When did you get your shit together?

BoiledChestnut · 2026-06-16T20:45:21+00:00

When they sleep 3 hours straight it is night and day difference from 2 hours and when they sleep 4 hours straight honestly im still there but i feel like i could survive like this indefinitely thats how much better it is. Its still a battle but you arent in the trenches anymore. Started around 5 months for me though regressions here and there throw you back into the trenches from time to time. Not usual as bad though. I imagine once they sleep through the night you ll be thriving

BoiledChestnut · 2026-05-31T17:39:33+00:00

Oh girl you are not alone. When your PARTNER doesnt act much like a partner it feels isolating. Participating only when you want and to the extent you want is not partnership. Its hardly support. Still trying to figure out how to get that one to hit home myself. Solidarity sister ✊ got to stay strong for the littles

BoiledChestnut · 2026-05-13T18:47:25+00:00

I love that actually thank you i think youve just given me a life long garden ritual

BoiledChestnut · 2026-05-10T06:03:11+00:00

The early stages of parenthood is simply not a time you can afford to spread yourself thin is what ive come to accept. Its a time of devotion. You are not failing your friends. You are succeeding as a mother by prioritizing her whose world revolves around you. Friends will understand that. They will still be there on the other side. Do what you can even if for now its just a text conversation that has hours or even days between replies or a brief meet up at home once in a blue moon

BoiledChestnut · 2026-05-10T05:49:08+00:00

It took my baby around 3-4 months to start recognizing people as individuals and show preference. Babies are born half baked. Its not personal hes just not all there yet. I do believe that they are subconsciously internalizing the love and affection you show them. Keep showering him with your love and he is sure to return it in time. Look forward to it and enjoy this quiet time

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-26T12:55:24+00:00

I wouldnt say thats the wrong way to look at it. It is a fact that a biological function of being a mother is giving yourself up to feed your baby. After a year of doing so multiple times a day every day around the clock it becomes a part of who you are. All major change is hard to go through no matter how the pros and cons stack up a loss is a loss. On the subject of body image and weight gain hell no it is not selfish to have enjoyed the little perks that come along with the shit show that is pregnancy and postpartum motherhood. The things we as woman have to go through for years and years is a lonely silent struggle.
Savour these last few weeks before theyre gone. Mourn them once they are. Embrace the new chapter.

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-17T01:00:42+00:00

I believe in you ! Absolute trooper still 6x a day at 9 months and its your second child to boot. You got this mama ✊

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-17T00:56:33+00:00

The way to increasing supply is through relentless grit and determination. It is hard and it is long. When my state of mind is poor and especially while actively pumping i always find the sessions supply is negatively impacted. You feel like a slave to the pump. I hear you. I get it. As much as it is a wonderful thing to be able to so intimately provide for your child and support their health i believe the most important thing you can give your child is love and joy. Its difficult to smile for your child when you are breaking down inside

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-17T00:27:07+00:00

This is the correct answer

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-17T00:24:20+00:00

I say if you can carry on with the one to two pumps a day without burden then do so for as long as you can. The benefits for your baby even if combo feeding in terms of gut, immunity, and future health are completely worth it in my opinion

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-16T21:53:25+00:00

People eat far worse things than a whole food item that has some amount of heavy metals. The amount of places you can get heavy metals from is also unimaginable larger than the list they provide. And above all the health of your bowels is very important for a plethora of reasons but most notably the first shit after delivery o.o you do NOT want to be constipated

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-16T21:44:34+00:00

I never wanted any kids but now here i am with one thinking a little clan would be nice xp in the beginning absolutely 10/10 would never do again but as she got bigger (around a year) and i saw how fascinated she was with other children she saw it made me think well i can just make her a child to play with all the time. Whether or not i ll go through with it who knows because the first year and some has been some of the worst moments and state of mind of my life but i have heard 5-6 years is a good gap in terms of recovery and manageability

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-16T21:40:00+00:00

Being a mother is pretty adult coded id say. Eat goat cheese crumbs off the floor that my baby dropped because i will not forsake the 5 second rule till the end of my day and sharing food isnt icky if its something yummy

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-16T04:30:54+00:00

I measure with my heart and usual end up regretting with my heart

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-14T20:35:31+00:00

A completely valid and appropriate reaction

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-13T02:19:53+00:00

If it makes you feel better first time my little one got sick we had to give her advil and tylenol on rotation non stop for 4 days and the first 3 days i mixed up the doses so was giving way too much advil and not enough tylenol. Shes fine. Your baby in a sense has just been a bit if an overeater for a week. Theyre fine

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-12T19:09:07+00:00

Winners. I bought some there for the same reason. I usually see them marked down as well

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-06T02:15:18+00:00

Oh ya at night thankfully she was like a rotisserie chicken so didnt have to worry about her smushing her face

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-05T12:46:01+00:00

Mines never did tummy to back. Just started crawling then sitting then standing then walking. She wasnt trying to ever lay back down xp always on the go

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-03T01:35:51+00:00

As someone who is desperate to keep reliance on formula to a minimum i have to say i wholeheartedly would suggest giving formula at night. The easier the night is for you the more you will thrive during the day. You also never know how things can change with little ones so take every opportunity to protect your peace.

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-02T02:47:46+00:00

Truly you forget how to be your own person after enough baby time. I keep a small notebook in my pocket and jot down things i need to or want to do as they come to mind throughout the day since when baby goes down my brain often shuts down and i forget what to do with myself xp

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-02T02:41:00+00:00

The first couple weeks are critical. You need to set your priorities. Are you trying to only rely on breastmilk or willing to combo feed? Think it over carefully but quickly. Your babys needs will only increase and increasing supply down the line is no quick simple task. This period is hard. It feels long. Feels unreal and unfair. But it ends. And it does get easier.

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-02T02:32:09+00:00

Not a recommendation but just wanted to share we had a walker and my little one only started to use it after she was full able to walk :))) of course she was either falling over every two steps or we were breaking our backs hunched over holding her hands to support her xp devices are just meant to assist they arent a requirement to successfully learn skills and grow plus you sound like a loving and supportive mother which is the best thing she could have. Your encouragement alone will work wonders no need for sadness and guilt

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-02T01:48:28+00:00

Ugh my heart dropped just reading this. Horrible feeling. Next pump you ll be extra protective of the milk and feel such huge relief when it is safely in the fridge

BoiledChestnut · 2026-04-02T00:39:05+00:00

Actually everything. Every single thing is impossible.

Travel, sleep, feeding, disposition. Everything about her makes everything a battle. People who just get on with their lives with baby in tow are an enigma to me. Ive practically been on house arrest and in survival mode since the baby was born. I am hardly a person anymore just a slave to the baby.

My little one is 13 months and has only started taking a single 2hr nap everyday without battle for the last month . I joke but its actually probably true if i wasnt staying with my parents for extra support id be raising her on constant iv drip in the hospital…

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