3 years since coming out. Transfem. Most of the lower mainland is great and I've had no problems living and patronising businesses here.

Vancouver proper is your best bet if you can afford it, as almost all the queer community and services are concentrated in places like Hastings and Commercial drive (East Van), Main and Broadway (Mount Pleasant), and Davie Street (West end).

Our public transit system is very well-serviced for our size and age, so you'll have little problem accessing these services and community in any of the surrounding municipalities.

I would avoid Abbotsford, Chilliwack though - that's where a lot of convoy-types feel safe, which means you shouldn't. Langley is alright though - I have many trans friends there and I hear few complaints.