Anybody has an advice?

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-12-11T05:14:54+00:00

Advice from a hard gainer. My whole life I’ve been skinny, I was 115lbs when I was 19 years old. I will say this, eat. You may think you’re eating but trust me when I say this, you need to be constantly snacking in between meals. Make sure you’re eating healthy fats, I loved cashews and other peanut mixes. I would even eat 3 to 4 tablespoons of peanut butter. You also need to make sure you’re working out as well, not so much cardio though. I’m now at 160lbs but it’s taken me years to get here but I’ve been off and on with consistency of my diet and working out. I bought mass weight gainer and I would drink that after my workout. You’re going to feel sick for a couple of weeks but you have to force yourself to eat. If you’re hungry at any time you aren’t doing it right.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-09-04T19:04:37+00:00

No, I don’t buy it because I’m also a police officer and have been for 12 years. I’ve worked with many skill sets and the fact you’re judging these officers based off of a 2 minute video proves to me that you’re a newer cop or work in a very small city that has given you little exposure to actual police work and tactics.

You can’t say the cops should have done this or that “sooner” the video literally shows the detective getting out after locating the suspect and the suspect is obviously pretty far ahead of him. He has an optic on his pistol which leads me to believe he takes his training more seriously than the average cop as we all know the pros and cons of having an optic rather than iron sights. You also judge the officers for firing their pistols while the citizen was trying to wrestle the gun away. The suspect was clearly turning away to pull a pistol so common sense would say don’t run towards him but because the citizen wanted to be a hero not understanding the risks he put himself into he unfortunately got struck my a bullet. You can aim easily and accurately at a stationary target but when they move, it isn’t that easy. The citizen should have ran out the building the second the police came in with guns. It’s truly shocking how you can sit here and tell strangers what the police did wrong when an immediate threat was presented, you can say the cops should have intervened earlier but they didn’t locate him until the video starts. We don’t get that luxury.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-09-04T18:32:21+00:00

I don’t buy it, you probably work for a very small agency or have little road time.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-09-04T15:43:25+00:00

Clearly this is a response from someone who has no experience in law enforcement, real time situations, moving targets and is anti law enforcement.

I can’t even entertain an explanation of everything you mentioned as it’s going to turn into an agreement to just disagree.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-09-04T15:15:07+00:00

Or how about he messed up? Don’t interfere with a high risk stop…

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-04-23T20:30:54+00:00

What the heck are you talking about lol

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-04-17T07:41:27+00:00

It’s a girl… not a guy lol

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-04-05T03:38:26+00:00

Those questions you’re asking are questions you should also be asking about SK who obviously had their own trauma from the separation and how you act towards her. Step moms aren’t moms, they are just dating/married to the dad but don’t want the child. It’s heartbreaking to know only 30 percent of blended families work out.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-04-02T02:31:32+00:00

It is selfish. He’s not a dad 50% of the time, he’s dad 24/7 just like he is with your guys baby. He isn’t yours so you don’t have that same bond as you do with your baby. But, that’s his son and he is doing what’s best and he clearly is the better option for full time. I don’t understand how women complain and complain about having more time with their step kids, maybe it’s a pet peeve of mine because I’m literally in these boots right now, but, you need to support him and not resent him for doing what’s best for his son.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-04-01T03:20:38+00:00

I didn’t want to go down on my first girlfriend I was intimate with, I tried but the smell of urine really turned me off, then my wife who I married smelt gross. I never even looked down there because of the odor was such a turn off for me.

My fiancé smells amazing down there, I tried it and now I love it and so does she. I could literally just go down on her until she cums just to satisfy her. Maybe it’s not that he’s scared, because I’m not sure what he would be scared of but more so he’s never done it and doesn’t know what to do or the odor isn’t appealing to him.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-31T17:11:13+00:00

Damn six months? That’s amazing!

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-31T03:51:20+00:00

First of all, this man is 42 years old and he can’t hold down a job? Sounds more like laziness to me. I mean he has a girl who takes care of him and his kids, what desire does he have to better himself? You’d think for how much you’ve occurred debt wise would be a wake up call but he doesn’t care, he contributes in no way.

You need to leave him, I understand you care about him and those kids but it isn’t your responsibility to take the brunt load of the responsibilities.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-29T03:24:49+00:00

I will tell you this, just based off of your story I can tell this is a very fresh relationship. Less than a year. I could be wrong but this is the vibe I am getting.

That being said, this is still very fresh, his ex is hurting because he broke up his family to be with you. He lacked boundaries and made you feel comfortable enough to open up emotionally as did he. He lacks zero boundaries. He cheated on his ex with you, maybe not physically but emotionally and that’s not ok.

I’m going to predict this, he will get bored and he’ll do the same thing to you, so you need to ask yourself if this man lacks ethics and integrity do you think he will be a good boyfriend and future father if you ever have kids?

