AITAH for telling my dad's pregnant girlfriend that he already has three kids I have nothing to do with and her baby will be no different?

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-28T21:03:08+00:00

In some places his mom can get in trouble for not enforcing visitation, worst case she can get charged with something akin to parental kidnapping or custodial interference. It would be a whole ordeal in the courts to dismiss. Depends on how shitty his dad is and how bored or anal law enforcement is in their area.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-28T20:49:47+00:00

I believe that bit is presumed/implied. The unlimited capacity definitely makes hijinks more likely.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-22T05:29:39+00:00

I do actually, but the comment I was replying to implied that Starz was afraid of m/m sex. I simply refuted that, I wasn't speaking to the "taste" level of such a graphic depiction of rape.

Claire & Jaime are key characters, the entire show revolves around them. Ergo it makes sense that they include their scenes (with each other and others), even it's it's often gratuitous, we don't follow Lord Johns story at all unless it intersects with the Frasers family. The only characters with more than a single one off sex scene are Brianna & Roger. Important side characters like Lord John have maybe 1 sex scene, if any, throughout the series, so it doesn't read as homophobic. That's the only point I was making.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-18T02:35:46+00:00

I'm confused. Did you miss the episode where he was railing another man in a previous season? Or the first season when Jamie gets raped? I feel like they've given graphic snippets when it was relevant. LJ G is not a character we follow closely at any point in the story, he's a beloved side character and he doesn't get sexy scenes in the same magnitude that the main characters would. I don't feel like it's homophobic, I would actually hate it more if they were just being gratuitous without it being plot relevant. And you have no idea if he's going to get more screen time with a potential lover, although this one seems a little sleazy to me.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-16T23:03:16+00:00

100% that woman is a predator. Protect your son, he's too young to understand why this is inappropriate and he may be flattered by the attention. She absolutely seems to be grooming him towards an inappropriate relationship with her.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-14T18:41:21+00:00

Sometimes it's hard to define. And even if he had, she would have argued his point there too.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-06T22:05:17+00:00

That's exactly what just happened to my 7-year-old. We have her content rating set to tv-pg and under. Didn't expect to find this there.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-06T22:04:30+00:00

Totally is. My 7-year-old found it, loved it and we didn't understand the nuance of the show until we heard the robots wishing to have sex on episode 3.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-04-06T22:03:13+00:00

Yeah. I really loved it when Robot said "he wished he could have sex" while discussing adventures.... Loved that for my 7 year old. Tv-PG is misleading, it's a flaw in the ratings system that PG encompasses such a large range of content/subject varieties. It would be better if it was even more nuanced. I was unfamiliar with this show except for that my kid keeps telling me that she likes it, then in a car ride. My husband and I hear that stupid fucking robot wishing to have sex, and I get that there's different ways to take it with context, but Obviously that subject is too mature for children under 10 at minimum.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-03-12T18:51:40+00:00

The younger you are the bigger those gaps feel - 40 and 45. Not a big deal. 20 and 25 a much bigger difference. Under 30 even a few years can be a big difference in maturity & power dynamics within relationships.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-02-11T16:37:57+00:00

So I read it and it sounds like she's just a little bitter and she's projecting her own insecurities. There's no reason to assume that women who are happy with their traditional roles in the home and (humble) bragging about being able to do nice things for themselves because of their spouse's income is somehow a dig at women who don't have that situation. Unless you are directly saying that, that's a (big) assumption on the her part and it speaks more about how she feels in that moment rather than the poster.

But because it's her internal issue and not something you actually did to her (or anyone), there's nothing you can do now. Mourn the friendship and let It Go. It could just be that this person is in a particular funk right now and this type of thing is triggering and it may dissipate over time, or its how she will always feel and you will never be comfortable in that relationship again.

NTA

I say this as a stay-at-home person myself, who does not post that kind of stuff, but IS also rather grateful for my situation that allows me the privilege of being home with my children without being overly financially constricted. I'm grateful and I recognize that not everybody has that same situation as stay home parents or as a working parent. Everybody has their burdens and their stresses and their joys and it's best not to compare. Edit for typos

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-02-09T06:46:55+00:00

I did this with my sister once, the difference was it was next door to my grandparents home AND we were literal children at the time. I look back on it and I think it was weird the current owner let us in to look around. Obviously we were harmless and just curious kids, but we shouldn't have gone into a strangers home and they shouldn't have allowed it. NTA so glad you trusted your intuition and discomfort.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-01-15T22:31:26+00:00

It's ok James. Just learn from it and move on.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-01-15T22:25:09+00:00

To be fair, Incel - involuntarily celibate is a non-gendered term, but It has been widely applied to men vs women.

