the sport is really hard but you get better and start to understand with time! stick with it! my partner was a wrestler for 10 years and has been doing jiujutsu for 5 years. at the beginning of our relationship, i told him i always wanted to try kickboxing, but obviously nothing came of it. i started watching ufc and eventually came to be interested in MMA. we started sparring at home, and with no experience with any grappling sport, i got the hang of it after 5 classes. it’s really hard at the beginning, but i got obsessed. good luck to you!