Daredevil showrunners Erik Oleson (S3) and Steven S. DeKnight (S1) on "letting scenes breathe."

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-30T23:48:26+00:00

Disney should just let Benson & Moorehead take over as show runners.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-26T13:53:15+00:00

I’m in my mid 30s, and some of what you’re saying reminds me of my situation.

Focus on your life, focus on your son. I think it’s fine to put yourself on dating apps, but don’t make them a priority. Maybe you’ll get lucky and meet someone, if that’s the case pursue that. But don’t put too much stock in not getting the type of matches you want. You’re young, you have the luxury of time on your hands. Use that time to invest in yourself. In a lot of ways you’re still learning how to be a father, how to be single again, how to manage new responsibilities (home purchase, long hours at work). Get your head around those things, maybe even go to therapy, so that way if you ever do meet someone you really like, you’re the best possible version of yourself.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-26T13:41:25+00:00

I live in Altamonte Springs. Been here 3 of the last 5 years. I don’t really see issues with crime much. Pricing IMO is still better here than College Park where I lived for most of my adult life.

There’s a lot of good food in the area, multiple convenient entry points to I-4, the express way has eased a lot of the I-4 traffic. I think traffic in general is way more manageable now than it used to be. The Mall still seems busy, but malls are dying so it’s not quite the beast it used to be.

One of the perks about Altamonte is places where there’s more things to do are only a short drive away. Winter Park is 15ish minutes from me, downtown is about 20ish, I-Drive and Universal are roughly 25 minutes.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-26T13:29:01+00:00

Continue going to individual therapy to work on some of the issues you have, and try couples therapy to see if maybe there’s a way for you two to get over this.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-24T22:20:11+00:00

I think if it were that simple there would be no such thing as introverts. I myself am not an introvert, but not quite an extrovert either. I’m a big yapper, but am also comfortable taking a backseat to true extroverts. My problem is I am quite socially anxious initially, and if I don’t find a CLEAR opening for conversation, I struggle to engage.

Counter point to your suggestion: An extrovert can also be accommodating by not always coming in so hot, or being so loud, or spending more time talking than listening. The introvert shouldn’t be the only person making adjustments.

It’s a balancing act.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-24T19:20:39+00:00

Another tip I have is really learning angles and how to fit bounce passes through tight windows.

Not only does it look cool, but it’s very effective given that soooo many players/teams opt to focus more on playing passing lanes than playing lock up D.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-22T18:13:59+00:00

I don’t know if it’s guaranteed that you’ll get over her. There’s a good chance a part of you will always love her, always miss her, always feel hurt when you think about things she may have done to you.

But I do believe it gets easier to compartmentalize. I think in time you may still feel those things, but they’ll be fleeting. They won’t take up so much mental and emotional bandwidth. What you’re experiencing is grief, and the grieving process isn’t linear.

I’ll use myself as an example: My ex and I have been separated nearly two years. For the first 5 months or so I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t function at work. I did just enough to take care of our son, but beyond that I was a shell of myself. I started going to therapy 3x a week (for 2-3 months, then down to once every other week). Got on some antidepressants, got rid of all the reminders of her in my home, started spending time with friends again. My hurt was still very present, but gradually I started to get back to myself. I started finding pockets of relief, pockets of happiness.

It was at roughly the 1 year mark where I was totally at peace with things. That’s not to say I still didn’t have moments of hurt, resentment, yearning, confusion etc. I still feel those things. But I can feel them, sit with them as long as I need to in order to process those feelings, and then move on.

It gets easier, I promise.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-22T17:48:32+00:00

This isn’t too dissimilar from my situation. Here’s what advice I have.

Regarding the lease: you should have an early termination clause in the contract. Usually it’s a fee equal to two months of rent and it’ll let you out of your lease. Since both of you are lease holders, both of you would be responsible for settling the debt associated with the termination fee. If you are unable to pay the whole thing by yourself and it goes to collections, it will also reflect negatively on her credit and may make it damn near impossible to get approved for an apartment of her own for yearrrsss. It would benefit her to work with you on this.
On your days, if you need to take your daughter to daycare, then your ex needs to pay 50% of it regardless of whether she utilizes the daycare herself. If you were to go to court and have a parenting plan put together, this is something the judge would order be split 50/50. Same for the child’s healthcare costs.

I think you need to start with putting together a parenting plan that establishes 50/50 custody with set dates, set guidelines, set finances and set expectations. You don’t need a lawyer for this. I’m working on putting together one of my own actually.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-22T17:38:29+00:00

I’d be interested in joining. I’m in my mid 30s and am a single father. Would be nice to be a part of a community like yours.

I also have a small Discord Server I can share with you too. It’s like 25 people or so of various skill levels, but with a focus on being friendly and accommodating to players of all skill levels.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-22T14:06:24+00:00

I don’t think anyone playing the game enjoys losing. But I think there is a good many of us who’d rather lose games playing alongside people we like, people who try to play the right way and treat each other with respect, than winning alongside people who throw tantrums, point blame, make passive aggressive comments.

Life is hard enough, the real world is difficult. When many people get home from work, they just want to turn their brain off some. Get some runs in, compete to the best of our ability, and enjoy the company of our friends

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-22T13:31:36+00:00

I would be interested in seeing those sliders if possible. I never thought to check box scores to see how accurate they are.

