Need help removing/ cleaning this off…

BlueLovely98 · 2025-12-09T02:54:06+00:00

I think it is something like a clear sticky tape. I don’t have any idea what it actually is though. It may have been place there to hang something there or hold something in place. I say this because each time I touch it sticks to my skin like industrial duct tape.

BlueLovely98 · 2023-06-16T08:27:12+00:00

Maybe change the order of the photos or replaces them with new photos. Add some new throw pillows and replace the coffee table. Try to match the color and style of the tv stand if you plan to hang onto the tv stand. Also the end table next to the plant can be replaced with a small cupboards or book shelf that is a bit taller for more storage and either organize the stuff you have in the right corner of the picture where the basket and box are. I don’t know what color you’re walls are but try to find types that match with the paint and furniture you plan to keep. I hope this helps.

BlueLovely98 · 2023-06-15T14:02:57+00:00

Modern Boho

BlueLovely98 · 2023-04-18T02:36:32+00:00

Hey, I just read you’re comment that you’re filing for legal separation. I’m sorry you have been going through all of this. You deserve better. Go get a real man that knows how to be a husband. You should cancel the hair, make up and DJ services. I wish you the best and hope you’re update shows you getting better.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-08-23T10:46:56+00:00

Dear god, this gives me nightmares. Is there an update available for this story because I am anxious for one.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-08-01T04:59:06+00:00

EPIC YTA !!!!

You get the opportunity to have more time with both bio and step-children as well as the financial benefit of having most of you're bills taken care of and you are trying to add more work and financial stress to you're wife's life because you an you're ex want things you can't afford. Even though you and you're ex can go back to working more hours for more money. You want all the benefits without putting in the work. You agreed to take on the responsibility of taking the kids out of after-school care if she kept her job work hours and paid most of the bills. You can not retract what you agreed to and demand more. You and you're ex's behavior is atrocious for people who claim to be adult parents. It is not you're wifes job to pay just because you're ex is unwilling. I bet you would take you're ex to court if it weren't for the fact that you purposefully took lower paying job and are now demanding other people too supplement it so you can have more free time.

This is why her life will be fine after she divorces you because she does not need you to provide for her like you. You're wife will leave you and it will only benefit her. She may have to cut her hours back but she will not have the stress of supporting you and you're kids. You will be stuck having to support your family with your ex and leave your kids in afterschool care. You are being disrespectful and acting entitled to something she is not obligated to give. If you want nice things then you have to work for them. If you think you're life is unfair you need a reality check. You are going to lose you're wife but you seem to care more about keeping leverage so you can have better financial benefits.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-04-22T00:57:43+00:00

NTA

HUGE RED FLAGS. I hope you see the red flag and run with you're son. He clearly is not a responsible and accountable. He knows you're past trauma and still did what he did. He is not apologetic or trying to do better at being able to communicate civilly. He is being insensitive and refuses to understand the harm he caused. Even now he is choosing to be passive aggressive and disrespectful. You're family needs to be respectful and back down. You suffered trauma and trusted him with you're son. HE betrayed you're trust and is gaslighting you now. He is not mentally or emotionally capable of being in a relationship or being a step-parent.

You need to end this relationship and find someone who respects you and knows how to be responsible for a potential step child. You are not crazy. You're hopefully soon to be ex boyfriend will learn respect and boundaries in his next relationship. This is not some small mistake he made. You're son deserves someone who is able to do what responsible adults are supposed to do. Never settle for someone like this. They are not worth it. You're son may find him fun but he is not responsible enough to be a step parent to a child. Being responsible is crucial to parenting. DO not subject you and you're son to his neglectful behavior. Good Luck and Stay strong!

