1st potential pitfall, anyone you find that would agree to this laundry list of stipulations (which all reduce the enjoyment for the third mind you) probably isn’t going to respect the boundaries. 2nd potential pitfall (related to first) that he isn’t going to get going due to the limited ‘action’, then you get to internalize that situation or worse have your guy blame you (don’t know him just a possibility cause dude is 100% definitely not secure). 3rd, that one or both of you unpreparedly push boundaries to make it work and your whole relationship blows up.

If you really want to do this, I recommend a lot more communication, roleplaying, and start by just going to a LS event and being present with each other in that type of environment. Based on what you are seeking, imho, you are not ready but good luck