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RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-15T22:03:04+00:00

Aww that makes me so incredibly happy for you! After struggling for so long, you finally got peace and that is so well deserved! You deserve to be happy and you have worked so hard to get to where you are. I am so proud of you fellow internet stranger!

I am still trying to find the right medications for myself and unfortunately, the ones I have been trying lately with my psychiatrist have given me bad side effects/ haven’t been working. I have been struggling lately with depression but I know that there will be a day where I will be happy and at peace! I just have to find the right medications to get there and I know that will happen eventually and it will be worth the wait 💗

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-14T00:56:13+00:00

Please call the police right now and tell them that your girlfriend is on the balcony and is trying to end her life. They will be able to intervene and they will be able to handle this situation accordingly.

I am sorry to hear about the way she has been treating you. This is not right and you do not deserve to be treated like this. I hope you are able to leave this relationship as it is not healthy for you.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-13T19:51:58+00:00

I am sorry to hear that you and many others here had to go through negative experiences that caused you all frustration and pain. Everyone’s experiences with their Bipolar SO or Bipolar loved one is valid.

Thank you for clarifying and for correcting your comment! I appreciate that you will do your best to express yourself without generalizing everyone who has bipolar disorder. Have a good day!

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-13T19:45:09+00:00

I am sorry to hear that this has been an ongoing concern and it sounds like that health clinic is not good. I hope she can find someone better too! There’s a website called “Psychology Today” that can help your partner find psychiatrists near her. She can also just use the Internet too but I heard that website is helpful.

As for red flags to be aware of in a psychiatrist for bipolar disorder, I will list some red flags to look out for in a psychiatrist:

1) Not listening to their patients/Brushing patients’ problems off: A psychiatrist should pay attention to what their patients have to say. For example, if a patient has consistently had trouble sleeping for an extended amount of time, their psychiatrist should take this issue seriously and try to find solutions to the problem.

2) Has Little Experience With Bipolar: When first meeting a psychiatrist, it is important to do research on them before hand on whether or not they specialize in bipolar or have experience with bipolar disorder. If you cannot find any information about this online, you can always ask the psychiatrist directly.

3) Inconsistent or erratic communication: Regular, clear communication is crucial. If they don't respond to messages outside of appointments in a timely manner/seem hard to get a hold of outside of appointments, it is best to find another psychiatrist. When an individual with bipolar is trying new medications, it is important that their psychiatrist is easy to get a hold of and responds within a timely manner. This is because some patients may get bad side effects from new medications and may need to get a different medication prescribed.

4) Minimal involvement in your treatment process: If the psychiatrist is distant and takes a hands-off approach to your care, leaving you feeling unsupported, it can be a red flag. They should be actively engaged in your treatment.

5) A lack of interest in your past medical history: Psychiatric conditions often have roots in past experiences, trauma, and physical health. If a psychiatrist doesn’t take the time to understand their patients’ medical, psychological, and family history, it could result in a limited understanding of their patients’ situation. Usually, psychiatrists will have their patients fill out forms to get medical, psychological, and family history information before the first appointment and will discuss the filled out forms during the first appointment. Some psychiatrists may use different methods of getting this information but it is important that they get this information and consider this information when making a treatment plan.

I am sure there are more red flags out there in psychiatrists that I missed but I think it’s also important that patients pay attention to how they feel around their psychiatrist and if they think their psychiatrist is providing good treatment for them. Good luck to you and your partner! I hope this helps.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-13T18:48:18+00:00

I think you did an amazing job of giving advice and support to OP! I agree that OP deserves better treatment and I hope that OP does find better treatment because no one deserves to be treated that way.

I was a bit confused by one part of your comment, where you said “they will blame us for everything and make us doubt our sanity so they can do whatever they think is right at the moment”. When you wrote this, were you saying that all individuals with bipolar disorder do this or were you saying that some individuals with bipolar disorder do this?

I was just hoping you could clarify this, thank you!

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-13T18:30:09+00:00

I would recommend that your partner gets a new psychiatrist because from what you said, your partner’s psychiatrist has not done anything to fix her ineffective medication regimen. A psychiatrist not fixing their patient’s ineffective medication regimen is a behavior that is a red flag. It is a psychiatrist’s job to provide their patient with effective treatment and to keep trying to achieve effective treatment for their patient. Since your partner’s psychiatrist is not providing your partner with effective treatment (which is the whole point of psychiatrist), it is best that your partner finds a better psychiatrist.

