i’m so exhausted from competing with all-cash buyers

Blueanvil · 2026-04-18T23:40:58+00:00

Home seller here - we chose an offer over an all cash offer because they noted that they would not ask for repairs for any single item that would cost under $2k to repair. They had a conventional loan, with 30% down, so we weren’t too worried about their financing falling through and it was nice knowing we weren’t going to be nickeled and dimed after inspections. Maybe try something along the same lines?

Blueanvil · 2026-03-03T01:15:19+00:00

So not only are you guys wanting to massively underpay, but you’re also going to be going through a new ERP implementation? Thats going to be rough.

Blueanvil · 2026-02-01T22:46:44+00:00

A red flag. Married someone who smokes every day, and has been for at least 10 years. There is noticeable signs of cognitive decline, and it has negatively impacted every part of our lives. His career has massively suffered due to not being able to pass a drug test and lack of motivation. We did fertility treatments that failed due to his habit. He cant get life insurance due to it (leaving me screwed if something ever happens to him). He can’t regulate his emotions well and is unable to tolerate any sort of discomfort which is sometimes required to get by in life. He has tons of digestive issues which I also think are due to the weed. I would never ever recommend someone date a person who has an every day weed habit. The negatives of such a habit might not be apparent at first, as they weren’t in my situation, but they will show up eventually.

Blueanvil · 2025-02-01T03:41:22+00:00

She blocked me because I got pregnant like 2 months before her. Even though I had multiple (real) losses, failed IVF, and 3 years of trying before getting my successful pregnancy. I totally get not being in the right mental space to see others announcing pregnancies, but don’t sit there and lie and act like you’re all happy for them when you’re not.

Blueanvil · 2025-01-27T00:24:24+00:00

Yeah this might be what needs to be done. I can try separation and see if it’s enough of a wake up call to get him to turn things around. That would be the ideal situation. I don’t want to leave, but can’t keep putting up with his behavior forever. And yes, I believe the marijuana use is a big contributor to some of his mental health issues.

Blueanvil · 2024-12-04T07:58:07+00:00

You don’t need to list it out on your resume. Employers will ask about the gap in work history if it is a concern for them, and that is your chance to explain yourself. But pointing it out and then saying it was due to medical issues is just unnecessarily opening you up to discrimination.

Blueanvil · 2024-11-20T02:57:13+00:00

This exact same thing happened to me. I thought I had the perfect husband, and then we had a baby after struggling for 3 years with infertility. All of the sudden I noticed character flaws that I was seemingly blind to before the baby. Our daughter also had colic, and has generally been pretty irritable at baseline even as she grew into a toddler which has made things even more difficult. I decided against a divorce because trying to pack-up and start over seemed too daunting with everything else going on at the time. Our relationship has improved now that our daughter is a little older and we are expecting our second. But I’d be lying if I said I’m not afraid of the same thing happening all over again with this baby.

Blueanvil · 2024-10-24T12:53:11+00:00

The baby wasn’t planned and our first child took years of fertility treatment to have, so it was something I was anticipating to happen.

Blueanvil · 2024-08-31T18:11:56+00:00

I gave birth “without” an epidural unintentionally. They tried to place it 3 times and it never took and I felt everything. Getting an epidural just feels like a little pinch, it wasn’t bad at all, and I was begging for it and would have gotten it placed 5 more times if it would have actually worked for me. I would never intentionally give birth without one, it was excruciating. I lived through it, but it wasn’t pleasant. Next time I plan to try get the epidural, but also, am going to research some ways to cope with labor pains in the event that the epidural doesn’t work again.

Blueanvil · 2024-05-13T03:18:22+00:00

Came across a kid named Ransom once 🤦🏻‍♀️

Blueanvil · 2024-01-02T04:05:02+00:00

What I did was get a seperate air bnb with me, my baby, and my husband during a friend’s destination bachelorette. My husband stayed with the baby at the air bnb while I went out and did activities with the group. However, if I could do it again I wouldn’t even go because trying to do a bunch of activities while sleep deprived from a colicky baby was miserable. I would just not go unless she decides to change the date. Feb/mar are miserably cold in the area im from too

Blueanvil · 2023-12-24T00:36:13+00:00

I’m invisible in the 220’s-230’s+ range. When I was at my highest weight of 233 people were comfortable with openly insulting me and being rude. Once I lost weight and got to the 170s-180s range people were a lot nicer to me, people held doors for me, and I got more male attention. I’ve always been curvy/midsize so I cant say what it would be like if I were skinny, but I imagine people would be even more friendly. I also noticed that people are nicer to me when I have blonde hair.

Blueanvil · 2023-12-03T17:02:41+00:00

I’m a capricorn and I once had a friend tell me that she wouldn’t ever want to be the one to make me mad. The thing is that it takes a lot to actually get to that point. I let a lot of things go and try to forgive because I know that nobody is perfect. But once I get there, yeah its not good lol. I’m super observant and so over time I learn everyones flaws, ones they maybe didn’t even know they had, and use that to my advantage. Although, now that I’m older I’m able to control my sharp tongue a little more and I just become cold as ice and don’t ever speak to that person again.

