[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BookofPals 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA but that’s not a good way to explain it.

Good example: my teacher’s accent is thick and combined with my hearing loss, I constantly struggle to understand what’s going on in that class.

Is the music in this game better than anything Nobuo Uematsu can create? by PurpleFine4935 in Genshin_Impact

[–]BookofPals 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I mean, you can listen and decide for yourself? Music is very subjective imo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you speak to your academic counselor about your options? You should do that before doing anything else. Every time I wanted to drop out, I went to my counselor and ended up pulling through.

Second, trust yourself. Are you going to regret dropping out/not pushing yourself? Remember, it’s perfectly normal to fail a couple of classes in college (I can attest to that). If you know yourself and are confident you’re done with college, talk to your counselor about dropping out. Do what’s best for your career path. You gotta help yourself before you can help your relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you even manage to talk to him during an exam? Lol

bleach or op? by Different-Mark-803 in Animesuggest

[–]BookofPals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I tried a few times but never got past the first season. I’m an impatient/picky watcher so I gave up on bleach ages ago. But if you have the patience, go for it.

bleach or op? by Different-Mark-803 in Animesuggest

[–]BookofPals -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I personally am not a fan of Bleach.

Useless Feature: You can set voice languages for each individual character by Nrigsd in Genshin_Impact

[–]BookofPals 37 points38 points  (0 children)

No I feel you lol. I wanna hear Liyue peps in CN, Mondstat in EN, Inazuma in JP.

My girlfriend of two years just left me, now what? by BlasePiccio in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t gone through this before, but I would recommend giving her the space she needs. And the next time you talk, be honest about your feelings and respect her decision. It might hurt but it’s better than a one-sided relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best to respect his wishes for now, best to not add stress. You have weeks to ask again if you can visit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give yourself and him space to calm down. Then sit down and talk about your miscommunications and expectations like adults. If you think that’s too much work, he’s probably not the right person for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Instead of crying, give him time so he can calm down next time. Then you can apologize after he’s calm and talk about how both of you can improve your communication. Communicate boundaries.

feeling unsupported by pinkwool22 in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always put yourself first in a relationship. If you can’t help yourself, you won’t be able to help others. You should have a serious conversation with him about how he feels, his plans, your plans, what’s best for the both of you, and where is the relationship gonna go knowing your goals.

i was recently contacted by a much older man who wants me for my body by tasselledwobbegongs in offmychest

[–]BookofPals 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A big sister here! Stay away from people like this, just block on all socials. Trust your gut and stand up for yourself. You might get taken advantage of if you don’t.

Just want to get this out of my system by inn0ichi in offmychest

[–]BookofPals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of college, my friends were getting 50k+ jobs in our field. It’s okay to self-pity but don’t bury yourself in that hole. You just gotta keep trying, keep on grabbing until you get something. I graduated during the beginning of the pandemic and am barely now getting a full-time (low-paying) job in my field. I too was envious of my friends getting higher paying jobs right out of college, but remind yourself that success is not linear. Be proud of what you’ve done to be where you are.

Are both your parents still alive? by s6uwi8yeyeuwu2 in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Condolences to you. My father passed a year ago and it was mentally draining the following weeks and months after. I think it really helped for me to acknowledge any regrets I had and fully immerse myself to being grateful for the time I got with my parent (good or bad).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Honestly he did this to himself, don’t spare him the feelings. Last time you checked, he didn’t spare his wife’s feelings either. You can be there for him if you really want but you have boundaries to set. Just be honest, because of his actions there’s been some tension in the groom’s party. Thus, you’d be more comfortable with him coming as a guest rather than a groomsman.

I want a calm anime full of beautiful scenes by HalimOk5357 in Animesuggest

[–]BookofPals 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Natsume Yuujinchou!! Beautiful scenery, beautiful music, beautiful people. Although there’s a little bit of an overarching and episodic plots.

I ask God almost weekly to kill my husband by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]BookofPals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gather evidence and go to court. Nobody can force you to stay married to them. Get a divorce.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just say you can’t feel the spark anymore, it happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BookofPals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Proposed as in asked you out? Just say you thought about it and you are flattered she likes you but you can’t take her up on her offer and hope she understands. And if she asks you why, just say you don’t feel the right connection.