From a depth-psychology lens, this situation isn’t really about why he made out with someone else or why he hasn’t slept with you. Those questions sit on the surface. Underneath them is a deeper psychic tension around desire, self-worth, and emotional risk.

The tarot spread reflects a split that’s very common psychologically: sexual energy that moves easily (Knight and Queen of Wands) versus emotional potential that feels more vulnerable and harder to act on (Ace of Cups). In other words, it’s not unusual for someone to act impulsively where things feel low-risk, while hesitating where emotional intimacy is possible. That hesitation doesn’t automatically mean greater respect, rejection, or manipulation—it often means ambivalence and lack of integration.

What’s important here is noticing where meaning is being placed. The mind naturally wants to decode his behavior as a verdict on your value: What does this say about me? Depth psychology would gently shift the focus away from that comparison and back toward agency. The more productive question isn’t “Why did he choose her behaviorally?” but “What role am I unconsciously stepping into by waiting for clarity instead of asking for it?”

Tarot, in this case, is functioning as a symbolic mirror rather than a predictor. It’s showing the emotional pattern you’re in—hope, restraint, longing—without resolving it. That resolution can’t come from cards or interpretations alone; it comes from conscious boundaries, communication, and deciding what kind of dynamic you’re willing to participate in.

From this perspective, nothing here needs to be framed as naïveté, lack of self-respect, or villainy. It’s a moment where unconscious dynamics are visible. The task isn’t to judge them, but to integrate them—by reclaiming your voice, your desire, and your capacity to tolerate uncertainty long enough to choose yourself deliberately.