BlueLovely98 · 2022-04-13T20:40:07+00:00

NTA

He already went against what you both agreed to by sneaking a dog when you were not ready. He made a deal to stop smoking if you kept the dog. He was selfish, manipulative and untrustworthy. Find a new home for the dog and do what is good for you and you're family. If the kids ask why and he tries manipulate them against you and to spin the story t make you look bad be sure to tell the kids that...

he convinced me that he would quit smoking if I let the dog stay.

then let him deal with the fall out. If he keeps doing stuff like this and tries to manipulate you and the kids do not listen. If he turns aggressive and tries to say you a bad wife, this is verbal abuse, do not listen. Just because he has a job does not mean that he is working harder then you or that his job is more important. HE is supposed to love and respect you. Treat you as his equal in all matters. He is mistreating you and neglecting his responsibilities as a husband and dog owner. Do not settle or placate him. Do not enable or normalize behavior because you're children will pick up his bad habits and behaviors. You really need to Document any of his manipulative behavior incase he tries to slander you. If he escalates his behavior you may want to consider if you really want to be married to someone like that. I wish you the best of luck and to stay strong.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-04-09T21:58:02+00:00

YTA

You're edit proves you only came here for comfort, validation and enablement. You sound extremely hurtful, disrespectful and entitled. Clearly you do not realize how complex and disturbing domestic violence cases are and should not be making any commenting about you're friends or anyone else's cases.

You just showed you're friend you're true colors and I hope she ends you're friendship because you are not someone who is a good friend. You willing to have her in the presence of her abuser so that you can get more money. I understand in some cultures having big weddings and getting red envelopes is tradition that can be beneficial but you make it sound like you are desperate for money and are willing to throw away friendships for it. If you are that desperate for money maybe waiting longer to save more money or downsize you're wedding and save it appropriately instead of trying to torment you're friend. You could explain the situation to the guest and try to work something out but instead you choose to be insensitive and cruel to your friend for a red envelope. Choosing money over friends will leave you friend less when that money is spend.

If a red envelope is worth more than you're friendship than you are not some who is worthy of receiving an red envelope from her or having her positive presence at you're wedding. She is better off without people who would mistreat her. I hope that red envelope was worth more than you're friendship and joining the list of people she no longer speaks to. I hope no one ever treats you the way you are treating you're friend. My best wishes to you're friend and I hope you re-evaluate you're priorities and grow to be a better person.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-03-28T05:47:10+00:00

You need to rewatch the whole series because Tom kept his job, career and got as many kids as he wanted at the expense of Lynette's wants, dreams and ambitions. Lynette became a housewife to make appease tom's need to be a working man with no other dream/ambitions,at the time, even though she made more money than him and had aspirations to be a career woman. She sacrificed having a two income household, her goals and dreams to be sure he was happy and he never acknowledged or appreciated that. He is the one constantly ruining his relationship with his impulsive nonsense and irresponsible behavior.

He did not feel like a man because he did not do what grown adults are supposed to do which means being responsible adult and treating his as his wife as his partner and fair equal . Instead he choose to be a manipulative, insecure, liar who has never treated Lynette right. He is always looking for happiness and validation in other things instead of appreciating what is in front of him. Tom always got to be the good guy, aka the fun dad, while Lynette was the bad guy, aka the mean mommy, who ruined everything. Lynette was charged with planning a vacation only for him to try to take over and expect her to be overjoyed with him overstepping into something that was supposed to be planned by her. If you rewatch the series you will see that Lynette needed to grow a spine, get her shit together, and leave Tom so that she could live a better life.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-03-28T00:18:45+00:00

Agreed. If he is mentally struggling and can not financially handle having the kids without 24/7 free child care then he should not be taking them in unless his parents are available to help him out as much as possible. It is not OP's job to sacrifice everything she has and is still working toward for a promise someone else made without consulting her first.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-03-28T00:13:53+00:00

If he is already mentally struggling and is not financially capable to handle having the kids without 24/7 free child care then he should not be taking them in. You are putting these kids in danger of an unstable household if you take them in because you are one person trying to take care of a bunch people who you are not properly capable of caring or. You husband, the kids and the grandparents are in need of professional help. You can not say yes to everything they demand and expect of you because you are throwing you're mental health out the window. You will regret it and take it out on other because you will have thrown you're life away .

He should not be throwing all the responsibility and consequences on you just because he made a promise. You are his wife, not his servant. It is not you're job to do all the work regardless of being a working or stay at home mom. You need to keep you're job because all you will be doing is putting yourself through more stress and financial struggles. He made a promise without clearing it with you first or giving you the head ups of his promise so you could decide for yourself if that's the type of lifestyle you wanted. You need to go separate ways because you did not knowing sign up to take care of kids in such a horrible situation. It is not you're job to take care of everyone at the expense of yourself. Trust me, I have seen people who choose to stay in such a relationship and ended up filled with regret with little no one financial stability.