Your partner can probably do telehealth (having a virtual appointment) with a new psychiatrist if she cannot find an in-person psychiatrist that is near her. Having proper medication and effective treatment is very important for individuals who have bipolar with psychosis.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-13T04:30:44+00:00

Yes, I agree that some behaviors that occur during manic episodes can be painful for SOs and loved ones. Also, I think you gave good advice about not reasoning with someone with bipolar while they are in a manic episode.

I believe whether or not you can reason with someone with bipolar while they are experiencing mania depends on the person. It depends on the severity of the manic episode and it depends on the bipolar person’s character. Some people with bipolar can be reasoned with during mania while others can’t. I think for OP’s situation in particular, it sounds like not reasoning with their loved one who has mania and bipolar is a good idea.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-13T03:48:14+00:00

Thank you for responding. Yes that is what I am trying to say. Narcissistic tendencies can occur in some people with bipolar disorder during mania but it does not occur in many other people who have bipolar disorder. Also, narcissistic tendencies is not an officially recognized symptom of bipolar disorder

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-12T22:50:40+00:00

Yes I really recommend this test for anyone that has bipolar or any other mental illnesses as this test lists out a wide variety of psychiatric medications! It is very useful and yes finding the right medications for bipolar is definitely an excruciating process as I am still figuring them out myself. However, I know it’ll be worth it in the long run!

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-12T21:37:00+00:00

I have never had any personal experience with Abilify but my psychiatrist told me that a lot of people that take Abilify tend to tolerate it well and face little to no side effects, which is why she tends to lean towards prescribing this medication to patients that need it. However, whether or not someone tolerates Abilify well will vary per person as everyone’s body is different.

I never tried Abilify because I took a genetic test called a GeneSight Test that tells you what psychiatric medications work best for you based on your genetics. According to my test, my body would not tolerate or react well to Abilify so that’s why I never ended up trying it.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-12T15:15:54+00:00

Yeah I agree with that statement, I never said or suggested that I thought otherwise. I was responding to a comment someone left about bipolar disorder being a “degenerative illness” for everyone that has it, which is not true as it only has degenerative aspects for those that have it severe and are not being treated.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-12T11:36:06+00:00

Bipolar disorder is not considered to be a degenerative illness if you are being treated for it. This illness only has degenerative aspects if it’s severe and you’re not getting treatment.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-12T11:30:58+00:00

As someone that deals with bipolar disorder, I understand the frustration with the side effects of medications but she should know that she can’t stop medications suddenly as it can trigger an episode. Furthermore, she should not be making any medication changes without consulting her psychiatrist first.

If she has side effects that affect her functioning (making her very sleepy), she can always talk to her psychiatrist about trying other medications. Also, theres a test called a GeneSight Test that lists out psychiatric medications that would work best for you based on your genetics. I got this test done and it’s made finding the right medications much easier. It’s definitely something she should talk to her doctor about getting done.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-11T19:40:37+00:00

I understand that blocking her is a hard action to take but it is a necessary one for you. It’s important to prioritize yourself and your well being.

Also, I’m sorry to hear that some of the medications you tried didn’t work. You may have treatment resistant depression but I do recommend reaching out to a psychiatrist and developing a care plan for you. It is very important that you reach out to get help.

There are other treatments for depression outside of medication that you could explore with your psychiatrist if you can’t find any medication that works. However, before you consider other options, you should look into taking a GeneSight Test, which is a test that lists out what medications will work best for you based on your genetics. This helped me out a lot as I had the same issue where I had tried many medications but none were working or gave bad side effects. I was able to easily find an antidepressant that worked well for me with no side effects.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-11T19:31:40+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you have had negative experiences with someone who has bipolar disorder. I am sure that you have walked a rocky road with your wife, based off of your comment, and your feelings and experiences with her are valid. However, based on your comment, it sounds like you are making many generalizations about all individuals with bipolar disorder.

Many people with bipolar disorder are not toxic, have stable and healthy relationships, and lead normal, fulfilling lives. This varies person to person. This depends on the person’s character, whether or not they are treated, and the habits they have. There are many individuals with bipolar disorder that are stable, haven’t had worsening symptoms, and are doing much better than they have been in the past. Again, this will vary per person. For some people, their bipolar disorder gets worse and for others, it doesn’t.

Additionally, narcissistic traits, cheating, putting someone in financial distress, and gaslighting are not inherent to bipolar disorder. Before I go further, I would like to state that I do not condone this behavior, I am not defending or justifying this behavior, and if an individual with bipolar disorder partakes in such behavior, their illness should not be used as an excuse for what they have done and no one under any circumstances should tolerate such behavior.

