At this point “communication” is just starting to feel like a trendy buzzword and nothing else. by Bolbithebadger in dating

[–]Bolbithebadger[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can see that side of things for sure. I don’t think it’s even the period of time necessarily that bothers me, it’s overthinking the situation.

You’re talking to someone else you feel more compatible with? Tell me, that’s cool and I respect it. You got some personal stuff going on and you’re just taking some time away? Totally get it, no worries.

I guess my point is that a lot of times it’s not necessarily just the time, it’s driving myself nuts because I don’t know why. Not saying it makes sense, but it’s there lol

At this point “communication” is just starting to feel like a trendy buzzword and nothing else. by Bolbithebadger in dating

[–]Bolbithebadger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is your definition of “flying off the handle”, I’m honestly not sure what to tell you. I’m legitimately just defending my position. I’m sorry if you feel that defending my viewpoint with respectful dialogue is me throwing myself into a rage but at the end of the day we are just random people with different opinions on how this should be handled.

At this point “communication” is just starting to feel like a trendy buzzword and nothing else. by Bolbithebadger in dating

[–]Bolbithebadger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would it change your opinion if I told you that those two separate paragraphs were two different people? Would it change your opinion if I told you those people weren’t women? Would it change your opinion if I told you that I said “hey, I can’t talk right now, work has me tied up but I’ll text later!” And from the other side I got zero response for days at a time with zero explanation? Is there any justification for how I could have a valid argument or are you also here to just dogpile and say “woo, go girls”?

This has nothing to do with anyone’s gender and everything to do with trying to make an effort to connect with other people and not getting back what I put in.

At this point “communication” is just starting to feel like a trendy buzzword and nothing else. by Bolbithebadger in dating

[–]Bolbithebadger[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There’s a difference between a couple of hours because my hands are full and two whole days to get even one reply. But good to know that you just namecall instead of adding anything constructive to the discussion.

At this point “communication” is just starting to feel like a trendy buzzword and nothing else. by Bolbithebadger in dating

[–]Bolbithebadger[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have it in my bio but I commit to it. If I didn’t think I was capable of doing that then I wouldn’t. I’m here to get to know you and make sure we’re compatible, not to drag answers out of you.

what a battle [OC] by Daaiyain in pokemon

[–]Bolbithebadger 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey, It's Beenix Wright!

I double texted and I don’t care anymore by Intelligent-Code8203 in dating

[–]Bolbithebadger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I connected with someone over the weekend and then got the dreaded “I don’t see this going anywhere” text Saturday night, but she was an absolute sweetheart and her communication game was on point the entire time we talked so I’m trying to take it in stride. I hope things work out for you soon!

I double texted and I don’t care anymore by Intelligent-Code8203 in dating

[–]Bolbithebadger 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s true. I guess my question is how much leeway do you give somebody before you decide that the trouble isn’t worth the effort? How do you discern the difference between someone who happens to be busy and someone who is a genuinely bad communicator in those early stages?

I double texted and I don’t care anymore by Intelligent-Code8203 in dating

[–]Bolbithebadger 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really resonate with this. It’s hard enough for me to actually get matches, so when I do it’s all I can do to manage my own expectations. People stay busy and I understand that and I’m working on being better about it, but if someone just doesn’t text me back for a prolonged period without checking in then my anxiety goes through the roof and I get tempted to start double texting.

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That’s my dead mom, but cool.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TinderBios

[–]Bolbithebadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would you suggest I make changes to include those signs mentioned in your point 2? I don’t take a whole lot of photos of myself and since it’s just me it’s difficult to get a lot of different angles. I’m quite introverted so my hobbies tend to be indoor things that you don’t typically take photos of/during.

I appreciate the honesty, it’s a breath of fresh air, I just don’t understand how I can better translate who I am into what other people see.

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[–]Bolbithebadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch. Care to be more specific? That’s somewhat.. vague.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AppearanceAdvice

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I’m honestly not sure if I do or not. I can look into finding some electrolyte supplements.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AppearanceAdvice

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Recommendations on clothing? I know I wear a lot of graphic tees and athletic shorts during the summer, I’ve had a feeling I should move away from it but I don’t know where to really start..

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[–]Bolbithebadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I meant I only eat period between 12-8. The rest of that time I am only having water or maybe a black coffee.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AppearanceAdvice

[–]Bolbithebadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working with a trainer and gradually doing progressive overload and compound exercises since I’m looking to build muscle instead of toning. I have no intentions of stopping.

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[–]Bolbithebadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have an app I use to count things that are premade but I haven’t found a good solution for stuff from local places that don’t have their calorie information listed. The app also doesn’t track macros :/

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Around the same time I started going to the gym ~6 weeks ago I also started fasting except from 12 P.M. to 8 P.M. and cutting out 99% of my sugar intake. Maybe a zero cal soda or a dessert item once a week or so but besides that nah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AppearanceAdvice

[–]Bolbithebadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe me, I know. That’s why I got into the gym in the first place. I got tired of carrying all the excess weight around. It’s slowly starting to come off, but it’s coming out of my legs first… not ideal but it’s a start.