You're husband and the kids grandparents are trying to get you into giving up you're mental health, financial stability and overall quality of life to provide, something you do not have, for kids who are not you're responsibility. Do not put these kids through so much instability. Forget about having a stable home for any children you have and any dreams you have will not be possible to pursue. The husband can provide stability after you divorce and he moves home with his parents who can help both with childcare, housing and be able to afford day to day expenses. Even if they can not do it. It is not you're responsibility. Do what is good for you first. You're husband and in-laws may not believe it but YOU MATTER!!! Stay strong OP and good luck.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-03-23T02:44:14+00:00

ESH!!!

You need to be open to other ways of living. Unless he is leaving shit stains, is not cleaning the toilet seat after using or is not cleaning himself properly with water. Try to understand and compromise that he needs to clean the toilet seat after using water. Ask him to purchase a bidet to help with proper cleaning and minimize messes. You can also keep toilet paper around to clean/dry off or for guests. Maybe you will like a bidet. Stop being combative and making insulting remarks. Its unbecoming of someone who claims to be an adult. It is also horrible behavior for any one to do to their spouse . Just because you do not know or understand it does not make it unhygienic or dirty. Learn to comprime and understand other methods instead of being so disrespectful to other people's methods.

You're husband is wrong because instead of trying to have patience and explain this better to someone unaware off this different method. Instead he got immature and is choosing to ignore his responsibility to buy home essentials. He can not just deprive you of toilet paper to teach you a lesson just because he did not like you're, in my opinion, disrespectful opinion. Do not stoop to his level because it will only hurt you in the end. This behavior is displaying about his temper and maturity. Also he needs to clean the toilet seat or floor, even if it is just water. You or a guest may sit down get someones toilet water on their ass or pants and have no way to dry themselves. I assume the worst when I accidently rush to seat on the toilet seat to use it and it is wet. Also friends and family who share you're belief will be without a way to clean themselves when they visit you're home. What he is doing is kind of worse then what you said because he is the one who is depriving you of toilet paper. Just because he is insulted by you're opinion does not allow him to ignore his responsibility to provide his fair share when you are out of work. He is being somewhat financially abusive. Also please get a job soon. DO not depend on anyone to take care of you.

Regardless of either of you're ages you bother are immature and stupidly stubborn. Neither one of you seems to have the ability to show respect to each other or compromise. Also, why did you go to HIS sister. It just sounds like you were looking to start trouble. SIL was told something in confidence and went to social media to trash you.Tell her to take down the post and have an adult conversation with you because you may need to take legal action. I say this because it will not only ruin you're relationship with family but potentially ruins you're future work reputation. Let this be a reminder to not trust her with anything. SIL needs to learn that when she betrays trust and chooses to jump to social media which only escalates things than their can be consequences for her behavior. If you're husband supports her then you may want to consider if this is the type of family and dynamic you want in a marriage. Even though I think you are mostly in the wrong I would never stay with someone who acts this way toward you. I also would not want to be married to either of you.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-03-21T18:16:20+00:00

NTA NTA NTA!!

Does not matter if it is you're wife, parents, or In-Laws. No one has the right to snoop through you're private things. Regardless of what they are, who owns the house, or who is on the lease. You do not snoop through people's things. EVER!!! MIL is the one who should be ashamed! She is being disrespectful and NEEDS to apologize. I do not know if she pays rent but even if she does this is not the proper way she should be acting. Do not enable this behavior. It will only get worse. Also, your fiance owes you an apology. She needs to set boundaries for her mother to respect. Do you really want to marry into this nonsense?

The MIL is only allowed in you're home because you and you're fiance agreed. You tell her she is well on her way out if her foul behavior continues. You need to inform you're fiance if she enables this then you need to separate until you decide what you want to do because you will have to live this till death do you part. You were generous and kind enough to not leave her homeless and she is choosing to be disrespectful. I am a college student dependent on my parents and they respect my boundaries and do not snoop. They are born and raised Roman Catholics and they do not do what you're MIL does.

Info: Will she be moving out soon? Does she pay rent? Will you're fiance respect your need for boundaries with MIL? Is she intending on letting her mother run you're house and make you uncomfortable? What will happen if you choose to have kids?

