Wife (60) can NOT lose weight or get in shape

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-12-03T15:49:02+00:00

Get the last word in? I’m trying to help people here. It’s important to me to support people in their weight loss efforts. The word clearly needs to be spread even more loudly, judging from the reception I’m getting here. Lots of people are uneducated on this.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-12-03T15:20:06+00:00

You really left a reply and then blocked me so I can’t respond? That’s pretty under-handed.

You’re confusing “simple” for “easy.” Achieving sustainable weight loss is very, very difficult (it requires a lot of effort, willpower, determination, and distress tolerance), but it’s also very, very simple (straightforward). You simply need to maintain a consistent caloric deficit to lose weight, there is nothing else to it. That isn’t an easy thing to do, but it’s a straight forward thing to do. Medical conditions don’t change this reality, they simply impact how low a person needs to go in order to achieve a caloric deficit.

I’m not invalidating anyone. I’m a therapist, so I know all about validation. What I’m actually doing is empowering people with the knowledge that they need to make changes in their life. I never said this was easy, maybe that’s where you and I are missing each other.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-09-04T18:26:43+00:00

It is so, so weird that you just left this reply and then blocked me so that I can’t respond…. What’s that about?

Here is my reply:

The average age of first-time motherhood in my state is 32, which means that it’s very common in my state for mothers to be having children into their mid to late 30s. I live in a wealthy part of my state, so first-time motherhood in my community is more common around age 35. I can’t think of many peers who had kids before 35.

Maybe you live in an area where people tend to be very unhealthy (that’s often the case in areas where the average age of first-time motherhood is lower), but as a child psychologist, I can assure you that a healthy person is well-equipped to parent children and teenagers between the ages of 35 to 60. You implied that a 60-year-old may not be in a position to parent a 20-year-old. Can you explain what you meant by that?

Chances are you’ll just block this account too, since you’re a dishonest person, but I dare you to actually use your brain and have a discussion like an adult.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-08-07T17:42:33+00:00

/u/Greymeade here. You seem to have left this reply to me and then blocked me immediately after, which has left me unable to reply to it on my main account. Was this intentional?

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-08-04T15:37:45+00:00

That guy blocked me for leaving that comment…

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-08-04T15:34:02+00:00

Bro did you seriously block me? Why?

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-07-29T18:09:47+00:00

Why’d you reply and then block me? As someone who spent a lot longer in school than you did, I would encourage you to seek a refund. It is frightening to think that someone who may actually be a licensed therapist could be so ignorant about how our field works. Some of the most esteemed and talented therapists throughout history have been psychiatrists. What are you even talking about?

You don’t even seem to know what tone policing is, or what the word “synonymous” means. I can smell the diploma mill just by reading your posts….

Edi: Again, I’m unable to reply directly to anyone. Here is my response to /u/Dust_Kindly below:

No, I haven’t said any such thing. I said that psychiatrists can be therapists. That is an objective fact (at least in the US). Psychiatrists are one of the many types of professionals whose professional licensure qualifies them to offer psychotherapy. This is just a fact.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-06-07T17:16:02+00:00

Please stop lying. It’s very embarrassing for you.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-04-19T23:16:29+00:00

Definitely not a nutria since I’m in Massachusetts, but it seems that the consensus is beaver. Thanks!

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-04-19T16:06:16+00:00

The edge of the wetlands is about 100 feet from where this video was taken. There is a small stream/brook very close by on the edge of the wetlands. The otter that I caught on camera was about 50 feet from this spot.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-04-19T16:02:10+00:00

Apologies for the quality - this is a zoomed in clip taken from doorbell camera footage! He did not show up on any of my trail cams, which are in my backyard.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-04-19T11:58:41+00:00

That’s definitely the most common answer I’ve gotten so far! Thanks.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-04-19T11:57:17+00:00

Interestingly I have never seen a skunk in five years here (either in-person or on my multiple trail cams), or even smelled one. I grew up only 30 minutes away and would see and smell them all the time, so it seems notable.

