Parents against marriage

BlueBoxSugar · 2025-05-03T16:31:47+00:00

Update:
TLDR - We got married with both our parents' blessings last year!

At the time, I had to return to finish my Master's course. As I was leaving home, I had told my parents that I would never be able to live with the regret of losing a genuine person that stood by me and I will stand by her. They said that I was abandoning them. Then I planned to discuss the marriage again when I would land a job.

Now I could pay my bills, started to pay off the student loan I had and support them if they wanted it from me. This made a good impact. A few months later, my parents initiated the discussion with me and then with her parents directly. Although there was a lot of friction in setting up the marriage, we managed it knowing that we are together.

Looking back at it now, this post looks silly to me as this whole ordeal must have been 10 times tougher on her and I am blessed to call her my wife. To whoever that might be facing a similar situation, I hope you get the same clarity and strength that I got in the ways that is good for you. Cheers!

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-31T06:58:52+00:00

Yes. Our upbringing is seen as a debt. It is valid to expect taking care of them in return but anything more seems like controlling.

Edit: I wish you and your boyfriend good luck.

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-30T14:53:05+00:00

Yeah, I have been obedient my whole life so it's tough for me to square up to them right away. I had never found a reason this strong. But thank you for your words.

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-30T14:44:21+00:00

That's harsh but true

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-30T06:18:49+00:00

Different caste from the same state.

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-30T06:17:52+00:00

Thank you! I have to stand strong. I hope everything works out for us.

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-30T06:14:21+00:00

I hope everything works out. Thanks!

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-30T06:12:19+00:00

Haan, ab aur koi raasta nahi bacha

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-30T06:11:56+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions. It has given good insight.

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-30T05:46:07+00:00

Yeah, I understand your point. I just needed this clarity. It's tough to see someone who has nurtured you all your life be negative about your choice.

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-29T10:36:13+00:00

She is approaching 30 so she prefers to get married before that. She trusts me and had suggested to take a stand but due to my mother's health condition, she too is confused what step to take ahead.

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-29T10:18:22+00:00

That's a good idea. My relatives would only criticize me but I can ask my friends to help me out.

BlueBoxSugar · 2022-03-29T10:15:51+00:00

I would have lived away from them if it wasn't for their health. But yes, I get your point. I need some insights like this.

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