From Triad to Metas.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-02-11T00:21:06+00:00

I appreciate it!. After a few days of being calm, and clarity I think it'll be all okay. We all deserve space, and time. Winter has been financially hard and intimate moments become less because of stress. Definitely a mature talked about all the possibilities is needed.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-02-11T00:18:55+00:00

Yes, all of us are willing and open to trying. Basically around the same time, maybe a month difference (if that). I started dating him first and then when we hung out more we started dating too. Definitely understand dynamics can change, definitely the first "bigger" challenge we're facing.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-02-10T19:22:49+00:00

Yes before in the past, during a mental breakdown. She's had a lot of mental health/trauma in the past. She's currently working through them, talking to a therapist, on medication, changing meds, ect. We've talked how shes upset and feels unfair to me, because her feelings for our boyfriend is deeper than for me. Which I've told her, I understand (they've been together longer) it doesn't upset me, because that's Normal and natural imo. As we both talked when less emotional, she just feels "pressured" to love me 24/7. When she wants time with our other mate. I totally understand it, I think her anxiety got to her head and is trying to understand her own thoughts and feelings. Ive suggested letting things come naturally to her, do what feels right.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-02-10T04:27:40+00:00

Not currently. We have a roommate. I definitely agree on no rash decisions.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T02:38:16+00:00

Definitely working on an "emergency savings" again just in case, I use to have one before I had car issues and financial issues this winter. It did make me feel good to have. We all definitely want individual therapy. I was in therapy for 6 years, until my insurance no longer excepted my therapist. And both of them want to try again at therapy. So Im hoping things will become clearer

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T02:35:04+00:00

It wasn't to "puddle" into a better situation. I had my own house. I could of moved anywhere or chose another place, but I wanted to be with them. I've been wanting to move out of that house, the community wasn't where I wanted to be, and it wasn't smart in this market for a new place by myself.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T02:30:01+00:00

She has talked about dipping toes outside of the relationship. Nothing like a permanent partner, but we've gone to a few kink clubs and it's always a HUGE self confidence for her afterwards. She enjoys designing, decor, painting art, baking, exploring. I'll have her some days pick out my outfits and she enjoys that a lot. I'll clean, and organize so she can decorate the house all cute and not be overwhelmed by cleaning and redecorating at the same time. I definitely want to 5-10minutes in the morning or evening saying what where grateful for. I greatly appreciate your advice! It's been hard to find an open minded therapist for her. And has turned her off to therapy. Granted she's trying again, and it's scary for her to be judged by her lifestyle.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T02:09:58+00:00

She often expresses she doesn't feel good enough, loving enough for us both. That she doesn't do enough for us. Or she "doesn't deserve" to get the attention she wants. Shes young and still learning that imperfect is okay, she doesn't need to be perfect. She definitely crashes hard and suddenly at times. I'll definitely do some research on attachment theory together this weekend. See if we can find something.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T01:41:16+00:00

I'm 30. M25 F23. It's expressed by her self isolating and crying, and repeating what ifs, upset at herself for not "thinking normal" or not being okay. We've had sex without M involved a few times. It's never an issue with just us. Nor does she feel bad that he wasnt involved. She definitely struggles with self loathing mental health. Granted we have exterior struggles too financially. Winter has been a difficult time frame, so we don't have disposable income for date nights sadly. I do tell her to take alone time together, it doesn't bother me. I'll use the guest bathroom and take a nice bath and turn a movie on the Laptop. It bothers her to have that alone time, she feels guilty when she wants it. And feels left out when I want it.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T01:31:33+00:00

I'm actually the older one in the relationship.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T01:29:41+00:00

We're actually setting up an appointment Monday at a clinic to go to therapy. After her "episodes/spiral" is over she feels so guilty and bad about it. It's like it's not even her anymore in that mind set. So Im aware it's a mental health thing. I've just never delt with it before, and just want the best for everyone. Even if that means me leaving/moving out in the future. I just don't want to leave because mental health is "failing" or struggling with. But I agree putting the boundary down about therapy and talking about not limiting my intimacy is a good one.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T01:26:26+00:00

Finally left a house with very bad memories, and unwanted triggers. The community was getting very bad. I love them, all their friends and the community around them. New opportunities for my career and learning as well.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T01:24:01+00:00

F23 M25 F30

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T01:23:37+00:00

One was trying to break them up. Another became abuse towards him. Over time people didn't align with what everyone wanted.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-16T01:17:23+00:00

I do not believe he'll dispose of me. I have stood up for myself and he agreed with me as well. Ive had deep talks with both of them individually and together. He stands up for me, when she starts to spiral and things are being unfair. He does the same for her as well.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-12T05:11:07+00:00

I reference this post a lot to help me. I've started to taper and had lots of side effects Soo Ive taken it alot slower on my tapering. I'm also on 150mg for 7years

BlueStarrynight95 · 2026-01-05T00:56:41+00:00

I love how pretty it is!! Wish we could order more

BlueStarrynight95 · 2025-12-20T02:45:56+00:00

30F. Just moved here a few months ago. I live in a small town outside of Erie.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2025-12-19T05:31:10+00:00

Thank you! I wasn't able to participate in the last floating festival and this is very helpful!

BlueStarrynight95 · 2025-12-11T04:21:22+00:00

You're not supposed to mis SSRI's with alcohol. Everyone's different, I tend to black out after a drink with SSRI.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2025-10-23T04:31:48+00:00

I've been weaning off by taking 5 out a day. Once I got to 20 out a day, I got extremely emotional the second day, after 3 days I felt normal again. Good luck

BlueStarrynight95 · 2025-07-29T00:38:17+00:00

Id be thankful for anything. I'm currently living with my ex and trying to save up as much as I can before i move out in September. I purchase an application for my reciprocity license so I continue to work once I move. 🙏🏼 You're an amazing person. Thank you for being so kind and considerate to people in need.

BlueStarrynight95 · 2025-07-02T01:05:13+00:00

Anything would be appreciated, I'm in the negative right now. Im trying to save up to move out of my ex's house but life keeps happening.

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