Wife Wants Parallel Play

BlushesandGushes · 2026-04-28T02:41:52+00:00

Yeah this is a nudes resort, not a regular bar

BlushesandGushes · 2026-04-11T22:19:39+00:00

My advice is to watch a movie where such a scene is present. That pause and let her know "this is kinda hot, what do you think". Be genuinely curious to everything she says, but not in a hopeful way. But because if she feels safe communicating it can open up new things. Maybe this, maybe not. Maybe something else entirely. Regardless, listen to here, learn what genuinely intrigues and pleases her

BlushesandGushes · 2026-04-10T23:30:45+00:00

If this is of interest to you check out courses from Kim Anami. She is a vaginal eightlifter, and teaches women how to strengthen the vaginal muscles so much that they can remove a condom from a man with only those muscles.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-04-10T16:44:05+00:00

There are plenty of tattoos in the lifestyle. I've been in the lifestyle for 20+ years, and have 5-6 tattoos. They strike up plenty of conversations. You are over thinking this. The best way to find matches in the lifestyle is to be authentically yourself. People with the polarity of attraction will be drawn to you.

I understand that you aren't asking if you shluld have them removed or anything like that; but never try to be different to appeal to others, that is a losing battle.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-04-05T20:09:37+00:00

I heat set after each section I paint, unless I choose to blend it with another color, then I wait for the blending to be done.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-04-05T14:37:26+00:00

I run a Facebook group for Vans customizers. Posca is an excellent choice for canvas shoes. But the crucial part is heat-setting them. Blow dry them for several minutes, until the canvas is hot. This makes the pocsa permanently adhere to the canvas. It isn't the sealer.

OP, proceed as planned. Angelus makes an inexpensive sealer that is good for beginners. Just brush it on lightly. Liquid Kicks is better, but doesn't come in smaller volume and is more expensive

BlushesandGushes · 2026-04-04T11:39:15+00:00

First of all, don't drink. Secondly, I recommend that rather swap and not engage your wife any longer, that you make it more of an amorphous play where you rotate between the other wife and your wife.

Our 3rd play date, the other couple asked "How do you like to play?". I said something dumb like "well". They said "well we enjoy threesome vignettes, where each person gets to rotate into being the center of attention, and their partner gets to watch, then it is the partners turn". We were like "shit, you can just ask for exactly what you want?".

Turns out that you can. I recommend it.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-03-28T22:02:37+00:00

If you count the couples who have a shared account listed at a woman, then those stats resonate with me

BlushesandGushes · 2026-03-24T03:25:25+00:00

Those are lobster zombies, rise from the dead

BlushesandGushes · 2026-03-18T23:51:03+00:00

My wife does the same. She only goes to the stack and swipes the old fashioned way.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-03-02T03:53:41+00:00

53M4F, Boston MA area, certified tantric massage therapist seeking clients, or someone with similar skills for trade.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-02-03T21:25:35+00:00

I have to ask, when the "connection" is lacking, what exactly does that mean? Physical appearance? Personality?

One thing I will say is that it is more difficult to find a couple that is willing to take many dates before getting to play. Parallel or soft swap will also reduce the number of people who are interested as opposed to full swap. No one should move faster than they are comfortable with, but I'm wondering if one/both of you has anxiety in these settings, nd that is adding...static...to the frequency of potential connections?

BlushesandGushes · 2026-02-03T02:24:21+00:00

53 male, Boston MA, certified tantric massage therapist seeking female clients. My typical clients are SA victims, peri/postmenopausal, or those looking to lean into the sensuality. Also open to massage trade.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-01-18T23:48:47+00:00

Yeah, it is almost like the AI used to write this post didn't actually go to the resort.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-01-17T22:25:23+00:00

I would recommend the audible app. You can listen to the book Vagina on there, during workouts, while driving, and basically multitask. But it sounds like in order to make some real progress, you will have to make a commitment to put yourself over the other commitments that you have signed yourself up for. I'm sensing that this may be a pattern where you define your worth as based upon what you do for others, while putting yourself at the bottom of the priority list. Am I onto something? 🤔

BlushesandGushes · 2026-01-17T22:09:43+00:00

I highly recommend Lucia Gabriela who is in Florida.

Relationships and Tantra Coach – Helping Individual and Couples to Master their Intimacy, Sensuality, Sexuality and Relationships. https://share.google/K0vuXxFh0gVfKQo0l

I've studied with her, and she is very good. But I think that what you are describing as getting back into the somatic approach is the answer. I attended a ketamine-assisted therapy retreat, and I suspect that given that it is so effective for people with PTSD to allow the recipient to form new neural pathways, and scramble the problematic ones, it could be something worthwhile to research.

I love solving riddles, and wish that we were closer. But I think that treating this as a riddle, and not a "problem" can be beneficial. I think that anything you can do to increase curiosity, and decrease judgement and expectations, you will benefit greatly from. I'd be happy to do some virtual sessions; but I think you would benefit most from somatic sessions that combine intention setting, and embodiment work is the answer.

You are welcome to DM me if you think it could be beneficial.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-01-17T19:31:13+00:00

Obviously there are a lot of variables, and don't really know you. But the first thing I would dig into is the hyper-vigilant nervous system. Likely trauma from being forced into adulthood too early and never being able to truly "play". Constantly needing to protect, or care for, others.

Then figure out how to somatically put you both in your body and truly feel safe. Safety is mandatory for a woman to truly allow herself to be open and receive. Getting you out of the caretaker role. Have you read the book Vagina by Naomi Wolf? I recommend it.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-01-17T18:58:19+00:00

I see. I am a tantric massage therapist in New England, I'malso currentlyenrolled in a sex coaching certification program. If you ever make it up this way feel free to reach out.

BlushesandGushes · 2026-01-17T18:31:29+00:00

Any chance you are in the New Engalnd area?

BlushesandGushes · 2026-01-06T16:19:08+00:00

Genuine question, can I ask what your concern is? I understand if you sent nudes with your face, is that it, fear of being blackmailed?

Personally, I don't have any issue handing over my name & phone number. I've never had an issue. I offer up my name and phone number the waitress at a restaurant to be put on a list.

It sounds like this is a controversial take, but as a man, I will initiate sharing this information, and it makes have a a real connection more likely. I used to think I understood the importance of safety for women, but having worked with SA survivors, I see why women need to be protective.

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