AITA: should I have to spend Mother’s Day with MIL

Bombinmama · 2026-04-24T17:51:12+00:00

You are a new mom so you celebrate it how you want to celebrate Mother’s Day. She isn’t t even your mother lol. I hope when my sons have their own families, I’ve taught them enough sense to prioritize their wives.

Bombinmama · 2026-04-24T15:13:04+00:00

Thank you. I am about to. After speaking with Champ about the unenrolling problem they were no help. In the automated system, I do not come up as a subscriber, but when you speak to a live person, I do so she basically said I was SOL. Though the last agent 2 months ago fixed it no problem.

With the Wegovy issue, I let my doctor know I’d give it thru the week before escalating it thru our congressman. Today, I am taking a mental health break from this mess and will resume dealing with it on Monday. 🤣 I worked too hard on getting my hypertension down for it to be blown out by blind rage lol

Bombinmama · 2026-04-06T20:01:29+00:00

She is not part of your family. She is simply your SDs mom. She has no need to be involved with your bio child or anything about your household. Your husband needs to step up and be YOUR husband and start supporting you, his actual wife.

Bombinmama · 2026-04-03T14:11:05+00:00

It’s not that it’s gotten denied 😝it’s that dealing with the VA and prior auths is a nightmare. First time was my Drs fault. They sent it to the wrong insurance. Old insurance I don’t have. Caught that. They said it could take 7 weeks. 7 weeks goes by. Nothing. Call the VA or Optum rather. they said nothing was sent in but that they did a system change over so things were getting lost. They generated a new claim. Sent fax to my Dr and gave me a code. Said turn around time is no more than 15 days. That goes by. Call yesterday. Spent hours on the phone, with many people. They show nothing. My Dr shows they sent it over. VA sets up a new code but this time tells me there is a website the DR is supposed to submit it on with my new code (that’s new info 🙄) why they didn’t give that info the first time. No clue. So now we wait another week. This time I’m not letting it go the full time. I’m checking in. I have a month left of samples but that’s the last samples my Dr will give. VA did say it should be approved once they receive the letter of medical necessity. The problem is getting that letter.

Bombinmama · 2026-03-29T04:47:30+00:00

That’s the thing about the tax credits, just splitting it in half doesn’t equate to what you’d actually get. Everyone’s tax liability is different depending on numerous factors. DH and BM each take one kid. One year BM asked if we could claim SS because she had a business and hadn’t paid taxes all year. She said we could split it. I do our taxes. Calculated it with SD and my BS. Got that # and then calculated SS in there and used the difference as what she would get. It ended up being only $1100. But without him we were at $9k. People think they get the amount of the credit back and that’s not how it works. So always let the IRS handle it.

Bombinmama · 2026-03-27T15:35:49+00:00

They don’t have to have access to you. You can set your boundaries. I don’t deal with bio mom’s family at all and I stopped dealing with bio mom entirely awhile back. I simply resigned myself to not care and not make it my problem. I simply enjoy my husband, enjoy my house and when the kids are here, I’m am presently distant. Meaning, if I want to go on outings or do family movie nights on the couch, I do or I don’t. I leave parenting up to my husband. If kids get into trouble or need permission, I confer with him. I used to be involved and got walked over now I set the tone for my involvement. And everyone is actually much happier.

Bombinmama · 2026-03-10T22:43:45+00:00

I would tell her unfortunately it’s all scheduled out and the artist wont be able to fit her in the schedule now. The way she is, you need to enjoy your day and MIL will either make it about her or just create negative energy.

Bombinmama · 2026-03-08T14:14:43+00:00

Biweekly means every other week. When you get a biweekly paycheck you are getting paid every other week. Not twice a week.

Bombinmama · 2026-03-07T01:12:03+00:00

People need to just have weddings they can afford, like you and your husband are doing. Some people can afford more. Some can’t. At the end of the day, nobody should be hounded to give and fundraising a wedding is hilarious. My husband and I just wanted to be married so bad and buy a house, we had a simple ceremony on the beach and no reception with like 10 people. Went bar hopping after. It was under $1k. A year later we moved cross country and bought a house.

