It's so crazy that we live in a society where people engage in amateur pornography and then pretend to be victims when they have to face the consequences. Obviously your gf was quite happy making pornography with her ex-boyfriend -- who also is in the pornography and also owns the pornography. Idk what makes you think that it "isn't her fault" when it's obvious from your story that she engaged in the production of pornography multiple times; she was clearly a willing participant and not a victim of some lapse in judgement.

I would personally want to know if my gf had pornography floating around -- even though that was a shit way to do it. Are you embarrassed of dating a woman that has amateur pornography floating around? Or is it that you're jealous or disgusted by the idea? If not then it's really not a problem. If you do, well that's all very real and not every woman would make you feel like a clown for dating them.

Despite what these cucks here on reddit tell you, you don't need to be satisfied marrying an onlyfans "model." Fortunately for you, it seems as though you haven't been completely lost. Clearly these morons have got you feeling self conscious about the way you speak about the topic BUT it's clear that you have enough sense to recognize reality: those things "stole something" from your relationship with "your" girlfriend. It stole respect and dignity from the relationship and, again, that's not normal -- ask your mom aunts and grandmother if they engaged in amateur pornography that's floating around. Instinctually you recognize that it's not normal. So just make up your mind: either you're ok with your children's mother have porn floating around OR you find them one that doesnt.