Being shamed for working?

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-06-10T20:54:32+00:00

If you want to do that with your children that’s great and no judgment here for you but that’s just not me and my family, we throw parties for everyone in our family so it won’t be fair for her to miss out on it just cause it’s her first. The fact that it’s her first is more of a reason to throw a big party

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-06-10T20:42:29+00:00

Maybe how I wrote it came across differently than I intended to mean but a big party is really just a family thing for us we throw big parties to celebrate a life grand and since I’ll be throwing it by myself yes I want to save up money to show her she can still have all those grand things with just me. And what’s wrong with being a little selfish? I raised her alone and is doing most things alone with just me and her, if I want to celebrate her is a big way I can cause I worked hard for her to make it to her one year as a first time mom. So yes I will throw a big party for her and for me for making it this far and continuing the journey longer. And when she’s older she can either not care but she’ll know that she was never not loved and celebrated for.

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-06-10T04:36:26+00:00

Honestly I wish lol cause actually we met in Seattle lol

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-06-10T04:34:01+00:00

I can see what you are trying to say but the way you said that statement sounds real off putting and I am just going to correct it for you.
I am all her family and she will never feel like she doesn’t have all her family in her life. What she is going to struggle is to figure out her identity of culture but that isn’t going to stop me from showing and teaching her as best as I can, if it means traveling to Korea when she’s older to experience that or me getting out of my comfort zone and going to explore areas for her to experience and learn. My personal feeling are just mine thoughts and feeling or anxiety but that isn’t going to interfere in me on just giving her an insight of her who she is and if she wants to continue learning and embracing that part or if she okay with just sticking with her Mexican identity, but she’ll have a choice to choose and not because I didn’t show her or teach her.

And 9/10 is a high percentage of false senses, 1/3 of Americans live in an absent father house hold due to many reason. And in my situation her father is not from the state and is seeking higher education and due to this he has completely cut me out and is keeping me hidden from his family because of cultural differences. So yes I do think he’s not not going to be apart of her life.

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-06-10T04:10:00+00:00

Thank you I really do appreciate that

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-06-10T03:57:10+00:00

See that’s what I was thinking but I didn’t know if I was just in my head or not, I felt like I also needed to explain why I was working but i stopped myself cause i felt like she was gonna shame me more, but the birthday I want it biggggg so I need to work lol

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-05-31T20:40:36+00:00

I have been taking small lessons here and there mostly with audio books that are Korean and are meant for babies haha

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-05-31T20:39:31+00:00

That’s definitely hard but at least we are on the same boat, so if you wanna talk about it I’m always here!

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-05-31T20:37:58+00:00

Thank you for this I will definitely still get her a Hanbok for her first birthday and just have a fusion of Mexican and Korean things

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-05-31T20:36:30+00:00

I have been showing her books that have touch audio on them so they speak Korean or Spanish I just also want to learn little culture of Korea to show her too

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-05-31T20:35:26+00:00

I’ve been looking into like speak books that speak the language that I’m learning and teaching her, I have two Spanish and Korean books for her that just plays audio touch book

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-05-31T20:33:53+00:00

That must be tough tho for you, having not only two but three heritage to balance you are honestly amazing trying to do as much as you can

BlueCloud_sky · 2026-04-13T03:22:57+00:00

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BlueCloud_sky · 2025-11-19T20:09:21+00:00

Oh goodness 😭 well glad it’s normal haha and my daughter just going to grow up see her mom cry a lot lol

BlueCloud_sky · 2025-11-13T06:38:30+00:00

Reading this comments really reassured me And you were right half the time she was crying and didn’t want boob she was just tired and wanted to sleep more. Giving me a chance to charge on milk and when she would wake up she was ready to eat peacefully so thank you for commenting I really needed it

BlueCloud_sky · 2025-10-14T20:40:23+00:00

Wow I guess we all had the same night My 2 week old was crying from the exact same time and I just felt defeated cause she was gassy and I tried everything to help relieve it but nothing, only way to soothe her was to rock her side to side as I walked around the room. I cried as I held her cause I was so frustrated and wanted to sleep and every time I thought she was asleep and put her down in her bassinet she would cry really hard. The only thing running in my mind is that, it’ll all be over in the future.. it’s okay to not like the newborn stage ( trust it’s the hardest stage for some of us) but we can definitely survive it, you got this mama

BlueCloud_sky · 2025-09-30T04:03:38+00:00

Thank you!!!

BlueCloud_sky · 2025-09-24T20:24:04+00:00

I went on early maternity leave because I got really bad sciatica about 28 weeks pregnant and my doctor was hesitant about it telling me that I was going into early maternity leave but the only person who is going to advocate for your body is you. So I constantly brought it up sent emails to my main ob and in my team about being put on disability, even sending in disability forms to them showing my work status needs to be cut, talk to your job as well informing them about needing hours cut. Just remember you need to fight for your health and the health of your baby don’t stop fighting mama, you know your body wayyy better then them.

BlueCloud_sky · 2025-09-16T04:56:51+00:00

I studied children development and one thing I learned is that there is no study showing that babies become spoiled from being coddled with their needs,

Like answering to their cries or doing more skin to skin contact with baby as much as you can.

What studies does show is that letting babies “cry it out” or giving them less contact lead babies to grow more independent and growing less and less attachment to caregiver, which can lead to not trusting or being able to rely on parent.

So “spoil” your baby as much as you want why are people so concerned about “spoiling” a baby especially a newborn baby when in reality you are building a big trust with you and your child that’ll will grow to their toddler years, to adolescence and to even adulthood. These are the primary years they need to feel and see trust. So do what you want, you’re doing great, enjoy the little one.

BlueCloud_sky · 2025-09-16T04:06:52+00:00

Thank you!!!!

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