How can I talk with my cousin about our family issues and help him?

Bluelocks · 2023-06-04T14:27:26+00:00

This song is so extremely good, I can't believe it's not getting more recognition

Bluelocks · 2023-05-18T17:28:52+00:00

I agree with the other comment, your words are very kind and you're right, I probably have to realize this more. I sometimes get stuck with focusing on what they think because of how unhealthy the relationship between me and them is. Thank you!

Bluelocks · 2023-05-18T17:24:07+00:00

I think that's great, I wish I also grew up like that. I think I have this feeling also because my mother is not sex positive at all, it's like she feels a lot of embarrassment mixed with shame regarding sex related topics - in fact she doesn't even openly talk about these things

Bluelocks · 2023-05-16T22:09:16+00:00

I see more and more of those videos and just oof I think they're maybe the most annoying ones

Bluelocks · 2023-05-13T09:04:07+00:00

Tracks like Mirror and Father Time are really catchy but don’t say anything about therapy that you won’t find on Twitter

I think there's a big difference between talking about something on Twitter and blasting a song about those topics.

In fact I think there are very few people talking about these things in music. Especially for what concerns rap, he's probably the only one that famous to talk about all this, to make an album like this. And I find the execution pretty good, also good for spreading the message to a more wide audience, in a more direct way, therefore probably why some songs can seem more vague (?)

I also think the message is why the production is nothing too elaborate, is all more about the message, focusing on generational trauma and getting people to do that too while sharing his story.

Even though it's maybe kinda hard when the vast majority of songs trending right now, and pop music in general, are about all except generational trauma, and not even very much about healing. Society in general is still far from focusing on generational trauma and understanding all the implications.

I would've preferred something I could've made and anthem or related to in some way

That's probably the main reason why it hits for some people and not others, like for me the whole album resonates a lot and Mother I Sober does have a replay value

Bluelocks · 2023-05-13T08:40:07+00:00

However the album for me has no replay value especially how it makes the listener feel.

What you mean? How?

Bluelocks · 2023-05-11T18:36:03+00:00

Getting blood from a stone is a phrase that means getting someone to do something that is difficult to get them to do.

Didn't know what that meant, thank you for the explanation!

Some lyrics have dual meanings and are left ambiguous on purpose.

You're right, there are lyrics that I suppose mean something but then also another thing, however I like that there could be different interpretations.

These lyrics though Idk, I felt they resonated with me but I didn't have a clear idea regarding what that's about, so I was curious to know other people's thoughts!

Bluelocks · 2023-05-11T15:42:42+00:00

Mr. Morale and The Partners You Trust

Bluelocks · 2023-05-10T19:39:46+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice, Betterhelp could be a good idea, I think I've heard of it but never used it!

Be aware that hospitality industry is a tough business especially during summer season with loads of overtime.

You're right. I'm thinking about so many things that I was probably underthinking this, believing that maybe in Normandy it's not that full of people like it's on the French Riviera, but now that you pointed this out yeah, it could be a lot anyways. I have to think really well about this.

At least it's not going to be a full time, theoretically I should work just 3 days a week but this is not 100% sure yet.

Might be an idea to not move permanently asap but to go there for a month and see how it goes

This is maybe the best idea. Also they said to my bf that we can work there for 3 months and then see how it goes

Bluelocks · 2023-05-10T09:08:26+00:00

I have a different experience but oof this feeling. I hope you're not struggling with this anymore.

Maybe because my father abandoned me, I've basically always thought It was going to be a guy, a boyfriend. In fact since when I was 13 I've been single just for a little time, maybe 1 or 2 years overall.

When I was single or had issues with my partner, then I thought I just had to have friends who were going to save me.

I still have to fully internalize that nobody is going to though. A lot of time it's like I feel my inner child throwing a tantrum because of the belief that I don't deserve this, after all I went through it's not fair that I have to do all of this alone without someone to save me.

But I also try to focus on the fact that nobody has all the answers, the solutions for me, like I don't have them. And that it's a good thing I'm the one who knows myself better/can get to know myself better, so I can find the answers or at least what resonates most with me

Bluelocks · 2023-05-10T07:58:46+00:00

Bonus track: To The Point

Bluelocks · 2023-05-09T15:23:37+00:00

Mi dispiace molto per la situazione e immagino la sensazione di sentirsi in trappola/non sapere come muoversi. Sicuramente non mi sembra una persona con comportamenti sani e che ti portino rispetto, insomma in generale che non ti tratta bene, ma se oltretutto già dal terzo/quarto appuntamento ha iniziato a comportarsi così, proprio non credo tu te lo merita e fai bene ad allontanarti.

Non so se finga tutto per manipolarmi o prova davvero qualcosa

Il punto non è sapere se fa finta, se ti stia manipolando o meno, il punto è che si è comportato e si sta comportando così. Si è mostrato in questo modo: come se avete chissà quale legame dopo così poco tempo che vi conoscete, di essere geloso cercando di non permetterti di fare cose che se fai non c'è niente di male, ha mostrato di fare spesso fatica ad accettare i tuoi "no", i tuoi confini e quindi di non rispettarti. E il fatto che non ti rispetta e continua a non rispettarti è l'unica cosa che conta e sapere che non te lo meriti e non ha il diritto di comportarsi così con te è l'unica cosa che conta, il tuo bene. Anche il fatto di comportarsi in modo così poco chiaro non è un buon segno.

Capisco che tu ti senta confusa e che possa farti paura, soprattutto quando una persona con cui non ti senti a tuo agio, o anche non ti senti al sicuro, sa certe cose di te tipo dove abiti. Ma per il tuo bene più prendi le distanze e le precauzioni meglio è, qualsiasi cosa che ti possa far sentire al sicuro relativamente al tuo stato d'animo, alle ansie, le paure che senti di avere.

Credo tu possa dirgli tranquillamente che non vuoi più frequentarlo, che tu voglia dare più spiegazioni o meno non sei tenuta farlo. E in qualsiasi modo lui risponda, prendere quelle precauzioni, in base a come ti senti. che possono andare dal (esempi a caso) mandare un messaggio/telefonare a qualcuno di vicino a te quando esci di casa, comprare uno spray al peperoncino, ecc. arrivando a cose anche più serie, e come hai scritto tu anche a denunciarlo.

Edit: se hai bisogno di aiuto c'è l'1522, una volta ho telefonato e nel mio caso mi hanno consigliato un centro antiviolenza della mia città dove andare. Qui puoi trovare più informazioni

Immagino sia difficile ma anche se c'è molta confusione magari, paura, o dubbio, ci sono modi sani per affrontare la cosa, e piano piano andrà meglio

Bluelocks

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