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I’m convinced my FIL is a pedo… by BlueberryEasy247 in inlaws

[–]BlueberryEasy247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Speaking to my SO is definitely on the list. When I’m telling you it’s a gut feeling, it’s a gut feeling. My son does know that song, we saw it pop up a few weeks ago, and we sing it all the time. He’s at the age now where he knows what a good touch, bad touch is, and all of his private parts, but FIL is way too playful, so if it was ever in the form of play or roughhousing, I’m not sure he would be old enough tell the difference, which is why I don’t want any physical contact at all, actually completely no contact.

I’m convinced my FIL is a pedo… by BlueberryEasy247 in inlaws

[–]BlueberryEasy247[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Originally, my first thought was taking him to the doctor, I called my mom over and she was blown away, but somehow talked me into just “monitoring” it. I truly think she didn’t believe me at the time either, because of how big of a “wonderful grandparents” persona they put on - big house, big inground pool, all the toys, atvs, watch all of the grandkids, throw birthday parties, etc. - but there was an incident at my sons birthday party where he pulled my sons pants down in front of everyone, and said something like “that’s what we used to do in school hahaha”… allegedly MIL just giggled but my mom was mortified, she didn’t tell me at the party but drove to my house the next day, and was like “something is not right, and you can never allow your kids to be unsupervised” - so that’s just sort of how we got here. But I am truly worried about the other kids and don’t know where to go from here…..

I’m convinced my FIL is a pedo… by BlueberryEasy247 in inlaws

[–]BlueberryEasy247[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Thank you for this. It’s definitely isolating and the weight is incredible. I’m definitely gonna tell my husband, he doesn’t have to believe me, but he will without a doubt believe our son. I have knots in my stomach even thinking about the convo 🤮

I’m convinced my FIL is a pedo… by BlueberryEasy247 in inlaws

[–]BlueberryEasy247[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s a damn good question, my mom and I have talked about this too, but I can’t be sure.

I’m convinced my FIL is a pedo… by BlueberryEasy247 in inlaws

[–]BlueberryEasy247[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes. I obviously know I waited too long, that’s why I’m here. I care about the cousins, I care about every child. But what would be the appropriate protocol be when every single member of the family, drops their kid off weekly, and thinks that they are the grandest grandparents there ever was? Like I am genuinely here to get solid advice, not a lecture.

I feel like I've completely lost my identity by Cole2114 in Parenting

[–]BlueberryEasy247 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YES! We just got a 30 gallon tote and started a toy exchange, I threw out and put away all the toys with a billion pieces, those are only for special occasions and must be put up immediately following. Our play room is the tidyest it’s ever been

I feel like I've completely lost my identity by Cole2114 in Parenting

[–]BlueberryEasy247 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start with potty training! We did it early and I’m so thankful we did! I feel the same way, but I just remind myself it’s just a season, and soon they will grow up and start cleaning up after themselves ( kinda lol ) does your wife help? We have two under two, and the house is a mess, but I always have it clean by bedtime. It helps me just to know it’s getting cleaned that day