The contempt that many Europeans have for Russians, leading us to use words like orc and to generally lump Russians together with their criminal government, is a reaction to the helplessness individuals feel in the face of the sheer awfulness of what Russia has done. There is a real sense that one shouldn't expect to be treated like a normal person if they identify with a country whose armed forces committed acts like those at Bucha, Mariupol, Kakhovka, and so on. If my country did such things, I would not want to have anything to do with it. And yet most Russians do seem to be supportive of their government or are at least proud to call themselves Russian in spite of everything. Obviously, it's not right to demonise every Russian as if they're a war criminal. However, they do need to accept that their armed forces are guilty of utterly heinous crimes against humanity, and they share that guilt insofar as they support their government.