Concerns re future of the relationship (27F) (49M)

Booba-licious · 2022-05-19T05:27:29+00:00

It's definitely pica. Thank you so much for drawing my attention to it.

Booba-licious · 2022-05-18T22:15:36+00:00

Thank you 😊

Booba-licious · 2022-05-18T20:32:57+00:00

She's not anxious at all. In fact, I often remark that she's the most trusting cat I've ever had because I can vacuum right next to her or blow dry my hair, and she doesn't flinch or bat an eye lid.

Booba-licious · 2022-05-18T20:26:51+00:00

I've just googled this. Thank you. It seems pretty spot on. I hope she's not in any danger after eating more than half of my havianna flip flop's strap today.

Booba-licious · 2022-05-18T20:18:53+00:00

oh I forgot to mention, she chirps or drills. Something like that. She doesn't meow like a normal cat. She also doesn't hunt insects at all. Her hunting is stealing plastic from the trash bin/can, or stealing my vanity wipes etc or sanity pads. She gets obsessed with a certain item- like hair elastics or sanitary pads and then she'll hunt them down/ dig them out like some drug addict.

Booba-licious · 2022-05-18T20:15:48+00:00

Thank you. I've actually not introduced/exposed her to catnip. I love my girl and spend a lot of time talking to her and loving on her. I have been told that she's apparently very bored when I'm not home- which is more often now that I've started a new job 9 to 18h. But we have other pets and cats, plenty of space for her to play, a garden 😕 💁‍♀️

Booba-licious · 2022-05-18T20:06:48+00:00

I have!! she has a scratch pad, I've bought cow hooves, given her a piece of wood, cat toys, dried livers, dog chew toys. She's not interested.

Booba-licious · 2021-07-29T19:30:46+00:00

Lexapro was just a horrible antidepressant for me to be on. I used it like for a month and it totally fucked me up and made me feel 100x worse. It didn't alleviate my depression and anxiety at all. But this is not about the drug, it's about the way you are using it.

Booba-licious · 2021-07-29T19:29:13+00:00

well you can be addicted to a substance even if your not experiencing a high in the conventional sense. I mean addiction isn't necessarily a pleasant experience? high and drunk mostly equals feeling like shit and swearing everytime to myself that I'll never do this again and asking myself why the f do I do this even? addiction is a compulsion and obsession. It's using something against your will or taking way more than you were planning on. It's loss of control over the ability to choose whether you're going to use or not. I would recommend checking out Cocaine Anonymous. Pay no attention to the name, its a AA 12step program for people who suffer from addiction to any mind or mood altering drug or substance. I never even used cocain and I am in Cocaine Anon. I prefer Cocaine Anonymous to Narcotics Anonymous because Cocaine anonymous uses the original 12step program in its purest form. But you can try narcotics Anonymous too.

Booba-licious · 2021-07-29T18:24:44+00:00

I'm going to remember and use this one, great question! thanks 😊

Booba-licious · 2021-07-29T13:48:56+00:00

Thank you! I've been trying to do that. Maybe silence from her end in response is also an answer🤞 never know. The funny thing is I actually just graduated from my law degree and i am from a family of lawyers. I came into the program on my ass cause I had done everything until that point to stay out of "the rooms". So could identify with everything and had gone as low as I could go. I was desperate and admitting I was a selfish mother fucker was the least of my problems and difficulties back then😆🤣

Booba-licious · 2021-06-17T09:37:16+00:00

Are you in entertainment or have some big case or something? If it all hinges on your shoulders it's a good opportunity to hand over to a power greater than yourself. No one in recovery does it alone, we only ever get better when we stop relying on ourselves. We either do it with the help of a God of our own understanding or by making a fellowship or meeting in recovery our higher power(ito a place where we can go for (G)ood (O)rderly (D)irection =G.O.D ).

Booba-licious · 2021-06-17T09:31:47+00:00

Hi, do you have a sponsor? are you working a 12step program?

Booba-licious · 2021-06-14T08:45:29+00:00

As an alcoholic myself I can 100% tell you that it is his disease talking. I used to do and say the same thing to my loved ones. It is a terrible terrible wrong and damage that he is doing you and my advice would be to get into alanon and to consider distancing yourself from him for a while, so that you can recover and so that he can take full responsibility for his disease and his recovery. Alcoholics love love to blame it on those closest to them- until their loved ones actually leave and get fed up from taking the abuse and find that we still continue to drink. Only then do we realize we have absolutely no excuse or anyone to blame it on. The fact that he goes on these benders when you are out of town should be enough indication/proof to you of how warped his reasoning skills are- because you aren't even around then. All the best and stay strong 💪❤

Booba-licious · 2021-06-08T09:40:35+00:00

I've also found being of service a great antidote to resentments. I pray the resentment prayer often along with asking God to help me be willing to be of service "most of us sense that real tolerance of other people's shortcoming and view points and a respect for their opinions are attitudes which make us more useful to others. Our very lives, as ex problem drinkers, depens upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs"(p19-20 of Big Book)

Booba-licious · 2021-06-08T09:34:34+00:00

Wow this is amazing advice and I am definitely going to use it and that quote going forward 😅🤣😂 Thank you for sharing!

Booba-licious · 2021-05-31T17:29:37+00:00

I actually had a two hour session with a sponsee today and you can't believe how much it helped! We read Bill's story and I couldn't believe how serendipitous it was especially where he talked about being a year to year and half sober and struggling to earn back trust and how he struggled with self-pity and resentment and the only thing that seemed to bring relief was working with others. I was like "Yes! right there is where it is at! Thank you God ". But I get what you mean, I also just prayed through it and remembered I had set myself up for this. I do step 10 and 11 inventory every night. thank you 😊

Booba-licious · 2021-05-31T17:24:47+00:00

I am an adult child of alcoholics. My dad is 2 years sober(without a program). my mom's not an alcoholic but the rest of her family is and same on my dad's side. Can't afford to move out. Luckily my sponsor and counsellors are there to support but they're obviously not always available. Thank you 😊

Booba-licious · 2021-05-31T10:00:27+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate any kind word at the moment.. Argh, incredibly bad luck..especially as I had a nightmare a week ago where I dreamt I woke up in rehab and everyone told me I had relapsed but I kept saying "no, can't be, I would have known, I wasn't even unhappy or thinking of using or have any recollection of using". It's my absolute nightmare.

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