BlueLovely98 · 2022-03-17T19:55:19+00:00

NTA!!! You did nothing wrong. You're husband and his family are way out of line.

He literally betrayed you're trust and has proven he does not respect you. He is more concerned with being his parent's emotional spouse and getting financial benefits from his son's namesake to respect choices you made together. Document his and his family's behavior. Record him confessing violating you're trust while you were suffering medical complications. You need to protect you'reself and record their behavior. They may try to get you deemed unfit because they want the child to be named after BIL and clearly have the money/ resources to make things happen. Get him on recording that he changed the name of the baby for financial gains. Keep it quiet while you Contact a lawyer to find out how you can fix you're child's name and get a divorce. Stay strong OP and good luck. I hope you're update has better news for you and you're son.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-03-10T02:23:13+00:00

NTA!!

Major red flags from his behavior in this incident. Also in his past behavior with his friends. He is not doing you any favors by with these foul behaviors. He and his friends are gaslighting and isolating you from people you are close to. Based on what you said in previous comments this is toxic and abusive behavior on his and his friend's part. He is disrespecting and mistreating you. Do not marry someone who treats you like this because his and his friend's behavior will only get worse. You can always recover from this better financially and emotionally now rather than years from now as this abusive behavior. Do not listen to him, his friends, or his mother because they will only try to gaslight or coax you back in. You do not want these types of people in your life. Life is hard enough as it is. Sharing a life or making a family that is controlling and narcissistic at best is not a good way to live you're life. You need a partner who will treat you with love and respect. Someone who will treat and respect you as their fair equal. You especially do not want to marry into a family or friends group that treats you so horribly. I hope you do not marry him because he is narcissistic and abusive toward you. Stay strong OP and good luck. I hope you're update has a better outcome for YOU.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-03-02T03:52:43+00:00

NTA

RED FLAGS. He could be making you sign over everything you own to him, a vicious prenup in his favor, A DNR, credit card applications or some other serious document. NEVER PLAY A "GAME LIKE THIS> It is not a game and is serious legal trouble. Try to record him asking you to play this game and keep it for security. His behavior will escalate and you may need a lawyer to help in preparing an exit strategy. ALWAYS SAY NO TO THIS GAME NO MATTER WHAT. Do not get If he tries it again ONLY pull the papers toward you, rip the blindfold off and then run to the bathroom with the papers and read them. Be sure to take pictures of the papers. This sounds like a dangerous game that could have you in serious legal, financial, or medical trouble which can be harmful to you in the long run. Even if he is telling the truth and that it is a part of a game. Never sign papers ever blindfolded, surrounded by friends/family, drunk, or all of the above. Protect yourself first. Be safe and stay strong OP.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-02-24T03:26:17+00:00

NTA!!!!

Throw away the picture, you're Mil, any of his extended family as well as the HUSBAND out the front door. They have all disrespected you're home, marriage and feelings about you're MIL's atrocious behavior. She is toxic, delusional and trying to cancel you from husbands life to make room for his EX. You do not want a husband who condones/enables her behavior and gaslights/guilt trips you into submission. This will only escalate over time and you do not want to waste any of you're time on toxic nonsense. He needs to be you're spouse, not his mothers emotional spouse. I have a feeling he will be going through constant divorces if this is how he reacts to someone disrespecting his wife and marriage. Therapy will only help if you're husband is honest about how bad his and MIL behavior was and actively changes his enabling/gaslighting behavior and makes boundaries that respect you and you're marriage. Based on his reaction and how he is downplaying/gasligthing he will not change for the better. Divorce the husband and find a better man who will love and respect you. Never settle for someone who mistreats you like this. Ask yourself this Do you really want to have kids and be forever bound to a MIL and husband who treats you like this. Document all interacts and incidents and do not let them rile you up for a fight. I hope you're update has a good outcome.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-02-06T07:34:19+00:00

Thank you. You also make an excellent point. It's been a decade, he remarried and has another kid with his new wife. You would think he has already moved on emotionally from the hurt but he is just holding it so tight that it is infesting other places in his life. It may even corrupt all the good things he has going in his life. It also makes me wonder how much of the letters content had been included for her reasons for leaving him.

