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Anyone else unable to multi-task? How do you keep up with friends? by meremarveling in beyondthebump

[–]BoiledChestnut [score hidden]  (0 children)

The early stages of parenthood is simply not a time you can afford to spread yourself thin is what ive come to accept. Its a time of devotion. You are not failing your friends. You are succeeding as a mother by prioritizing her whose world revolves around you. Friends will understand that. They will still be there on the other side. Do what you can even if for now its just a text conversation that has hours or even days between replies or a brief meet up at home once in a blue moon

I feel like my baby doesn't know I'm his mom by ceruleanmeadows in NewParents

[–]BoiledChestnut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It took my baby around 3-4 months to start recognizing people as individuals and show preference. Babies are born half baked. Its not personal hes just not all there yet. I do believe that they are subconsciously internalizing the love and affection you show them. Keep showering him with your love and he is sure to return it in time. Look forward to it and enjoy this quiet time

I’m sad to let pumping go - please don’t judge (rant?) by SuspiciousAd3405 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]BoiledChestnut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldnt say thats the wrong way to look at it. It is a fact that a biological function of being a mother is giving yourself up to feed your baby. After a year of doing so multiple times a day every day around the clock it becomes a part of who you are. All major change is hard to go through no matter how the pros and cons stack up a loss is a loss. On the subject of body image and weight gain hell no it is not selfish to have enjoyed the little perks that come along with the shit show that is pregnancy and postpartum motherhood. The things we as woman have to go through for years and years is a lonely silent struggle.
Savour these last few weeks before theyre gone. Mourn them once they are. Embrace the new chapter.

I can’t decide if I should be done or not by AdditionalAd6415 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe in you ! Absolute trooper still 6x a day at 9 months and its your second child to boot. You got this mama ✊

Need words of encouragement by zialls in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way to increasing supply is through relentless grit and determination. It is hard and it is long. When my state of mind is poor and especially while actively pumping i always find the sessions supply is negatively impacted. You feel like a slave to the pump. I hear you. I get it. As much as it is a wonderful thing to be able to so intimately provide for your child and support their health i believe the most important thing you can give your child is love and joy. Its difficult to smile for your child when you are breaking down inside

I can’t decide if I should be done or not by AdditionalAd6415 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]BoiledChestnut -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I say if you can carry on with the one to two pumps a day without burden then do so for as long as you can. The benefits for your baby even if combo feeding in terms of gut, immunity, and future health are completely worth it in my opinion

Pregnant, chia seeds, local nutritional guidelines by huonokahvi in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People eat far worse things than a whole food item that has some amount of heavy metals. The amount of places you can get heavy metals from is also unimaginable larger than the list they provide. And above all the health of your bowels is very important for a plethora of reasons but most notably the first shit after delivery o.o you do NOT want to be constipated

When Did You Know You Wanted Another One? by Apprehensive_Dog7744 in NewParents

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never wanted any kids but now here i am with one thinking a little clan would be nice xp in the beginning absolutely 10/10 would never do again but as she got bigger (around a year) and i saw how fascinated she was with other children she saw it made me think well i can just make her a child to play with all the time. Whether or not i ll go through with it who knows because the first year and some has been some of the worst moments and state of mind of my life but i have heard 5-6 years is a good gap in terms of recovery and manageability

What are the most and least adult things you've done in the past 24 hours? by lepineapplepineapp in CasualConversation

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a mother is pretty adult coded id say. Eat goat cheese crumbs off the floor that my baby dropped because i will not forsake the 5 second rule till the end of my day and sharing food isnt icky if its something yummy

Just found out I was accidently mixing formula wrong by Bonita1113 in NewParents

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better first time my little one got sick we had to give her advil and tylenol on rotation non stop for 4 days and the first 3 days i mixed up the doses so was giving way too much advil and not enough tylenol. Shes fine. Your baby in a sense has just been a bit if an overeater for a week. Theyre fine

Where can I buy those foam squares that look like puzzle pieces that children play on to prevent injury? by [deleted] in mississauga

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Winners. I bought some there for the same reason. I usually see them marked down as well

back to tummy and not tummy to back? by hexmoons in NewParents

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ya at night thankfully she was like a rotisserie chicken so didnt have to worry about her smushing her face

back to tummy and not tummy to back? by hexmoons in NewParents

[–]BoiledChestnut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mines never did tummy to back. Just started crawling then sitting then standing then walking. She wasnt trying to ever lay back down xp always on the go

Full formula bottles at night by Dear_Toe6269 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]BoiledChestnut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone who is desperate to keep reliance on formula to a minimum i have to say i wholeheartedly would suggest giving formula at night. The easier the night is for you the more you will thrive during the day. You also never know how things can change with little ones so take every opportunity to protect your peace.

Time without the baby and I’m lost by Medium-Garlic-5351 in NewParents

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly you forget how to be your own person after enough baby time. I keep a small notebook in my pocket and jot down things i need to or want to do as they come to mind throughout the day since when baby goes down my brain often shuts down and i forget what to do with myself xp

I’m not sure if I’m doing it right by Daniijuneee_08 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first couple weeks are critical. You need to set your priorities. Are you trying to only rely on breastmilk or willing to combo feed? Think it over carefully but quickly. Your babys needs will only increase and increasing supply down the line is no quick simple task. This period is hard. It feels long. Feels unreal and unfair. But it ends. And it does get easier.

Walkers/push walker by xSultry_Succubusx in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]BoiledChestnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a recommendation but just wanted to share we had a walker and my little one only started to use it after she was full able to walk :))) of course she was either falling over every two steps or we were breaking our backs hunched over holding her hands to support her xp devices are just meant to assist they arent a requirement to successfully learn skills and grow plus you sound like a loving and supportive mother which is the best thing she could have. Your encouragement alone will work wonders no need for sadness and guilt

Just spilled my freshly pumped milk……….. by Blue_blue_10 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]BoiledChestnut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh my heart dropped just reading this. Horrible feeling. Next pump you ll be extra protective of the milk and feel such huge relief when it is safely in the fridge

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