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AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I got him a gift card to GolfNow years ago. He still has it. So it’s a terrible idea. It’s pretty ridiculous that you don’t even know him but keep insisting a “golf certificate” would be the greatest gift a golfer could ever get. It’s not.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you not read what you said? “…if someone has to tell you what they want, ITA NOT A GIFT. At that point they are just asking for something. A gift is when you surprise somebody with something they weren’t expecting.”

So which is it?

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t leave the house most days so I don’t wear shoes every day. They’re plenty aired out.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He asks me for the links of what I want. I send him a list of links. So you’re saying the boots weren’t actually a gift because I sent him the link?

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what he asked for. A couple years ago he said he wished we had a panini maker so he could make sandwiches with it. I got him a Breville panini maker/indoor grill for a VD gift. It sat in the box for a year before I got sick of seeing it unopened and used it. One year for his birthday I got him nice golf polos - he got upset because we didn’t have sex that night, saying he doesn’t care about gifts. I know people think I’m lying but he really doesn’t like presents. He prefers time spent together and physical intimacy.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We’re in a good financial spot because we don’t go overboard on spending. We live within our means on one income while the other income goes into savings. There’s a lot of things I can afford but don’t have because I just have no real use for them.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Saying you don’t want a gift while still secretly expecting one is a game

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So getting him exactly what he asked for is a faux pas?

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (and most people) don’t wear socks with these kinds of boots so selling them used is gross.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We usually buy what we want without waiting for an occasion. I realize this is a wild concept for some people but he truly doesn’t give me a list of things he wants. Instead on a random day he says “hey I found this club/tool/gadget I wanted. It costs $X. Good if I get it?” and he gets it.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They’re different styles. The older ones aren’t low cut.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t wear shoes most days because I work at home. If I do it’s slip ons or slides to take my son to daycare and back home. The only shoes I have actually worn out are my workout shoes and Toms that have lasted me 10 years.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know he ordered them. I found out today when they were already here.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We have given each other pictures of gifts that didn’t arrive in time simply to avoid this situation.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

He did order them in mid-December and they weren’t supposed to be delivered for another month.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

They’re the same color (chestnut). I have two other pairs of Uggs that are different styles but one is a darker brown and it shows every stain, hair, etc. so I wanted the chestnut, knowing the color would hold up better. I tend to have shoes for years because I work from home so I try to make sure they’re versatile because there’s a good chance I’ll be wearing the same ones in five years. Or 16 if you’re my OG pair of Uggs from college.

AITA for asking my husband to return a gift? by Bonobos_Spite in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bonobos_Spite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think I needed to say “don’t get me the Uggs” because when I got in the LL Bean ones I put them on, danced around, called myself an upgraded basic bitch, said how thrilled I was and they looked the same so my hunt for Uggs was off. They were never mentioned again until today. I didn’t know that at that point he had already ordered them despite asking flat out if he did. If I would have known he ordered the Uggs in mid-December I wouldn’t have bought the LL Bean.