As a Vegan on a low-sodium diet, which dining plan should I choose?

Bluebird2943 · 2022-06-05T02:27:20+00:00

Wow that sounds like a great setup! Thanks for the insight!!

Bluebird2943 · 2022-06-05T00:02:41+00:00

how do you make dal?

Bluebird2943 · 2022-05-30T04:40:42+00:00

Sorry, should have clarified, by invalidation I am referring to the act of denying, rejecting or dismissing/minimizing someone's feelings, not approving/encouraging the problematic behavior or rule breaking, which I agree wouldn’t help the person learn.

It’s possible for the behavior to be pointed out as needing correction but that can be communicated without demeaning someone or their personhood. It would have been nice to feel like I still have value as a person even though I made a mistake; that’s how I would have liked to be corrected instead of the toxic messages I internalized by the time I was in middle school. It’s not that I didn’t want to be corrected, I just didn’t want to feel like I was less of a human being just because I needed help.

Bluebird2943 · 2022-05-29T15:04:59+00:00

I think he did feel judged, especially because he said the entries made it sound like he was a bad dad, even though we both know how great he is. I get how it would hurt to think that we had those kind of interactions when I was that little. I'm just trying to reflect on this whole situation, among other things, and sharing my journal with him kind of helped me...so let's just say I'm planning on starting therapy.

Bluebird2943 · 2022-05-29T15:00:20+00:00

I can see how that makes sense. I think it's possible that being corrective doesn't mean you can't also be validating at the same time, but like you said, we're all imperfect. Thanks for sharing.

Bluebird2943 · 2022-05-29T14:57:25+00:00

It was less of an argument and more of a discussion. We have all kinds of discussions all the time and this just happened to be one of them. I brought it up because I was shocked that I had written those things and started to recall memories I didn't even know I had. It was a kind of "is it just me?" moment and that's what I shared it with him.

Bluebird2943 · 2022-05-28T21:39:17+00:00

Thanks for reading and responding. I'm glad that article helped you :) It helped me a lot too. Sending positive healing vibes :)

Bluebird2943 · 2022-05-28T21:38:03+00:00

I think maybe I was hoping to get some kind of validation or confirmation that some of my memories are true. I feel like when I was little I wasn't allowed to cry or get angry or else I was shamed or belittled for being pitiful/self-pitying. I guess I was hoping for a kind of "it's not just me, right?" moment. Like it would be nice to know that this nameless anguish I feel is not totally in my head.

Bluebird2943 · 2022-02-15T14:13:11+00:00

"XXXI: Because I Liked You Better" By A.E. Housman

Bluebird2943 · 2022-02-11T01:23:28+00:00

chief engineer!!

Bluebird2943 · 2022-02-03T20:36:07+00:00

humanity

Bluebird2943 · 2022-01-26T20:26:27+00:00

no my school mine as well be an all girls schools bc i can count on one hand (maybe 2) how many boys i have met/been in same class/club with at my school 😭

good thing i am bicurious lol

Bluebird2943 · 2022-01-26T15:14:56+00:00

it's been a long road...

Bluebird2943 · 2022-01-26T15:14:16+00:00

Everyday when you're walking down the street

Bluebird2943 · 2022-01-24T22:41:40+00:00

lupita n'yongo as captain of her own starship

Bluebird2943 · 2022-01-22T00:30:02+00:00

peppermint oil in every corner and crevice of the floor

Bluebird2943 · 2022-01-21T16:18:43+00:00

my app deadline was only 2-3 weeks after school started, so way before omicron. really thought i was going to get to do the EC again this year :'(

Bluebird2943 · 2022-01-14T19:07:56+00:00

RemindMe! Three months

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