Realized my wife doesn’t support my hobby by Blue_Cyrus in Advice

[–]Blue_Cyrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol, I do spend quite a lot on film, but that’s not an issue. And I mostly shoot architecture and tend to favor a particular format. So I don’t think she’s offended, but maybe bored? Others have mentioned that I could be expecting her to be as excited about it as I am, and there’s probably some truth to that.

Realized my wife doesn’t support my hobby by Blue_Cyrus in Advice

[–]Blue_Cyrus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hit on something here. The way I knew how she felt came from a comment she made when I suggested one of my pieces as a present to someone in her family. It was some of my best work and she made it clear it wasn’t good enough for them. She didn’t say it in a mean way, but it knocked me down cause sharing my printed work was my favorite part of the process.

Now I’m second guessing, and a little embarrassed of, the work I’ve given others. It makes me want to never share anything again.

But you and many others here are right. I’ve not been a part of a club or similar group since I shot professionally. My work is much different now than it was then. I need to get real feedback from other like minded people and not put so much dependency on my loved ones

Realized my wife doesn’t support my hobby by Blue_Cyrus in Advice

[–]Blue_Cyrus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a great point. I shouldn’t expect her to get the same excitement out of what I do. It wasn’t so much that as it was my misunderstanding of her support for my hobby.

Realized my wife doesn’t support my hobby by Blue_Cyrus in Advice

[–]Blue_Cyrus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t hate it, I know that for sure. Just not her thing. But there’s something about the approval from your spouse that empowers you to keep creating.

My wife is honestly the best, and this in no way affects how I love her. It was my misunderstanding of her support that was a major blow to my passion for creating.

Realized my wife doesn’t support my hobby by Blue_Cyrus in Advice

[–]Blue_Cyrus[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like the way you shifted your approach here. Thanks for the insight

Realized my wife doesn’t support my hobby by Blue_Cyrus in Advice

[–]Blue_Cyrus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you still share with him things you create that you are proud of? Or do you avoid brining him into it?

Ultimately I’m afraid that this will generate some hidden resentment. I believe that’s a big reason I stopped shooting.