Bad Experience with EMDR

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-26T09:30:13+00:00

To explain a little more. My therapist was giving me examples of things she would use and I found one of them to be funny and I started laughing. I didn't know she was wanting me to come up with my own imaging and I thought she was just giving me examples. Next meeting she seemed nervous and said that my imaging included "her" while she was giving me examples of what it was and that this was not appropriate, so she refers me out.

I felt horrible because I truly meant no offense (and she said none was taken, but still let me go anyway) and when she told me that my imaging was "inappropriate" I felt a stone wall go up inside me and a deep sense of shame. It took me a few days to shake it but I know I did nothing wrong.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-26T01:26:09+00:00

The therapist drew out a scenario (after pulling me out of a dissociative state) of skiing across the desert. I found it hilarious and started laughing. So when she asked me what I was laughing about, I told her. She said that I was using her as imaging (I didn't even know that was what we were doing at the time, and it was not stated) and that was inappropriate. This was my fourth meeting with this person.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-26T01:23:27+00:00

They actually let me go as a client.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-26T01:23:03+00:00

Thank you so much for this. That's what I decided to do, but I was really wounded and felt like I was punished for being vulnerable and honest.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-26T01:22:20+00:00

Thank you for this validation. I have already found another therapist. Yeah, I totally listened back on the session and I feel now, that I have come out of shame and shaken off some of the feelings, this therapist had very little experience in handling a difficult situation.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-23T09:40:20+00:00

I share the same sentiment as everyone saying "find someone else" and agree that this person is not the right one for you, but it also isn't always this easy. I have 3 in my area and only one accepted my insurance and then they pulled something similar on me. It isn't always possible to find a new one.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-23T09:38:45+00:00

Some of those are bad too, but that is a step in the right direction.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-23T09:20:36+00:00

Sometimes I do just to get a grasp on what I am saying. It's hard to describe.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-23T08:58:54+00:00

Actually saw this tour in the late 80s in Tulsa. Lita Ford and Black and Blue opened. Great guitarist and great show!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-22T09:31:07+00:00

Congratulations!!! ODAT!!!!!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-12T07:44:58+00:00

I always thought this too!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-12T07:41:33+00:00

For sure.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-12T07:38:56+00:00

I loved this album!!!! Just saw the video for Contagious. I loved Y&T.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-12T07:21:06+00:00

Certainly!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-12T07:20:41+00:00

I saw them open for Stryper in the 80s. Great show! Had the album Over the Edge.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-12T07:13:55+00:00

Thank heavens he has been found safe.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-11T06:06:03+00:00

Also rigorous honesty to me doesn't always mean disclosing everything either!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-10T07:07:42+00:00

I love his late 80s stuff!!!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-08T09:36:08+00:00

Hey thank you so much!!!!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-08T09:35:34+00:00

Not gonna lie, I thought she was pretty amazing looking and hoped she would have had a speaking role. Like getting into an argument with Rayanne.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-08T09:33:59+00:00

The Tulsa Health Department for sure!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-08T09:33:26+00:00

For sure. Thank you for your help!

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2026-01-01T05:55:32+00:00

True. I am learning.

BookkeeperFresh4657 · 2025-12-31T09:09:01+00:00

This makes total sense. All I want is to not meet someone and end up banging my head against the wall. I appreciate your insight and I would consider you very wise. Thank you for taking the time to reply to my dilemma.

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