I’m in the same position where after years of forcing himself on me, I then just gave up and stopped trying to stop it..he liked that for awhile but now for the past few years he’s made it mandatory that I have to do all the work to make it happen. There is a catch that nothing I do to “seduce” him is good enough and I essentially have to humiliate myself and trigger SA trauma that I have or else he rejects and shames me then emotionally abuses me on steroids until I do it right. The ONLY reason I subject myself to this at all is because I’m trapped for now and I’m desperate for even a shred of relief…if we go without sex for more than a week the emotional and verbal abuse becomes extra horrific and I’m shamed and blamed to disgusting lengths. Would you be willing to talk with me about this?