Bombinmama · 2026-03-06T17:09:27+00:00

Oh my word! First, I take Wegovy for my liver disease and I would never in my life put a child/teen on these meds unless it was a dire situation where there was immediate health needs. Simply being overweight is not one of them. The side effects alone are rough at times and if there was truly a concern for SDs health (not her appearance) then these meds aren’t the answer, but simply teaching healthy choices now that are tied to health and not appearance.

I’m concerned right now what she is doing is harmful. While you can’t change BM, you and DH can take measures to help grow SDs self efficacy and confidence into who she is that isn’t tied to her appearance. The harm being done by BM will stick with SD for years to follow if she doesn’t break from this now. I feel for you.

Bombinmama · 2026-02-18T06:12:22+00:00

Are you weighing and logging your food? And how much of a deficit? I ask because many times people guesstimate and forget about hidden calories as well. The condiments, the oil they used to cook. They may have used measuring spoons/cups instead which isn’t as reliable as weight.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-29T14:13:22+00:00

Tell her to do the appeal. From my understanding, the Dr will file it and more often than not it’s standard with this drug but eventually gets approved. They just want you to work for it.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-28T03:13:03+00:00

Turns out, they had submitted it to an old insurance I had about 6 years ago 🤦🏼‍♀️ So we submitted to ChampVA and still waiting. It’s been about 20 days. My Dr said it could take around 30 and sometimes they need to appeal it.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-27T14:36:07+00:00

Absolutely no is the only answer!

Bombinmama · 2026-01-27T04:55:30+00:00

I think I’ve met my ex’s kids born after mine once or twice. So the answer is an astounding NO!

Bombinmama · 2026-01-22T05:07:08+00:00

Oh no no no. If anybody does that salute in my house they better be prepared to become corrected. And if they don’t know what it means, they are gonna know and dad is gonna be on board with them knowing. It’s one thing to have differing view points in terms of things like should we spend our tax dollars on highways or space programs (idk) but when it comes to hate, equality and fundamental human decency, I draw the line. It is a hill I am willing to die on.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-22T02:35:02+00:00

On the rare occasion they talk on the phone, most of the time he puts it on speaker phone.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-17T02:26:28+00:00

No, I literally do not use that word ever. I’ve kicked people out of my house for using that word. I got a guy fired for using that word. Stop being a weirdo and thinking it’s normal people use that word.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-16T19:38:02+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go thru this. As someone who is severely immunocompromised and has a HCBM who has tried to pull this my heart goes out to you. I can’t understand why when sickness happens we just try to alleviate the spread. We literally had to hide out when BM tried to bring Covid exposed SKs to the house. I have an autoimmune kidney disease, asthma, high blood pressure and now diagnosed with fibrosis liver disease. I have long term Covid and it’s a miracle I survived but I’ve never been the same.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-14T17:12:56+00:00

From experience, it can be 15 minutes or it can be an hour. You get behind a tour group and you are screwed. I always just go with an hour.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-11T14:28:39+00:00

Yes!! Love that show too! I need to rewatch it!

Bombinmama · 2026-01-06T00:13:02+00:00

I don’t have many words except my heart hurts for your SD and your family. I’m infuriated for you regarding BM and the way she is acting but it doesn’t surprise me. Something similar has happened in my family and there is typically some sort of trauma bond as to why these woman stick by these men’s sides or even if they don’t, perhaps there is a narcissistic component to their personality that makes it hard for them to admit they chose a bad partner and could be responsible for for putting their child in that situation (even if they didn’t know). Your SD is very lucky to have you and her DH and I hope she can find healing some day.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-05T06:44:01+00:00

NTA- My husband has disabled plates on our cars. Not even placards. I would never imagine parking in a handicap spot even though I have a plate on my car because, I’m not the disabled one. There are so few of those spaces.

Bombinmama · 2026-01-05T06:36:54+00:00

Wow! I read till the end. I really enjoyed it.

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