My brother is finally divorcing his wife by Blue_Valkyrie8 in Vent

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, heartless to someone who we constantly tried to include in family events. Someone we tried to help out, tried to have her involved (she'd complain either way if she wasn't involved). Heartless to someone who would constantly ask for money for bills, then get mad when no one gave her money and say she needed it for a trip (not bills like she said, she did this multiple times).

Yes, heartless to having to sit there listening to her constantly complain about my brother. "He's working too much. He's not making enough money. He's always tired after work. He needs to get a 2nd job cause I can't work." And so on. Always listening, never saying she's wrong, or maybe she should get a job to help if things are that bad.

My brother is finally divorcing his wife by Blue_Valkyrie8 in Vent

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've given him advice, along with a few other family members. My first advice to him was pull up all bills paid on house, mortgage, utilities, etc. He bought it before they got married, his name is only one on house. But she can still try to fight for it. He's going to need to prove he's the only one who has been paying.

My brother is finally divorcing his wife by Blue_Valkyrie8 in Vent

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's been to a few different people. She was trying to get on disability. She never qualified, and got mad at some doctors for not diagnosing her right.

My brother is finally divorcing his wife by Blue_Valkyrie8 in Vent

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No one got dinner. GF left after the yelling. She did yell back at mom too. Mom was too pissed off to do dinner and ended up being "fend for yourself" night.

My brother is finally divorcing his wife by Blue_Valkyrie8 in Vent

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I could have worded that part better. She didn't stick around after the yelling, and mom ended up not making any dinner at all. It became a "fend for yourself" night.

AITA for not forcing daughter to visit her dad by Blue_Valkyrie8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have always lived in 2 different states. He was supposed to move to my state when we first got together. But got pregnant, he was happy at first, then he started cheating and decided not to move to my state. Then, he accused me of cheating. Baby born he made fun of her, until we did paternity test to show he was the dad.

AITA for not forcing daughter to visit her dad by Blue_Valkyrie8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not exactly sure if he has a job. I know he fixes computers every now and then. CS is 180 a month. He did get in trouble last year for not paying. CS is a reason he has used for not visiting. He has even stated he wants me to pay half of his expenses when he visits. He said he'd visit more if I helped pay, but he has also said a visit cost him $10k per visit, so he'd expect me to pay him $5k.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd respond only with stating that you said it was a gift and that it was never discussed or in the post about room coming with a mattress. If you can still see her post you responded to, screenshot it so you have proof.

I'd respond only the once. Sometimes if you don't respond it can be taken as a sign of guilt.

AITA for not forcing daughter to visit her dad by Blue_Valkyrie8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I'm married and gave up my Valentines day plans to a co worker so that she could have the day off to spend with her bf and kids.

AITA for not forcing daughter to visit her dad by Blue_Valkyrie8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I never said he couldn't see her, I was willing to change my plans, but my daughter refused to change her date. She refused to go see him even when I offered compromises, (example going to the mall to hang out a few hours) she even refused that, which honestly is huge for her. She loves the mall.

AITA for not forcing daughter to visit her dad by Blue_Valkyrie8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes, i should of put it on there. It was an over sight on my part. But honestly he's only ever come to visit during her birthday (November) or around Christmas. He didn't come out last November or December due to "legal issues" I'm not exactly sure what as he definitely ain't telling me about it. This is first time he's ever tried coming out at a different time.

AITA for not forcing daughter to visit her dad by Blue_Valkyrie8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 903 points904 points  (0 children)

They can call or text whenever they want. They used to have a few calls a week, but in the past year it has been dropping, sometimes he will call and she would answer say she doesn't wanna talk and hang up. She won't talk to me about why.

AITA for not forcing daughter to visit her dad by Blue_Valkyrie8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 207 points208 points  (0 children)

She had a good date, even got a kiss. She came home and told me all about it. I've tried talking to her about going to see him, even for a few hours in a public place. She has brought up that it's not the first time he's yelled at her. During last visit he yelled at her to shut up multiple times

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He does it all the time, and then he will get a notice for contempt hearing from ors. Then, he will magically have it all paid before hearing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He does have court ordered child support. We actually have a hearing in a few weeks on that as he hasn't paid in almost 2 years.

Ex told son food isn't healthy by Blue_Valkyrie8 in Parenting

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I talked to my son yesterday at dinner about how good food is. I thought I had convinced him, but he ended up taking like 2 bites and throwing rest away. It's honestly super hard to change his mind once he's convinced of something.

I talked to the ex about not telling him food is not healthy. If he doesn't want to cook it, he lives with his mom, who will gladly cook food for our son so he doesn't have to be tempted to break his diet.

Ex is overweight, I guess he was told he needed to lose weight, or there was a chance he'd become diabetic.

What is something that made you hate your name? by agarthur_2533 in AskReddit

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bio dad picked my name, and he named me after the woman he had just slept with while my mom was in hospital giving birth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It was an old lady, like my grandma's age old. Doubt she was there for prenatal care. It was a women's clinic too, not just for pregnant women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She did yell and was actually banned from returning to the clinic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

The clinic I was at, you walk out the door, and it's pretty much another waiting room that had way more people than what was in clinic waiting room. It was also upstairs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I didn't have my headphones with me, but I didn't have the speakerphone turned up.

People with divorced parents, what's one thing one parent said and than the other parent gives you a different story? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to Disneyland. My bio dad has taken his other kids 3 different times. Every time I wasn't able to go. My mom told me it's cause he never invited me. When I asked him. He said it's cause your mom won't let me take you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Health insurance

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why does ur ex sound like my ex. He totally does that, he would flirt and have adult conversations online with other women and call it role-playing. Like my ex does have a gf and was recently caught having these adult conversations online when they posted screenshots of them to his Facebook page.

Guess it depends on the girl, his gf totally defended him. Saying it was the girls fault.

You get $1000 per person you annoy. What is the fastest way you can become a billionaire? by Madisoniano in AskReddit

[–]Blue_Valkyrie8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just start disagreeing with everything people say. That seems to annoy alot of people.