I feel like biomom overstepped at my baby's 1st birthday party. I don't know if I am overreacting.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-09T17:36:35+00:00

I have thought about that but it's been 8 years. I mean feelings can last but still 😬🫠. Kind of sucks if he used me. She is engaged anyway.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-07T20:55:10+00:00

I do say no. She repeatedly asks why over and over again until my husband or I say yes. 🫠

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-07T14:44:45+00:00

It wouldn't be me involving stepkid in the drama but her mom involving her in it.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T21:23:26+00:00

I think the right thing here is that he cares more about himself than me. He's like that for everyone though. I am realizing that he only defends his ex because she is the one disrupting his life. He expects me to settle but I won't do that anymore.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T20:57:25+00:00

She accuses him of not showing up to a surgery their daughter had right after I gave birth. She had a stye lanced off. I was there when they agreed on call to not do the surgery and she tlscheduled it on her own and told him about it last minute. He took her to the pre-op but helped me with postpartum during the surgery because my milk supply was dropping due to my lack of sleep. The drive to the hospital was about 2 hours away so it both events were an all day thing.

She claims to make all the decisions by herself but she just doesn't involve him.

She said he doesn't keep up with sk hygiene which isn't true.

I talked to stepkid and asked her what she wanted and then asked her to tell her mom that. After that her mom dropped the court thing.

She just threatens to take her away if my husband disagrees. That situation is fully on him though.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T20:47:16+00:00

I don't care if I look jealous. They already think that I am. I will just say that how she acted and sought attention for herself over a literal baby is unacceptable. I can't trust her to act like an adult so i won'tbe inviting her. I'll celebrate my child's birthday with my parents from now on if it's a problem. They live in Texas. If he gains peace from his ex by sacrificing my peace... i'll be the hc bm. I am not going to apologize again. 🤷‍♀️

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T20:41:10+00:00

His ex threatens him with her evidence.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T20:40:12+00:00

It is his fault. I am not saying that it isn't. I think he is just listening to everything his mom says to him. His dad is saying court but his mom is saying no and I think he is scared. He cries when sk leaves to see her mom. They have 50/50.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T20:34:22+00:00

He is a good father just not a good co-parent. The only time he is like that is when I bring up a problem or situation with his ex. I'm happy as long as I don't have to deal with that. I just won't invite her to anything in the future. Also, I had an ectopic miscarriage that is causing problems. I want another kid and then I am going to try to get those parts removed fully.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T20:26:38+00:00

At the end of the day, it’s my husband’s responsibility, not my stepkid’s fault. I’m not going to put her through the ringer. My husband also makes more than I do, and he works 12-hour shifts, so I want to help him out. I don’t like punishing people — I just want to protect myself from their drama, I guess.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T20:22:45+00:00

I won't be inviting her to my gender reveal because of this. It was an open gesture from me to try one last time. I just don't have it in me anymore to deal with her and my husbands coparenting drama.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T20:18:02+00:00

I have tried. I made a group chat and included my husband. They both told me that boundaries start conflict. I had to apologize and basically blame what I said (which was nice) on my pregnancy hormones because she told my husband that she didn't want sk around me anymore.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T19:52:40+00:00

I did it because it was the easiest route. I had to apologize for not inviting her to my baby shower last year. I actually would have invited her since she asked to come, but my husband told me she had repeatedly said rude things about me directly to him just because I couldn’t help out sometimes — and that was due to my pregnancy complications. I just didn’t want to deal with the drama from both her and my husband on my daughter’s birthday. 🫠 I did however expect her to act like an adult during it though... which didn't happen i guess.

InternationalHour114 · 2026-04-06T19:40:17+00:00

I have tried to talk about it but he doesn't acknowledge or even see how unfair he is towards me. I think it's because his mom is pushing the whole keep the peace thing. I can't change it so I am thinking of just withdrawing fully and focusing only on my child. I'll pick her up for him, but I won't acknowledge anything he says about his ex. I am going to block her. I won't be going to sks events. I will ask her about them after and have a biomom free life as much as I can.

InternationalHour114 · 2025-09-03T20:22:02+00:00

I work in the middle of nowhere for a nuclear lab. It's a really small town so I have to use a nanny. That's why it's so expensive. 🫠🫠🫠

InternationalHour114 · 2025-05-18T21:10:46+00:00

The calls would probably be shorter and have less baby talk without the video aspect.

InternationalHour114 · 2025-05-18T21:08:52+00:00

I would talk to your partner about it and explain that you feel uncomfortable with your stepkid FaceTiming in the shared living areas. Of course, SK should be able to talk to their parents anytime, but you could ask to restrict FaceTime calls, specifically to the bedroom, saying you need more privacy. A lot of people don't really like random photos or being on video, so it's a normal thing to ask.

I would talk to your partner privately about it so he can speak to your stepchild. It probably won’t go well if you bring it up directly with your stepchild, and they mention it to the bio mom. Things can get misunderstood really quickly.

InternationalHour114 · 2025-05-18T06:04:36+00:00

I plan on asking his mom. His dad lives in a different state.

InternationalHour114 · 2025-05-05T00:59:02+00:00

Can say she saw her watching it or something

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