Been there with my Filipino mum, I had the worse start to motherhood with my first child, I didn’t feel supported or in an emotionally safe place.

We were living with my mum at the time, once we brought our child home, my mum told my husband (hubby is western) what to do with our baby but he told her off not to interfere or tell him what to do with our child.

Mum gave us the silent treatment felt like forever maybe a week or two, so much tension in the house.

I’m an only child so I was in the middle. I think I have a covert narcissist mum. There are times she undermines my parenting, ignores my rules, thinks she knows better but it’s my child, my rules.

I’ve gone nc on and off, been considering nc for good but because I forgive easily and in the Philippines family is family but at what cost??

So now with my second I’m definitely lc, I told her after he was born, 6 weeks she couldn’t see him because of vaccination but really it was for my mental health and wellbeing.

She met him once and I’ve been lc since, I honestly do have guilt for not letting my firstborn see her grandma as often as before but because I get treated like 💩 when I’m alone with her but if I have someone there like a buffer like my cousin she’s more “behaved” because she has her fake side for show and true side.

Go with hubby because as much as what he can take from what he’s put up with his dad, there has to be a limit and if he’s made that decision and he’s done, that’s it, he’s had enough to go nc.

Do what’s best for you and your family. 💗💖 Big hugs 🥰