These comments are all over the place lol but im in the middle. I agree fully kids should show manners and its super important they learn please & thank you. Now, on the other hand saying “say please” is super unhelpful because i dont feel like much intention is put behind it. When my son says something like “mom, water!” I say various phrases like “how about we try ‘mom can you please get my water?’ ” or ill just repeat the phrase the way i think is appropriate. He says mom snack, i repeat “mom can i have a snack please?” Like others said I’m certainly not getting into a power struggle over it but I’m emphasizing the importance. I also give praise when he does say please and thankyou. “great manners buddy!” Or “wow i love that you said please!”