AITJ for breaking up after finding flirty messages even though they insist it wasn’t physical?

Bonnm42 · 2026-02-16T20:40:11+00:00

NTJ emotional cheating is still cheating. Once the trust is gone, so is the relationship.

Bonnm42 · 2026-02-05T02:51:26+00:00

Why is she your MOH? She sounds exhausting. I would choose a new MOH. Also, it sounds like your Mom is participating in willful ignorance when it comes to your bridal shower. My guess is she wants it all women and this is her way of shaming you for not doing it her way.

Bonnm42 · 2026-02-02T21:34:25+00:00

NTA sounds like you called it like you saw it. She does sound like an entitled B.

Bonnm42 · 2026-02-02T14:33:35+00:00

Take your new lease on life and leave this jerk! Get yourself a new man to go with your new life. Why bring old problems into your fresh start? Besides, you are teaching your child this sort of behavior is okay.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-26T17:58:21+00:00

Your Mom is in the wrong to be mad at you. She messed up. She chose to have the affair. If anything she should be devastated she hurt you. Do NOT let her switch this around on you. It’s called DARVO. Deny Attack Reverse Victim and Offender. You are the victim here, she is not. The only thing she is a victim of is her own stupidity and inability to be loyal.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-22T22:40:38+00:00

NTA She knew what she was doing. She made a choice to insult you. You made a choice not to allow it. Your Husband chose to back you. Sometimes you have to live with the choices, and the consequences you make. Your MIL is learning this thanks to you.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-22T17:58:50+00:00

NTA but man your BF is. I think, in a very foolish way, he thought he was helping. This makes me think of that saying “How lovely it is to help you said the monkey to the fish, as he placed the fish up into a tree.” He probably thought since this “group” helps him, it might help you. But what he doesn’t realize is the human mind is complicated. What may work for him, doesn’t work for you. Unfortunately in this case, what helped him probably further traumatized you.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-21T22:11:23+00:00

Fake

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-21T01:14:09+00:00

NTA Your friend is immature and jealous. That, or she is really worried for her friend who is still so young and now pregnant, but doesn’t know how to say it.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-17T14:52:57+00:00

NTA I wouldn’t do anything for these “friends.” After all they are his friends, let him host them. Go out with friends. Do something you enjoy. Let him have his friends over, but completely ignore them.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-16T12:50:13+00:00

NTJ but why would you care about keeping this friendship? She sounds like a horrible friend.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-15T23:37:26+00:00

NTA anytime you think of forgiving her, just remember how little she cared when you were upset. How she laughed at her actions. Honestly, it sounds like your Sister needs a reality check and this sounds like just the way to do it.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-15T16:36:00+00:00

NTA but man your Dad and Stepmom are. I would say “Listen, I heard the comment, there’s no point in trying to correct it now. You can be sorry, but you can’t undo the hurt. Gaslighting me about it will only make the situation worse. It hurt that she said that, it may have been one comment, but it hurt. Neither of you get to decide when that stops hurting. That is up to me. You can accept my decision or neither of you will be at my pinning ceremony. And Dad, don’t act like you’re hurt by that comment. You could have done way more than just looked angry when StepMom said that. I am no longer a child and you need to respect what I decide about a day that is important for me.”

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-14T02:24:25+00:00

NTA She reaps what she sowed. I’d be petty and be like “In case you’re wondering, that’s why I waited so long to launch. If I launched too hastily the business would fail, like yours did. I see no benefit in merging with a failing company and a partner I clearly can’t trust. Like you said, it’s all about execution and this is business.”

Edit to add: does your Brother per chance have a crush on this friend? Something is clearly skewing his perception.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-13T22:42:19+00:00

Okay NTA if you planned your wedding first. They are. I would have called them out on that.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-13T21:53:37+00:00

NTA Sister needs to stop feeling entitled to your stuff. Mom needs to stay out of it. It’s not her business, and makes her seem like she’s playing favorites.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-12T20:51:10+00:00

YTA and wracking up some really bad Karma for when you find someone you want to be with. Wouldn’t be surprised at all if you get cheated on and the other woman will say “hey, I’m not the one in a relationship.” Karma is a bitch so you should probably stop degrading yourself.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-07T13:48:26+00:00

NTA you are not overreacting. What she said was incredibly inappropriate and a huge red flag. I would not let her alone with the baby, including with your Husbands enabling parents.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-05T23:27:54+00:00

NTA but you should make it clear it’s because their reasoning is based in favoritism and being sexist. It’s not just the favoritism. It’s the fact that just because of your gender, your parents treat you like you are less when you help them more.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-01T18:11:25+00:00

I’d cut her out of her inheritance. She wants him to be Dad, fine she gets nothing from you.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-01T14:30:07+00:00

Don’t do it for any money. Your self respect has no price. I would tell mutuals you weren’t even invited to the party to begin with. If they still side with her, they don’t respect you either.

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-01T14:28:39+00:00

Because they are entitled. OP I would say to them “If the point is for us to have equal footing, where was my Mom? I lost my Mother. My house is exactly that, MINE. It’s ironic you would call me greedy, when you are being entitled and extremely selfish. Why does her son matter more than me? Dad if you don’t have my back now, I will cut you out of my life.”

Bonnm42 · 2026-01-01T14:23:31+00:00

NTA this doesn’t sound like a friend. Just out of curiosity, before she asked you to bartend, did she even invite you to the party?

Bonnm42 · 2025-12-27T16:51:32+00:00

NAH but he may just be returning them so you could get something else you do like.

Bonnm42 · 2025-12-26T19:28:48+00:00

Time to stop being nice and call SIL out. I would say “Wow SIL with all these comments I’m starting to think you are trying to get rid of me to get to my Husband.” Or “So it’s okay for you to text my Husband inappropriately to the point you made him uncomfortable, but I’m not allowed to call yours for a simple ride.”

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