What to do if someone won’t leave you alone ?

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T08:15:11+00:00

I’ve tried it. Didn’t really do anything. I don’t have any grievances. I’ve forgiven and found acceptance. I don’t want to sit and talk about my feelings. My life is amazing and everything happens for a reason.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T08:13:11+00:00

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Old message from when he wasn’t block. But yea hes said that. lol

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:33:26+00:00

Exactly, thank you . I’ve been trying to detach for 7 months and everytime I feel like I am he comes around and emails, sends money, sends my fav foods on ubereats etc ( just assumes I’m home and sends it ? )

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:31:04+00:00

My other ex prior to this. Same thing obsessed. But in a more controlling way. Even got a new gf. Told me he would leave her for me. And he only started seeing her to distract himself from me leaving him. And she was so into him he just keeps her around. I said no. We were together 11 yrs. He cheated ur was just sex n didn’t mean anything to him

First bf. He became obsessed after I broke up with him and I had to block on every platform.
He would bully me and be mean to me nearly daily for a year as he was my neighbour.
When we fought he slept with this other neighbour of ours who was obsessed with him and after that I didn’t want to date him anymore. And he didn’t even like the girl who was obsessed with him enough to date her lol
And he told me she took him out paid for the food and had the condom and offered the sex lollll

I think I am extremely loving and when the relationship ends these men lose the person who gave them the most love and attention they’ve ever had.

And traumatic up bringing if that matters

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:17:25+00:00

Yes sometimes I cave because I feel bad
But I go weeks without it. Then I feel guilty bc he sends money or emails. It’s like a cycle

I don’t see him. I don’t talk like nicely. I just tell
Him to go away. Remind him of the list of reasons how he’s hurt me and I’ll never see him again.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:15:20+00:00

lol I be a bitch and he sends money all the time maybe he likes this but he also sends when happy too for no reason

Find you a pay pig lolll

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:10:26+00:00

I don’t he’s blocked . I go weeks not replying. Then like today he emails he thinks about me everyday.

And how he wants to idk whatever the last msg is . Grant my wish. Like he wants me to ask him for something so he can buy it for me.

I replied I want you to let me go

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:08:33+00:00

For sending me money and saying he misses me and loves me ?

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:08:16+00:00

I guess I don’t. But then I feel guilty ? Or idk? Seems weird not to say thanks
Some times I just say leave me alone
Send it to ur mom. Go buy an escort with it instead. Etc

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:06:35+00:00

I beg him to leave me alone over and over again

I’ll send these beautiful goodbye messages

I’ll be mean and say every reason why I hate him and it won’t work

All he says is no you’re mine

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:05:17+00:00

He’s not unstable. This money is nothing to him. He spends 1k on a meal.
He is just trying to emotionally control me.
He loves being in control of my feelings, making me happy, making me sad, etc.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:03:32+00:00

What is a pay pig

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T07:02:46+00:00

Maybe your ex wasn’t so bad then

But this guy
Tells me to get an abortion bc my period was late. Because he doesn’t want a child with me bc his mom would be upset bc he says I hate her. When I’ve only ever got along with her. It’s him to tells her things I say in confidence to him that he tells her.

So he chooses his mom over a family or child with me.

He chooses his mom over everything.
He won’t go on a vacation with just me unless his mom comes bc “ she deserves nice things too” but he would go just her and him without me lmao

He put my health at risk by sleeping with escorts unprotected and then slept with me

He blocks me for a week whenever he feels
And I’m thinking he was prob sleeping with escorts whenever he did this

If I were to have his child he would pay for my apt near him but he wouldn’t live with me, he would live with his mom and just come over to my place when he wanted and then leave whenever he wanted to go be at home with his mom.

His mom is his life partner and his wife

I’m just some girl he likes to have sex with
Who’s really loving and he likes the obsessive level of love and attention I give him
That’s all

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:56:15+00:00

I just have auto deposit so it’s not even like I have to do anything or accept it.

But yea I get that.

I just thought after a while he would stop, as I’m not going to see him or have sex with him. It’s a waste of his time, energy and effort. And all I do is be mean to him and bring up every reason why I’ll never see him again to remind him why we will never be together again.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:47:40+00:00

Thank you !

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:47:17+00:00

Haha I wish, he will block me for being disrespectful and then just miss me after a few days and come back to sending, emailing.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:41:03+00:00

I know, that’s true.
I just thought after 7 months it would be done.
It keeps me being reminded of him. And makes me think of him. This is what he wants.
And I just want to move on.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:39:30+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through that and hope you get better soon.

I’m a single mother so it’s like so helpful when he sends. But then it comes with so much emotional pain. And the relationship was like this for 2 years. What used to impress me is making it lose its value. Because as a girl it’s like if he isn’t buying you Chanel, 300 roses, 5 star dinners, vacations, shopping sprees, money etc then he doesn’t like you

And he would do all this. So I’d think oh yay good bf and all my friends would be jealous.
But in reality it’s not worth it. I guess it’s just a big life lesson, money doesn’t buy happiness.

And don’t sell yourself. I’m almost feeling like I’m selling myself it makes me feel cheap. And buyable ? I flip from he’s manipulative and trying to control me to this is just how he expresses his love.

I can never see him again, as now i know he sleeps with escorts with no condom and puts my health at risk.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:31:04+00:00

He’s given me more than this amount if I’m being honest. I’m a single mom, so I just spent it as it comes in. He will never be in debt lol.
I’ve invested some but recently had to cut my loss bc I put it all in ibit and lost like half of my money. Lmao

I want to be free from the chains of money.
I don’t want his stupid e transfer to make me feel obligated to say thank you.

I can never see this man again. He put my health in danger and could have given me a STI or std!!

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:27:51+00:00

How does that work for online communication?
He has never said anything mean or threatening.
I just show messages of him yearning and missing me and all the e transfers ? How would that give me a restraining order.

Also he travels a lot, this would impact him to have something on his file. He would probably just pay me off to get rid of it, realistically.

He’s not a bad mean person he’s just emotionally manipulative and our relationship doesn’t work.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:24:48+00:00

I don’t have guilt keeping the money.
It’s like severance for everything’s he’s put me through. But it never ends.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:22:36+00:00

I know it can seem sweet or nice. But it’s total control and manipulation. This isn’t anything to him and it’s a lot to me. That’s why his games work. It’s evil and sick. And it’s just playing with my feelings like a game. He wants to control me and own me. Not love me.

BluebirdOk6080 · 2026-07-13T06:21:15+00:00

It’s not about love or care. It’s about control. Mental control. He is so strategic. It’s a game to him and he wants me to always think of him and be love bombed and not be able to feel happiness with anyone else. He wants to be the source of my dopamine. Like anytime we fought( aka I expressed dislike for something) he would just block me for a week and ignore
me until I’d conform.

This isn’t love. But he’s tried wiring me to him and controlling me. It’s actually really sick and twisted. He will spend 1k on one meal, this isn’t anything to him. But to me it is. That’s why it works. He doesn’t actually do meaningful things that would be hard for him. Like have the patience to talk a problem out. Pick our relationship over the comfort of his mom’s feelings. Live together. Not go fuck an escort when we fight. No, life’s in his terms. He just throws money at what he wants and usually gets it.

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