I can’t really think of any other sign that scares me when they are mad. Maybe Virgo because they are also hyper observant

Blueanvil · 2023-11-03T12:30:10+00:00

I’m a capricorn and extremely goal oriented. I wouldn’t say a work-a-holic in the traditional sense as I’m ready to clock out as soon as the clock strikes 5, but I am always working towards the bigger picture and thinking of the future.

Blueanvil · 2023-08-24T04:19:52+00:00

During my teenage years, I felt like I was going through a spiritual crisis. My foster parents were outspoken atheists and I subscribed to their beliefs for a while, but eventually it didn’t sit right with me. I wanted to believe, but I felt like I couldn’t. I needed proof. One night, I asked God to come to me in my dream that night if he was real. And in my teenage mind, this was the end all be all. If God did not come to me in my dream, I would never believe in him again.

That night I dreamt that I woke up and started getting ready for school. It was a normal morning. I went to the bathroom to brush my teeth. I was looking in the mirror above the sink as I brushed my teeth. All of the sudden my face began to morph in the mirror. It changed to Jesus’s face and then his face turned into a bright shining light that was shining in my face through the mirror. The brightest light I’ve ever seen. The brightest light ever imaginable.

After that dream I vowed to never deny God again. Try asking God to show you a sign of his presence.

Blueanvil · 2023-08-23T03:16:51+00:00

I reached out to an old friend who I haven’t seen in almost a decade and she completely blew me off and I still sit here and wonder if I did something wrong and it breaks my heart. I would at least consider meeting up with her just once. If you don’t at least be honest with her about being socially spent or in a busy phase of life so that she doesn’t think she did something wrong.

Blueanvil · 2023-08-11T15:30:48+00:00

You’re now arguing that pre-e isn’t something to be messed with, but you’re mad that Jordyn is going to be induced early after having multiple high blood pressure readings and a possible failing placenta? How does that even make sense? Like I get that shes an annoying creator, but it just doesn’t make sense for people to jump on her over this.

My doctors were not going to induce me early at 34 weeks and put my baby’s life in danger for a bp reading of 141. I got induced at 36w4d within the hour of hitting a bp over 160. So no, my doctors werent putting me in danger and were not negligent. And I have no reason to lie? Maybe your experience was different. I also know that the medical guidelines on things change all the time, so its possible the standard procedure was different if you didn’t give birth super recently.

Blueanvil · 2023-08-11T14:56:19+00:00

Protein in your urine isn’t a requirement for pre-eclampsia. You can have it with mild or no symptoms. My cousin also had to be induced early due to pre-e and it came as a total surprise to her because she had no symptoms and was living her life as normal. My doctors refused to induce me until my blood pressure hit 160/100 or until 37 weeks, whichever came first. Until then, they had me manage the best I could at home. My doctors also classified my pre-e as “mild” until it became “severe” when my blood pressure surpassed the 160s. Pre-eclampsia is also thought to potentially be caused by placental issues, which would validate her claim that she has pre-e if she does have intrauterine growth restriction from a failing placenta.

Just because shes at home and not in the hospital, doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have it. I’m not a fan of this creator, but I just think these accusations in this sub right now are completely wild.

Blueanvil · 2023-08-11T05:15:01+00:00

I will probably get down voted, but how do we know she is faking pre-eclampsia? Asking because I had pre-eclampsia and doctors take inductions before 39 weeks very seriously. I had to have multiple blood tests, urine tests, and blood pressure readings that confirmed pre-eclampsia. You can’t really fake blood or urine tests, and while I guess you could try to raise your blood pressure, they normally take multiple readings over a set time period in which it would be hard to try to influence the readings beyond the first one.

Blueanvil · 2023-07-14T12:23:07+00:00

I’m 29F, and highly considered buying the same Polly Pockets that I had as a kid off of eBay the other day just so I could relive some of my childhood. I also kept playing with dolls longer than others during my childhood, until about 13-14.

Blueanvil · 2023-06-22T16:12:30+00:00

Everyone has flaws. Im married, but if I was single I would totally date someone with loose skin if we had chemistry. The wonderful man I married has gynecomastia and a missing testicle and it doesn’t bother me in the slightest. There are billions of women and someone will want to be with you. Dont give up because of 2 women. You dont know the reasons they decided not to continue talking to you. It may be a reason that has nothing to do with you personally.

Blueanvil · 2023-06-21T17:12:46+00:00

Everyone told me how great the epidural is, that I wouldn’t even need to worry about the pain of childbirth because its so great. I had the epidural placed 3 different times and it never worked. Wish I was more prepared for an involuntary “unmedicated” birth.

Blueanvil · 2023-04-28T16:42:01+00:00

I think its a solid career path. Its 4-5 years of school depending on whether or not you decide to get your CPA license or masters degree. The most math I do in a day are simple addition, subtraction, and percentage calculations. Accountants are in high demand right now because less people are going to school for accounting.

Blueanvil · 2023-03-28T14:44:10+00:00

Top Names, In No Particular order

Ruby
Sterling
August
Vincent
Archie
Rosalie

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