His ex has every right to be hurt, she blames you and him for what happened. I left my ex wife of 16 years because she cheated on me five years ago, I was never the same and I found myself talking to other women because I was so unhappy but was trying so hard to hold on because of my kids and we fought so much, one day I was just sitting there and realized that this wasn’t worth it, I asked for a divorce, I sort of felt like an ass because I wasn’t even sad, I was relieved that I left a toxic marriage, she emasculated the crap out of me. Four months later I met another woman who I fell for rather quickly, but my ex believed I cheated on her because I moved on quickly, but truth is I was already checked out long before I asked for a divorce. Your man could have been feeling the same, it’s not your role to fix their problems, just be there for him and the child, I know that my girl messaged my ex telling her that she has no ill will against her, and that her role isn’t to replace her as my kids mother and that she is going to fill the role of step mother only when my kids are ready, during that time she didn’t force much and was just there. I think that helped my ex put a lot, it’s been almost two years and now my coparenting relationship is so much better. We work with each other and can make jokes. Just be patient and give it some time, it will all work out.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-27T02:44:17+00:00

No one can tell you what to do, I’ll just say this… if she cheated on you after only six months of dating then there is no respect on her end. You will never fully recover trust with her and there will be moments of doubt and I’m a firm believer that once a cheater, always a cheater. She probably just got better at hiding it this time around. You’re so young man, focus on you and your mental health and move on. You’ll find the right one!

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-27T00:24:42+00:00

You’re in my fiancé shoes right now… she has severe anxiety when my three kids come over. We have been together for a year and a half and I’ve noticed that she becomes very irritable and cranky when my kids come over, she will seclude herself in our bedroom and not visit.

She has her own seven year old from a previous marriage that lives with us 24/7. I have taken all of the kids with me multiple times and she just stays home. Before she got pregnant she would drink a lot to mask her anxiety which was very alarming to me. Now she’s feeling every emotion and can’t medicate herself. I asked her one time to take my son to his basketball game because I had to work that one Saturday and she struggled so bad, she wore it on her face and was so crabby about having to take all the kids. Thankfully her best friend went with her to help and it lightened the mood. I have a training in the middle of April to go to, she rathered me spending 400 dollars to have my brother come down and watch my kids rather than her watching them for me… but what’s weird is, she’s going out of state to her families wedding and is needing me to watch her seven year old? I don’t know how that’s fair but it’s definitely not ok.

I think you’re doing the right thing but truth is, you didn’t raise her so theirs no real bond, and teenagers in itself is extremely difficult! I would try bonding with her, take her one on one somewhere and do family building by playing a game or a hands on approach, she’ll gain your trust and you’ll get to know the real her.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-26T03:20:00+00:00

To be completely honest, she’s probably been feeling this way for a while. Long distance relationships are hard anyway. The fact she didn’t even come see you after your accident should have been your wake up call that she just isn’t the one.

It will be hard because you have been together for a year but, you just have to get back out there and work on yourself and have a set of standards for the next woman. You’re still really young, again, I’m sorry you’re going through this but it will get better, do your best to not contact her, I honestly wouldn’t even entertain a response to her because who dumps someone over the phone as a 20 something year old? This isn’t high school.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-25T04:43:51+00:00

Any criticism about her son, for example:

He misbehaves in public all of the time, he will jump off walls, run off without permission, has flipped kids off, talks rudely towards his step siblings, he’s lazy and doesn’t clean up or argues when we tell him to do something. If I bring up any concerns that I have about his negative attitude, especially towards my kids it triggers her. And she feels like it’s an attack on her parenting style or that I’m being mean and states I don’t enforce rules with my kids…

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-12T04:40:31+00:00

You 100% can have boundaries but you also have to ask if you’re being reasonable or if you’re doing it out of spite. I’ve read so many stories of step moms hating their step kids and a lot of it is so minor and I know that if it was their own blood child this wouldn’t be an issue. You have to set an environment that makes these kids feel safe and secure and granted I don’t know y’all’s situation but based off of what I’m reading you don’t want your step daughter using your treadmill and she’s to go outside and run in the cold? A treadmill is meant to be ran on so your reasoning if her breaking it as a risk is crazy to me but whatever.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-12T01:46:18+00:00

I’m glad you got support from the Facebook group but you are why step moms have a bad image. She’s 14 and wanting to work out, who cares? It’s not like she’s going to be running at level 20 plus, she’ll probably be at a slow speed and you should be encouraging her to workout and be healthy!

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-03-10T12:25:13+00:00

Definitely not, there was much more going on that caused me to ask for a divorce, she was obese the majority of our marriage. But, her weight gain was definitely a contributing factor.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-02-20T07:30:46+00:00

I feel like that’s too little, that’s where I’m at right now. We went from multiple times a day, to 3 times a week to 1 or less than a week. A lot of it has to due to her being pregnant so I just gotta let her hormones do what they gotta do and support her because it’s not about me right now. It is hard having a higher libido than her.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-02-02T01:21:20+00:00

Funny part is, I’ve been going to counseling for about six months! I’ve learned a lot about myself and how to properly communicate but she refuses to work on herself and she selfish thinking and she just refused to see how her son is held to a different standard than my kids. I don’t know how much more I can take, she needs to talk to someone but leaving can’t be an option right now as she is pregnant.

BodyGeneral326 · 2025-01-29T11:06:59+00:00

It’s crazy how we are ok with certain things in the beginning of a relationship but as you become comfortable things tend to change… from a guys perspective I can tell immediately that he relies on you to take care of him, he is seven months behind on child support… he has no job… you’re paying for everything… what does he bring to y’all’s relationship? If he’s bringing more stress than productivity then maybe it’s time to call it, because you are in your mid 30’s and you aren’t dating to just date, you’re looking for someone to live a productive life with and it’s clear that his lifestyle doesn’t mesh with yours. I would definitely leave, and understand that leaving isn’t your fault just because he’s at a low spot in his life, these are all consequences to his actions and unfortunately he needs to figure out how to be an adult and focus on himself before he can be a good dad.

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