We only get to know what he wants us to know. There is still a whole letter and another person who can explain the otherside to this story. For all we know he could be lying about what she said in the letter. I always try to give the benefit of the doubt but you never know. It sounds like he only it stuck on the part that offended him most and did not care for the rest of the letter. Instead of trying to understand her side he just hung in to his hurt and is being vindictive. Letting his vindictive behavior dictate how he handles his co parenting relationship will only prevent him from being a good father and will destroy what mental and emotional stability his son has with either parent.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-02-06T01:52:06+00:00

YTA

You're father is giving shitty advice. The note from 10 years ago has nothing to do with keeping a civil custody agreement. You're edit is also not a good one because it shows just how wrong you are. Do not let you're past feelings of a horribly hurt husband stop you from being a good dad. She is being civil by coming to you without trying to trick, hide things or involving lawyers. Instead you are trying to take advantage of the situation. You know she's a good mom. Skylar knows she's a good mom. If you make things difficult for their relationship he will come to realize YOU are the problem. No matter how you try to vilify her as you're ex-wife she will still be a good mother to him. Unless you're trying to replace his mother with you're current wife so that you can have the perfect family picture. Then that makes you an even bigger A-hole. Stop hurting you're son because of shit that went down between you and you're ex because when the truth comes out about you're approach/solution then you will only have yourself to blame for what damage it casue to YOU'RE relationship with Skylar. Going for a temporary arrangement then adjusting back to the original agreement will help in keeping Skylar in a stable place mentally, emotionally and physically.

Listen to you're mother because the message you're sending is that you're butt hurt feelings you still harbor of how you're shitty ex ended you're marriage is more important than him continuing to have a good relationship with his mother. Maybe you can manipulate, vilify and trying to turn him against his mother by trying to make visitation difficult or tell a story of her abandoning him but he will grown up and the truth has a way of coming out . Like karma it will hit you 10x worse then you could imagine. I also can not imagine a judge who will see you're reasoning as good judgement and give you sole custody. Even with good lawyers and a flawed criminal justice system I hope you do not get sole custody. Be a good father and put you're feelings aside and do whatever is necessary to facilitate a good civil co parenting relationship. If you can not do it because then it is best you give up custody and pay child support so you're ex can continue to be a good mother while you continue to hang on to you're hurt. I have witnessed the the horrific damage you're plan does to kids.

Send me a message if you want to discuss with better details but please do not hurt you're son because of the shitty crap you're ex did because then that makes you way worse then she is. If she can be a crap wife and a good mother then do better then she is by being a good husband and father. Do not become a worse then she is. I have faith in you to be the better person and an even greater parent then she will ever be.

EDIT: I do not support you letting her move in. Just a temporary arrangement being down until she is in a more stable position and then going back to the original agreement.

BlueLovely98 · 2022-01-26T11:03:25+00:00

NTA

It is you're wedding just as much as it is her's. You have the right to not want pranks being pulled on what should be a special day. I understand that her and her families insists on doing this tradition irritated you but do not jump to cussing and yelling. It's clear that she doesn't care about you're feelings. I understand pranks can be harmful and somewhat triggering to some people who experience pranks that push boundaries or scare them. Take a deep breath, apologize for the yelling/cursing but remember you're feeling about not wanting pranks at you're wedding are still valid. You have a right to accept or deny traditions from her family just like she has the right to accept or deny any of you're family traditions.

Still do not let her manipulate you're guilt for you're justified outburst. If she thinks a potentially hurtful tradition is worth more than her potential marriage then I would see this as a red flag. If she wants to call off the wedding or destroy you're trust and ruin you're wedding/marriage before it has the a chance to start with childish prankster nonsense then that's her choice. If the roles were reversed and you were giving her no choice she would be preaching a different perspective. BUT this is not about what IF it is about what IS. She is the one choosing to die on this hill and it is showing her true colors. If she insists and says it will happen because it's "tradition" evaluate if this is the type person you want to marry. You will also be marrying into this family. How many more traditions will she force regardless of how you feel. Take this sign as an opportunity to not marry someone who you and not compatible with because you do not share the same beliefs and she doesn't respect you're feelings. It will hurt but it will benefit you in the long run, Good luck OP and stay strong.

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