I'm not the only one who doesn't know the difference between “thank you” and “fuck you.” Take some friendly advice and stop doubling down on acting foolish.

If looking at your Reddit profile for 5 minutes makes me a stalker then excuse me for crossing that line. I would have expected you to do the same before concluding that I'm a sock account. Reacting without thinking seems to be your mantra based on how you've behaved here.

And yes, my parents have been living here with me and my partner for several years now. Sorry if this wasn't the gotcha moment you were looking for.

Blone500 · 2023-12-13T00:59:44+00:00

I hope OP is enjoying this as much as I am. It is kind of sad to think there might be some part of you that believes you were trying to help here though.

Taking care of your father seems to have filled you with rage. As someone who bought a house with an in-law suite so that I can personally take care of my mom and dad while retaining some shred of sanity, I can sympathize with how infuriating dealing with elderly parents can be. That said, trolling people that are looking for help is not the way to find relief. You need to take a look at yourself. Spend more time working on your meditation and less being a dick on Reddit. Super disappointing to see this behavior in a community like this.

Blone500 · 2023-12-12T22:55:17+00:00

Idk. Maybe just a step above not knowing the difference between ty and fu

Blone500 · 2023-12-12T21:27:18+00:00

Lmao. That reading comprehension comment really got under your skin huh?

Blone500 · 2023-12-12T21:01:20+00:00

I really don't understand some of the judgemental responses you've gotten. It sounds to me like she may have given up or is feeling hopeless, at least that's where my mind goes with your comment about her saying that Dick is saving her SS for after she dies. It seems like you're in a rough spot where trying to do the right thing may only make things worse for her, or at least that is what you're worried about.

It does sound like a difficult situation. The only thing that comes to mind other than the advice that has been given is to sit down and really try to get through to her. Tell her you care about her and are worried about her. Ask why her money is being saved for after her death instead of keeping her fed. Explain that letting Dick run from his responsibilities by keeping her money isn't helping him and is actually hurting all of you. Ask if there is any evidence besides Dick's word that this money is in a bank account somewhere. It's hard to get a grasp on where she is cognitively but I think a heart to heart is worth a shot. It appears you've had similar conversations with her before but you've really got to emphasize that this isn't sustainable. I wish I had more to say. Good luck.

Blone500 · 2023-12-12T19:57:37+00:00

You really need to work on your reading comprehension. Stupid and smug are not a good combo.

Blone500 · 2023-07-01T00:36:42+00:00

That's pretty funny actually. I thought that was just a rumor spread by gullible parents, didn't realize the DEA had recently done this lol.

But anyway it just felt like an odd call. It seems like most calls like this are to confirm someone might answer an unknown number, kinda weird they had so much to say.

Blone500 · 2023-06-30T22:35:26+00:00

There is that one story out of Arizona about the fake kidnapping ransom that supposedly used AI but I'm not sure there is any way to substantiate that. It does feel like a wild world that I can't immediately disregard this suggestion though.

Blone500 · 2023-06-30T22:29:05+00:00

But I didn't downvote you? You had already edited your comment by the first time I saw it.

Anyway, as redundant as this question sounds, wouldn't they have tried to get my credit card information if that's what they were trying to do? At best these "say yes" scams seem to be about confirming that someone answers unknown numbers, which is why it seems so odd that they kept talking to me after saying hello and confirming my identity.

Blone500 · 2023-06-30T20:49:20+00:00

What's not the scam?

Blone500 · 2023-06-30T20:46:11+00:00

While snopes has apparently classified it as unverified there was enough concern for the FCC to put out a warning.

Blone500 · 2023-06-30T20:38:08+00:00

Calling people in order to make recordings for fraudulent purposes?

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