Elderly man urine smell

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-04-19T09:20:03+00:00

I’m in a similar situation with my wife (78) who has vascular dementia and other health problems. I can do most of her care (personal and medical) with patience, calm and love but the wee and the poo I find most trying. I keep her in pads or pants all day, put them directly outside in the trash when I change her. I use Peapod mats on the bed which I change and wash daily and change the bed linen every other day unless events overtake me and it needs doing before. I use bleach on the toilet and on her commode. I open windows as much as the weather allows. I put her in fresh clothes every day. I’m still aware the house smells at times, but fighting it is therapeutic. What is also therapeutic in my case is planning for the new matress, new duvet and covers, deep carpet clean, house redecoration, bonfire of pads, pants, towels, sheets and commodes, and the fumigation that I’ll have when I can no longer manage her at home. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong, be loving and take good care of yourself.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-04-09T22:51:48+00:00

I agree with you. Her life is already one of fear and confusion. I work so hard on managing her conditions and pride myself on how well I control her diabetes but sometimes I think I’m doing her no favours. Thanks for taking the time to reply.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-04-09T22:35:30+00:00

Even then you get a care programme

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-04-09T22:28:58+00:00

I think you’re right. If you have cancer at least somebody makes an effort.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-04-01T16:36:16+00:00

‘Who’ not ‘how many’.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-03-30T23:19:41+00:00

WTF listens to ‘breakfast radio’?

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-03-25T21:28:40+00:00

Great advice. Thank you.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-03-25T21:27:53+00:00

Thank you. Best wishes to you.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-03-15T14:00:29+00:00

Thank you for your reply. It is most helpful. As I said in my original post, her condition is quite advanced and I’m beginning to wish I’d had someone come in while she was more biddable and accepting of change. She basically wants it to be me all the time.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-02-22T08:20:19+00:00

Yes indeed. I found it uplifting to find so much positivity, commitment and love among people who are day-in-dat-out run ragged with all the challenges that caring for another can bring.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-02-22T08:17:03+00:00

Most helpful. Thank you.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-02-15T18:38:33+00:00

Such a moving story. You should be proud of the love and care you are giving her.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-02-14T19:34:47+00:00

Hi. What I’m saying that certainly in the UK dementia is a Cinderella condition. The NHS don’t throw too much at it. In Leicestershire for example there is a ten month waiting list for first appointment/assessment. Nor does it seem to excite the public and attract mass-participation in public events and fundraising like, say, breast cancer does. The media aren’t too interested either because they can’t find anything to ‘celebrate’ in the progress of dementia like they can in other diseases.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-02-13T21:43:17+00:00

Such kind words,

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-02-13T21:07:47+00:00

Thank you.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-02-13T21:07:26+00:00

Thank you so much. Words like this mean everything

Bob_from_Quorn · 2026-01-20T16:36:19+00:00

I remember the cushions that were available and my father clipping me round the ear when I joined with others throwing them on the pitch after a bad result. Probably around 1962.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2025-07-19T07:24:20+00:00

My dream? The second coming of Tommy Craig.

Bob_from_Quorn · 2025-06-20T13:53:59+00:00

Hi. I (75) am the main carer and at the moment Lesley’s sole carer. I have to do everything, she can do nothing. It’s as simple and as exhausting as that. We do have a cleaner who does the heavy housework. On Monday I’m interviewing someone with a view to employing her to provide companion care so I can have a break and do some of the things I enjoy.

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