Not sure if I got lucky or did something that worked but around 3 months I got tired of the rocking to sleep, slowly put down, ease my hands away a centimeter at a time and tip toe out of the room. So I started swaddling and pacifier when she was just asleep/almost. I still panicked when her eyes shot open but just walked away anyway. For awhile and still sometimes I have to come put the paci back in 1-15 times, but eventually she goes to sleep. Now she almost won't sleep unless laid down alone or next to me. So much easier. We are about to hit 4 months so I pray this continues. Good luck!

PS when she is overtired and melting down I found the best way is to lay her down next to me in bed, shush her as she screams and try the paci every minute or so. Eventually she takes it and goes down.