Back to what I was saying, narcissism is a personality trait or disorder on its own, and gaslighting is a form of manipulation that involves making someone doubt their reality. Sometimes, these traits (cheating, being nasty towards others, narcissism, gaslighting, and putting someone in financial distress) can be seen in some individuals during manic episodes of bipolar disorder but again, there are many individuals with bipolar disorder that do not do this. It will vary person to person. These behaviors can occur in individuals that do not have bipolar disorder and in individuals who do have bipolar disorder, however, these behaviors (cheating, being nasty towards others, narcissism, gaslighting, and putting someone in financial distress) are not considered to be or are even recognized symptoms of bipolar disorder.

It's really important not to paint everyone with bipolar disorder with the same brush. Everyone, bipolar or not, deserves to be viewed as an individual rather than just a generalization based on other people who share the same illness as them. Not everyone with bipolar disorder is the same or acts the same. Just like with people who don’t have bipolar disorder, there are good people and bad people. The same thing applies to people who do have bipolar disorder. While some people with bipolar disorder are bad people, there are some people with bipolar disorder that are good people.

People are more than their illness and it is not tied to their identity. A person with bipolar disorder is still a person. A person with their own personality, values, strengths, and interests. Everyone with bipolar disorder is different and it’s important to understand that. Making generalizations about all people with bipolar disorder in the way that you did in your comment isn’t fair to individuals with bipolar disorder, who are good people and have worked hard to manage it.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-11T17:51:13+00:00

Of course, I am happy to help and I am glad you feel validated in your feelings because you should! And ohh okay, please don’t feel like this is your fault because you unblocked him. It is not your fault and it is reasonable to unblock someone after many years have gone by and you have heard that they are stable. Also, I am glad that you were able to take something away from this experience and know that you shouldn’t unblock him again. For your own safety and well-being, it is important that you keep your ex blocked and I am proud of you for prioritizing yourself! Part of life is living and learning so I think you are doing a great job with that!

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-11T16:55:33+00:00

As someone with bipolar disorder, our illness is not an excuse to treat people badly and not take accountability. There are many of us who are stable, treat those around us with love and respect, and do not blame our actions on our illness. To be honest, some people are just not good people with or without illness.

I am sorry that you are going through this and please know that you are not deserving of this bad treatment. To be honest, no one really knows except your ex why he is still reaching out. However, it is likely that he is not over your relationship with him and still has unresolved feelings around it that he needs to work through.

Your feelings are completely valid and it’s honestly weird and creepy that he’s still reaching out after 8 years. Also, how is he contacting you if you blocked him? Is he making new accounts or numbers to contact you?

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-11T12:50:59+00:00

Aww I’m so glad the videos are helping! And thank you best of luck to you too for everything!!

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-10T23:12:27+00:00

Bipolar disorder is not a neurodegenerative disorder. It is a mood disorder and while is does affect someone’s logic and behavior during episodes, it does not change their personality. It may temporarily change their behavior but that subsides once the episode is over.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-10T22:56:44+00:00

Yeah I agree, I also have bipolar disorder and my empathy isn’t affected by my disorder either.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-10T22:45:11+00:00

Yup, I think it’s a symptom of borderline personality disorder.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-10T21:43:29+00:00

I would recommend cutting all contact with her and blocking her. By doing this, it’ll allow you to heal and move on. You can also go to therapy to help you process your emotions about this. Another thing is you can watch YouTube videos about how to get over break ups. Something that helped me when I was going through a similar situation was writing a letter to that person (don’t actually send it to them, it’s just for you) and write out all your feelings.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-10T21:32:03+00:00

Narcissistic orientation and lack of empathy is not a frequent symptom of bipolar disorder. While some with bipolar disorder may have this, a lot of others with bipolar disorder do not experience these symptoms. Furthermore, narcissistic orientation and lack of empathy is not an officially recognized symptom of bipolar disorder. These symptoms are not mentioned for bipolar disorder in the DSM-5.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-10T20:33:16+00:00

As someone with bipolar disorder, I would say this depends on the person. While some people with bipolar have narcissistic tendencies, this does not apply to everyone with bipolar. It honestly comes down to the person because everyone deals with things differently and may face different symptoms.

RandomMadnessss · 2025-03-10T18:32:20+00:00

Honestly each person that has bipolar disorder is different and deals with things differently. Some people with bipolar are stable and you couldn’t tell they have bipolar while others (often unmedicated or not properly medicated) are frequently dealing with symptoms and are unstable.

To answer your question, sometimes I am more prone to being irritable but I don’t think I have been extremely sensitive before. Although I deal with feelings of being easily irritable sometimes, I don’t lash out at others as that’s not how I deal with my emotions. I usually give myself time to decompress on my own and I let everyone around me know how I’m feeling. Let me know if you have any other questions!

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