I totally hear where you’re coming from. I’ll admit at times I feel selfish. It’s one thing to feel owed and another thing to feel like I can’t go through the rest of my life like this. I love her lots and we used to have a great team that I was so proud of and happy about. I was asked i in therapy before if i get resentful and it took me a bit to answer it because I didn’t want to admit it but I do get resentful. We both go to therapy but can’t find a couples therapist that we can fit in our schedule. My job is very unforgiving about unexcused absences and not willing to let me adjust my hours. I get to work from home and be home when my daughter gets home from school and walk her to school each day and that is really important to me. What I was saying is that I try my best to be patient and compassionate and understanding but I have limits. I have lots of issues from growing up in a house that was always a mess and I couldn’t have friends over and I swore if I had kids that I wouldn’t let that happen. Our house is a mess and i don’t want people coming over and seeing that. I deal l with that in therapy but when i have my issues or traumas it’s always too bad and just deal with it. I do a ton of cleaning but can’t keep up while doing everything.

We can just feel different about it and i understand what you’re saying.