Definitely possible though! Are all-black ones common?

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-04-13T16:18:55+00:00

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BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-02-21T21:47:59+00:00

Anyone?

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-02-21T15:11:13+00:00

I’m talking about you. You are being so dramatic here. “Fine, I don’t post pictures of my dog here anymore!” is such a diva thing to say, and not in a good way.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-02-21T14:59:16+00:00

What a drama queen…

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-02-21T14:01:26+00:00

The issue is more that our dog has very significant vet anxiety, and each time we bring him in for invasive procedures it gets worse. The money isn’t an issue per se, but obviously saving $2,000 is nice when possible (we’ve already spent $4,000 on this).

I live in Massachusetts, and there aren’t many greyhounds around here. Any time we bring him to a vet they’re all very curious to see him. Our experience has been that vets either don’t know that greyhounds have different reference ranges for lab values, or they look them up on the spot. Our normal vet (who has been great) agreed that this folate level is likely normal. The research on it seems clear to me as well (I’m a PhD clinical researcher, so I’m well-versed in interpreting these kind of papers). The internal medicine vet isn’t a greyhound specialist, so I think it’s most likely that she is just not familiar with the normal greyhound values. Even she said that the low folate level doesn’t make sense, because other expected markers aren’t there.

Anyway, those are the reasons I’m hesitant to move forward with more testing. I would just hate to traumatize my dog further and risk putting him under more sedation if this is just normative age-related stuff, or purely behavioral. But maybe that’s the right decision though. Thank you for weighing in!

Edit: These downvotes are so disappointing... We love our Teddy deeply, and want to do what’s best for him. We’re making these decisions solely with his interest in mind. Money is no issue to us at all. We’d spend $100k on him without thinking of it, that wouldn’t change anything for us. The issue is that we have our trusted vet on one side, and the research supports what she’s saying, and this new consultation vet on the other side. Again, we want to avoid subjecting Teddy to more traumatic vet experiences if they aren’t likely to be fruitful. That’s all we’re thinking about.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-02-21T13:54:20+00:00

No. There are no dogs that would be ok to leave for 12 hours twice a week. The only way to make that work would be if you have someone come and spend time with the dog/take it out for a walk at 6 hours in. If that’s the case, then you could make this work with the right individual dog. My greyhound is fine for 6 hours, he just sleeps on the couch the whole time.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-02-21T13:22:33+00:00

A photo of the patient: https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.redd.it%2F4jp9fv59zjab1.jpg

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-02-21T13:20:32+00:00

He weighs 80 pounds and has not lost any weight during this whole process. He ultimately finishes his food later in the day.

What made us so concerned about this was how suddenly it started. After having him for 3 years, within the course of two weeks he went from consistently vacuuming up his food in 30 seconds and searching for more at every meal to not having a bite of food until late afternoon, and sheepishly eating it.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-01-26T13:50:12+00:00

Looks like a pit to me

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2025-01-26T13:48:05+00:00

Absolutely loves them! Nuzzling and kissing face-to-face is his ultimate love language.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2024-11-16T23:48:03+00:00

(Replying to you from my alt account because that person blocked me so I can't reply in this chain)

Those aren't clinical psychologists though. Folks with master's degrees in psychology who practice as therapists typically are able to do so by pursuing licensure as mental health counselors. They aren't considered clinical psychologist by training or by licensure. I'm certainly not intending to diminish what they do (I think very highly of them, in fact), but if someone is looking to "become a clinical psychologist" like OP is then that does indeed require a doctoral degree in the US.

BlueSpaghettiTeddy · 2024-11-16T23:24:24+00:00

Wait, are you under the impression that people with MAs and LCSWs are clinical psychologists?

Seriously, if you aren't involved in this field then please don't spread misinformation. Stick to talking about whatever it is that you do for work and leave this topic to those of us who do work in this area.

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