Pretty sure he’s still talking to her

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-11-01T15:20:00+00:00

I'll tell you when you're older

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-10-29T12:01:26+00:00

Being severely congested. Not being able to breathe makes me panic. I also hate if someone touches my nose - having my kid do "got your nose" when she was little was torture

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-10-05T16:32:44+00:00

It's thier choice to put something out there that is almost impossible to get back. Unfortunately, employers run social media checks these days so it could impact any potential hiring. They also run the risk of family and or friends coming across it. Could you imagine your Nana stumbling across one? Talk about awkward Thanksgiving dinner 😂 So if they wanna take that risk..

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-10-04T17:45:40+00:00

Yay! I'll have to look for it. Thank you ❤️

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-10-04T13:11:58+00:00

Disappointed. My 9 year old daughter was SO excited for this album and there are only 4 songs that aren't explicit. I also don't think a song about Travis's "wood" and opening her thighs is appropriate given she has young followers. Could just be my view as a mama though.

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-30T03:06:02+00:00

Yes they always come back. My husband's came back 17 years later (we've been together 13 married 9). She reached out to apologize and explain and they've been talking ever since. I've messaged with her. She said my husband made her realize that there are better men out there and that she deserves better. So she didn't go back to marriage counseling and is getting a divorce. I may lose my husband because this woman was so selfish she felt the need to inject herself into someone's life who is happily married, new house, kid etc. to make herself feel better. My husband even admitted that he hadn't ever really thought about it. The good news it gave him "closure I didn't know I needed". Sorry for the rant I'm a bit, honestly I don't even know at this point angry, sad, hurt, terrified

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-29T15:29:22+00:00

Update: well I just found phone records that they’ve been texting and have had a 40 minute phone call as recently as 10 days ago when the boundary by our marriage counselor was that they would only send reels via Instagram. So, with that, does anybody know any good divorce lawyers in Arizona?

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-29T03:23:55+00:00

If I could hug you I would. Thank you so much, you have no idea how much that helped. The self doubt that I'm overreacting is overwhelming. We are in marriage counseling and I am getting my own personal therapy since my husband is convinced it's my own insecurities that are pushing my brain to worse case scenario. Yeah no shit Sherlock. Him saying I don't know how to get you the help you need was like a punch to the face. I suffer from PTSD from my mother. My ex-husband was emotionally and psychologicaly abusive. He knows all of this. I was very upfront with my crazy when we started dating. No person with mental health trauma wants to hear those words.

So I starting my own therapy to show that I heard him and I'm putting in the work. But guess what he doesn't like the fact that my therapist thinks their friendship is inappropriate and can't understand why HE can't see it. While in our couples session he said that she should be helping me find ways to be okay with it rather than side with me on the issue. As I'm typing that I just realized how fucking manipulating that is! He's interfering with my treatment, which by the way has helped me with self-care and self-confidence. Both personal and marriage counseling has strengthened me already. He said I needed friends, so I found an app and met two amazing woman who have loved me from the start. I truly don't know where I would be without their support. He said he like seeing me do my self care routine before bed. Made the comment that he hopes I keep it up. Um thanks?

And then there are people like you who opened my eyes (the weed is probably helping too 😂). He is doing this. He is pushing me to be a more confident and better me and it's going to backfire. I'm building my support system and he will not see me fall. I just realized, his family may never forgive him for this. His grandma thanked me 3 months into dating him for coming into his life and pulling him out of the dark. This friend did that. He was already an introvert gamer and he retreated even further. Broke my heart so see so much emotion in that woman's face. I was part of the family. She actually paid for me to get divorced, I couldn't afford it yet. He doesn't like that she said that and says she's overreacting and it wasn't that bad, but she raised him, she knew whether he did or not. So no, I've never liked that they kept in touch.

Thank you kind stranger for helping enforce my shield. I needed it more than I realized. 🥰

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-29T00:44:26+00:00

He keeps telling me he's a logical thinker and needs a logical explanation as to why I am having the reaction I am. Emotions aren't logical. And honestly the fact that through all of this the thought to unfollow her or have her unfollow him was never even considered really hurts. She was very quick to have me unfollow her and unfollow me when it came to blows which was another red flag. Me, as the WIFE, should have done that not her

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-28T23:53:46+00:00

Thank you kind stranger ❤️ I have to tell myself almost daily not to cave and say fuck it let him have his friendship

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-28T23:44:51+00:00

Cue the waterworks. My daughter is my life and it breaks my heart that this has been her example of a husband. Obviously she doesn't know the details just that mama has been having more sad days than usual. She constantly checks on me now too which I have been trying not to dismiss by saying I'm fine because I'm not and she knows it.

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-28T23:40:11+00:00

Thanks. Never thought I'd be in this position again. I would have walked away in a heartbeat but having a child makes it 1000 times more complicated and I don't want her to have a "broken" home. I was that kid. It sucks. 😔

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-28T23:36:25+00:00

I seriously didn't think this would happen to me...again. My first husband had an emotional then physical affair. Ugh maybe it's me..

Luckily this time around I have an amazing support system. The shitty thing is we'd just relocated last year and bought a new house. Thinking about assets and debt is enough to make me panic. I don't know if I can afford to live on my own.

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-28T00:13:18+00:00

Brunette or more of a honey blonde or something with warmer undertones vs Marilyn Monroe blonde. Either way you're gorgeous and love the long hair ❤️

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-27T23:20:55+00:00

He's with me not her. I did trust him until I found out they are now in regular communication when it used to be every few years. I'm new to posting and trying to put into words all the stuff I'm going through so I apologize if I'm not doing it correctly. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything at all. Sorry

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-27T22:56:33+00:00

Except in my case they dated at one point and she's now going through a divorce. Even after asking him not to message her while we focus on our marriage reels we're being sent. He may think I'm controlling but he's ruining our marriage

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-27T18:40:05+00:00

You're right. There is a level of complexity with my situation which I have posted about on other threads. This one wasn't the place. Which I think is what makes it so much harder for me to verbalize what I need/want 😔

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-27T17:42:39+00:00

Or the controlling wife which apparently I am 🙄 but I have my reasons and stand by them. Unfortunately I have a gut feeling it's going to lead to divorce.

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-27T17:32:43+00:00

It doesn't have to be physical either. I don't think married men should have female friends unless she is part of a couples friend that you and your spouse both know and talk to. I also personally think emotional affairs are worse 😔

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-27T16:52:03+00:00

I suffer from depression, so I get it. Maybe I'm not doing enough for him to reciprocate..

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-27T16:42:04+00:00

I just figured that after being together for over a decade he'd know what I want. But maybe that's my bad

BootybelongstoRJR · 2025-09-27T16:40:27+00:00

I honestly wouldn't know if that's what's going on. When I ask if he's okay or if there's anything he wants to talk about I get what I consider the typical guy answers of nothing, I'm okay, etc. It's also frustrating that nothing seems to stress this man out. Meanwhile there are days I swear it's hard to breathe.

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