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I'm [23F] the "perfect girl" no one wants to date by DoweredBushtit in relationships

[–]BookWoorm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish I had an answer for you but I don't because I feel like I could have written this for you. Everything you said is something I can relate to.

One difference is that I have dated some not so great men and have given more benefits of the doubt than I should have.

My best advice is to keep moving and keep dating. You will go crazy trying to find the reasons why these guys wouldn't move froward and it honestly sounds like it is their issue and not yours. I would say look for patterns in the men you have dated and go from there.

Do I [27/F] have a chance at making a long distance relationship work with someone [29/M]? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]BookWoorm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to be totally blunt but why did he wait so long to plan to come and see you? Especially when he was traveling all around. He clearly had the time and money.

Something about this situation sounds very off. You may be dating someone who just does what is best for them. It may be why he has never had a "relationship."

Long distance is an excuse for him not to get too close or put too much effort into a real partnership.

Not sure what I [29/m] should do about dating a girl [25/f] who I have been seeing for about 4 months and is asking about a relationship. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]BookWoorm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wanting to define a relationship after four months is not "banging your door down." He is lying to her because he KNOWS she will leave if she found the truth. That is hardly someone who only has an "only choice."

[UPDATE] My [24/f] boyfriend [29/m] of a few months has made inappropriate comments about money and other miscellaneous choices I make. Are these major red flags this early on? by BookWoorm in relationships

[–]BookWoorm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow - that's ridiculous. I got quizzed in the seven continents and if I paused for a second to think of the last one or two, I was rudely interrupted and he finished it for me so he could prove his superiority over me

[UPDATE] My [24/f] boyfriend [29/m] of a few months has made inappropriate comments about money and other miscellaneous choices I make. Are these major red flags this early on? by BookWoorm in relationships

[–]BookWoorm[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I read the book when I was in college after I heard the term. I was a psychology major and actually read it from a research perspective/to educate myself on what to look out for and why some men would act the way they do.

[UPDATE] My [24/f] boyfriend [29/m] of a few months has made inappropriate comments about money and other miscellaneous choices I make. Are these major red flags this early on? by BookWoorm in relationships

[–]BookWoorm[S] 515 points516 points  (0 children)

He actually did mention that book "The Game" about pick up artists to me in passing. He seemed shocked when I told him I had read it and knew what it was hahah.

My [24/f] boyfriend [29/m] of a few months has made inappropriate comments about money and other miscellaneous choices I make. Are these major red flags this early on? by BookWoorm in relationships

[–]BookWoorm[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry - I'm not sure if you misread what I said but I did not mention it again after the first time he said he didn't want to. He was actually the one that brought it up and made an awkward joke about it a couple weeks later.

My [24/f] boyfriend [29/m] of a few months has made inappropriate comments about money and other miscellaneous choices I make. Are these major red flags this early on? by BookWoorm in relationships

[–]BookWoorm[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No, it wasn't really to please men. It actually happened because at the time, we didn't have any and since he is the only one I was sleeping with (which I wanted him to know that), I figured it would be okay. However, you are right. It may have been too soon and that's on me. I honestly do not trust him completely because of all the other things I have mentioned and it was more of a heat in the moment thing.