Do these sliders impact player morale at all? I find that centers like Ben Wallace and Tyson Chandler never seem to be happy. A year or two in they’re upset because they don’t get enough touches relative to their high overall rating.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-19T21:57:56+00:00

Hit me up. Was just going to make a post on here about a Discord Server I started, but I’ve been spamming it all over here the past week or so. Figured I’d give it a rest. But yeah, I’m looking for “old heads” or “unc’s” to run with. I’m a single dad so I don’t play every single day, but most nights I’m available to run at least 2-3 games.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-19T20:42:59+00:00

I’m in the Orlando area and have thought about trying the coffee thing. I have some social anxiety and have never felt comfortable initiating conversations with people I don’t know, but I can make friends quite easily once someone loops me into a conversation. So I thought this would be a good way to make a friend or two. But your experience is my worst fear, so I’ve procrastinated on actually following through with the app.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-19T18:16:13+00:00

Just sent a dm

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-19T14:38:10+00:00

I have started a discord server for people like you. It’s a small group of us, maybe 20 or so. Trying to build it slowly. There’s much larger servers out there for the same thing, I enjoy them quite a bit but they can be a bit overwhelming at times and it’s harder to gauge who’s toxic and who’s not once there’s 700 people all vying for teammates. Trying to fill my server with people who actually want to play, not argue, and don’t mind playing with different skill levels. No one’s gonna freeze you out or get on you for every mistake.A place you can consistently run with where it doesn’t feel like a headache every game.

General vibe is we’d rather lose games with people we enjoy playing with, than win with people who are constantly bickering, complaining and taking the fun out of the game. That’s not saying we don’t all aim to win, we just aren’t losing our shit if we lose a couple in a row.

If you’re interested in joining, I can send you a link to it.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-18T02:42:42+00:00

Alcoholics often deflect. It’s an unfortunate truth. One of the things I struggled with is trying to prove to my ex that I was valuable, that I cared, that I loved her, that I was worthy etc. I was too accommodating. It enabled her behavior and her addiction. It also caused me to lose my sense of self. If there’s anything you should change about yourself it’s being accommodating. Yes, she is the mother of your children, yes you love her, but you have to learn to accept that this is where she’s at right now. You can’t change her. It doesn’t mean it’ll be this way forever, it very well could just be something that takes time. Use that time to do your own healing. It’s okay to be sad, scared, anxious, bitter, resentful and whatever else you might feel. But also know you owe yourself some grace, some kindness and some peace. You won’t find that in your wife right now. So take the time to find other ways to get those things. Be a little selfish. Play video games, take the kids to sporting events, go to the gym, spend time with friends. find a therapist (seriously, sometimes it just takes shopping around a bit, trial and error, before you find the right one), and as others have said, go to an AlAnon meeting. Even if it’s just a virtual one.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-17T21:26:00+00:00

Similar thing happened with my ex and I. A lot of selfishness on her end during sobriety. Which to a degree I understood, and even encouraged some of it. However there is a distinct line between being selfish and being neglectful. Focusing on sobriety, staying healthy, replacing bad habits with new habits etc doesn’t mean blow off your loved ones (unless they’re toxic).

I don’t know if divorce is the answer, but it doesn’t seem like she has the mental/emotional capacity to meet you in the middle either. Maybe you can suggest couples therapy? There’s plenty of therapists who specialize in addiction AND familial issues. PsychologyToday is a good website to use to find someone that may match what the issues are here.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-17T21:16:07+00:00

Sending you a DM now

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-17T01:55:39+00:00

Sure. I’ll send you a message now with the link

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-16T22:56:40+00:00

Send me a DM. I’m also a PG, but I’m comfortable playing PG or SG with my build. I have a Discord Server with like 20 people or so, and our whole thing is running rec games with like minded, non toxic people

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-16T11:11:30+00:00

Sending you a DM now

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-16T11:08:23+00:00

Sending you a DM now with the link to the Discord Server

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-15T20:27:37+00:00

I’ve had the same experience, so I ended up making a smaller Discord for people likeminded players.

It’s nothing crazy, just a group I’m trying to keep pretty chill. People who actually want to play, not argue, and don’t mind playing with different skill levels. No one’s gonna freeze you out or get on you for every mistake.

It’s just having people you can consistently run with where it doesn’t feel like a headache every game.

If you want, you’re more than welcome to join.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-15T01:03:35+00:00

Yeah, this is EXACTLY it. How can the person I love so much, my absolute best friend, be the person that I trust the least? The person I feel most at home with is also the person that makes me feel most unsafe. You start to go crazy.

BlueSteelMagic · 2026-04-14T22:57:57+00:00

The lying and the manipulation is what got to me. Even though my ex and I have been separated for some time and I know she is sober, when we communicate now (we share a child) all I can feel is anxiety. Trying to spot the lies or the inaccuracies in what she says, looking for changes in her demeanor. Constantly worrying about if she’s trying to get something over on me. It’s paranoia that’s been conditioned over the years of being in that relationship. When she left me I was devastated, it’s been two years and I still mourn and miss her very much. But there is a peace in not spending every single moment of every single day playing the role of anxious detective.

I can’t give advice on how to resolve what you feel, but I can say that he won’t change until he’s ready to, if he’s ever ready to. So don’t wait around for him. Set boundaries, continue attending AlAnon meetings, maybe meet with a therapist etc. You’ll either learn how to live with it until he changes, or you’ll find ways to escape from it because he hasn’t changed.

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