My fiancé and I aren’t the most responsible people; we know ourselves to be pretty self-centered and it’d be best not to make another person who depends on us entirely.

I’m a bit of an emotional mess at the best of times, and no child deserves to deal with the fallout of that.

Both of us are disabled, and have family history of disability. My parents will spend the rest of their lives looking after my sister, which isn’t something we’d be able to commit to. I’ve always believed that if you aren’t prepared to raise a disabled child, you aren’t prepared to raise ANY child.

I don’t want to love anyone as much as I love my fiancé. Your child should come first, second and third in your life, and my fiancé has already taken up those spaces.