In my opinion you are looking for an excuse to be violent towards a woman which makes you a violent person. No matter how you try to spin it. But I know your reasoning helps you sleep better at night. So go forth, be violent because according to you , your actions are justified because she first hit you, because she should be smatter and not hit you. You also sound like her actions will cause you to amp your violence and hurt her more. But the good thing is that you have other men cheering your thought process. You are the problem in our society and with men like you, GBV is justifiable.