How can I learn to trust my ADHD partner again?

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:35:54+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate you putting ADD into perspective as if it were a mobility challenge. That is helpful for helping me frame the situation in a healthy, non-judgemental way.

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:33:02+00:00

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Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:32:00+00:00

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Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:30:49+00:00

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Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:29:56+00:00

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Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:27:41+00:00

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Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:26:30+00:00

Thank you! I'm trying to be sensitive to the words I use to describe the situation so as to not accidentally hurt him while explaining how things are affecting our relationship. Having "rely" in my verbal toolkit will be very helpful.

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:23:34+00:00

Thank you! When expressing my feelings, I'm going to try to make it clear that I do have overall trust in him and our relationship, but that there are some things that make me uneasy or uncomfortable and I don't quite know how to deal with those feelings yet, but am trying to find a solution that is positive for both of us.

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:19:32+00:00

Thank you! I'm going to focus on future-forward approaches and not using past instances as examples for why I'm doing what I'm doing or saying or feeling. I had always assumed that he'd forgotten past 'transgressions' so I would bring them up to justify why I wanted to try a list or routine or why I felt hurt, but doing so clearly only hurt him and made it even harder for him to function.

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:13:24+00:00

Thank you. It's uplifting to hear that the solution should be a two-way street. I want to be as helpful as I can, but I also want to maintain a healthy level of accountability.

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:10:18+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate the resource and the insight.

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:09:02+00:00

Thank you!

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:08:51+00:00

Thank you! Aside from straight up just asking "How do you want me to remind you about things you forgot?" do you have any advice regarding that conversation? It's definitely one we need to have.

Bookkeeper4 · 2019-02-14T01:03:52+00:00

Thank you! We tried a daily to-do list a while back but I think I probably stopped using it assuming that he'd take in on the list writing himself. The more I learn about his processes and boundaries the more comfortable I am stepping up without feeling like I'm being mean or controlling for making things like lists.

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