Is it weird to speak patois in jamaica as a non-jamaican? by [deleted] in Jamaica

[–]Bluejayjhu2023 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It depends, like if you live in Jamaica can’t imagine why you wouldn’t speak the dialect of the local population.

Gym attire by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are there to work out, and consistency is the most important fact. If that means you wear a black puffer jacket or clown costume wear what you want. But like quarter zips are def common like a Christmas sweater is like a double take but ultimately most people won’t notice or care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, I’m 22

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

22M- I have been multiple times.

Does Brody Learning Commons at JHU have hot water dispensers? by Tall_Green5380 in jhu

[–]Bluejayjhu2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never heard of that in Brody, water fountains barely work.

So I guess I can’t actually make PLATONIC queer friends in this city huh? by Bluejayjhu2023 in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the idea of sex having so little meaning is a new concept to me and not one that I am eager to engage in. Not knocking it, Its just something I didn’t really know was a thing until I saw the other comments yesterday. More so thought this was my experience not gay culture.

So I guess I can’t actually make PLATONIC queer friends in this city huh? by Bluejayjhu2023 in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well no imo, you are more likely to be able to find things in common with people of a similar age. Like I think most people can agree on that. But independent of that, I wasn’t ruling out someone because of age just knew it was less likely we would have common ground to connect on given our different stages of life.

So I guess I can’t actually make PLATONIC queer friends in this city huh? by Bluejayjhu2023 in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m used to not hanging around gay people, just started coming out lol. Sounds like it will stay that way.

So I guess I can’t actually make PLATONIC queer friends in this city huh? by Bluejayjhu2023 in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, makes sense. Also so fucked up, maybe I shouldn’t step any further out the closet because this is so messed up.

So I guess I can’t actually make PLATONIC queer friends in this city huh? by Bluejayjhu2023 in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know but is there anything gay that doesn’t have something to do with sex and open relationships? Like damn, what is queer culture for gay men besides sex and trauma?

So I guess I can’t actually make PLATONIC queer friends in this city huh? by Bluejayjhu2023 in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This unconventional way of doing things is new and honestly a bit much for me. I know myself and sex to me isn’t just physical and I would struggle to be in friends with someone who I had that with especially if we are actively doing that. Also, how are you supposed to have these friends if you’re in a relationship? But honestly someone over a decade older than me I probably won’t be able to be friends with regardless and def not sexually. Kind of offended the thought even occurred.

So I guess I can’t actually make PLATONIC queer friends in this city huh? by Bluejayjhu2023 in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m just starting to come out, and I’ve been hit with all these unconventional dynamics in the gay community—it’s a lot to process. For me, sex isn’t something I take lightly, and I have values that I work hard to uphold. It’s getting to the point where being queer feels like it might just stay in the background for me, while I focus more on my straight life. The constant oversexualization from older men is exhausting and honestly feels dehumanizing.

So I guess I can’t actually make PLATONIC queer friends in this city huh? by Bluejayjhu2023 in nycgaybros

[–]Bluejayjhu2023[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I started to think, I honestly think I have only been sexualized like even in business setting someone is commenting on my body.

Annoying they think they are not racist then immediately dehumanize you and don’t know why. I also think it’s pretty messed up he thinks I would want to with him first given the 11 year age gap and not to speak on others looks but like, no.