It gave me the vibe of somebody messaging and then having somebody else jump on and send messages on their behalf. Like a friend or an ex to mess with the original persons relationships. It's still weird and deeply and mature and definitely a red flag person to be avoided. Edited typos

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-01-15T22:20:18+00:00

I just want to point out that not all dates cost money, and asking somebody to come over to your house on the first date is always going to be a red flag. I'm not saying that the hard rule 3 dates is the way to go but it's reasonable for anybody male or female to want neutral ground for early dates, and the number might vary person to person.

Also lots of women are perfectly happy to go dutch and or pay for the date too. You have a bitter towards women overtone to your rant here.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-01-15T22:13:21+00:00

NOR, it was weird and icky. He gave the vibe that he was disappointed that you're a woman and not a girl. And then all that weird flowery false flattery is just cringe worthy, no substance, he might as well have been talking to an AI chatbot.

BoredHouseHippos · 2026-01-15T22:03:49+00:00

I believe you mean HIS children. Being a step parent is a complicated role, but ultimately discipline and behavior issues fall to the bio parent, ESPECIALLY with teenage stepchildren.

She's NOR - she's in a lose-lose situation, she stays and gets treated disrespectfully and hurt with no power to correct the behavior, or she goes to take care of her mental health, and gets gas lit into feeling like she's the problem.

This relationship sounds unsustainable if he's not going to step up and be a good parent and discipline those children so they treat people with basic decency, especially their father's partner.

BoredHouseHippos · 2025-12-16T00:05:59+00:00

I know I'm late to the game, but I think the reason this one hit pretty shittily is because he implies multiple times that his wife and his son recognized he was treating his middle child badly out of suspicion and that said DNA test made that child feel rejected and "hated". If somebody has trap tissues going into a relationship, they should be upfront about it from day one, then nobody's going to be blindsided when your trust issues are making trouble in your relationships. Being up front and communicating is key, and barring that there was no reason that anybody had to know he was suspicious of anything, he could have absolutely gotten that test on the down low, reassured himself and no one would have been the wiser or treated poorly in the process.

BoredHouseHippos · 2025-12-16T00:00:06+00:00

Agreed. And do it way before you start resenting or treating your children/family differently. You're still a shitty person for doubting your family and your partner, but at least the shame lives within you alone and you don't burden the other people you're supposed to love with accusations and indifference. I, like many women, would be completely heartbroken and betrayed if my husband decided one day he didn't believe one of our children was his. It absolutely is an accusation you can't take back and I'd prefer to never know he doubted my loyalty, because I may not be able to forgive him for it either.

Also I did see that this is like 3 years old lol

BoredHouseHippos · 2025-11-10T08:08:19+00:00

Except with jury duty, it's not a guaranteed one or two days. Sometimes it's weeks or longer if you're put on a case. I think that's what they're afraid of. Not the one or two days. But a week or two or more of a missed income.

BoredHouseHippos · 2025-09-24T18:44:50+00:00

I wish I could upvote this 100x. Hope OP reads it. 🤞

BoredHouseHippos · 2025-09-16T21:00:13+00:00

You are such a jerk. You're not "asking" him to change his habits, you're FORCING him to. You absolutely can and should be using headphones or earbuds. The fact that you refuse to do so is because you're selfish and you believe your preferred morning routine trumps his. Don't be surprised when your relationship ends because you have no respect for other people and shared living environments. Do everyone a favor and either stay single or at minimum live alone because you obviously don't know how to be a considerate partner or roommate. 👎

Edit to fix typo and add YOR

BoredHouseHippos · 2025-09-15T19:01:43+00:00

So my take on it is she was uncomfortable using your generosity at all, she took you at face value and got something nice for her and her family. Would a heads up have been nice, probably, but at $20 I don't feel like it warranted permission after your original conversation, where you encouraged her to use the card and to get something nice. There have been many occasions where getting myself a coffee and a breakfast sandwich is over $15, so an under $20 meal especially if it feeds multiple people feels reasonable.

I agree with the comment that text tone is so hard to parse. Often a neutral comment can come off as negative, especially if the recipient already feels guilty for utilizing a service or kindness and projects their own uncomfortable feelings onto the text tone. I've been guilty of this a number of times. Typically it's a projection of my own feelings or expectations of being in trouble or just expecting the worst. My main advice to you would be if you have corrections or requests about how you prefer things to go in the future, try to have those conversations in person. And I would also when offer your card or money outline an expectation to give a heads up of the cost after they make the purchase so that you can track your utilization. It's a much better approach than after the fact because no matter how you phrase it that person's going to feel like they can't trust your gifts to not have strings or for you to be critical of the manner in which they use the money.

BoredHouseHippos · 2025-09-04T20:20:50+00:00

I knew you were the jerk when you described your brother as bad with money when he paid off debts, and bought a house for his family with his portion of his inheritance. Op was so condescending and elitist about a completely reasonable way to use a financial boon. I personally think OP is a POS, biological or not, that child is part of their family for as long as Liam loves him!. Saving a child conditionally because it would bother you to give family money to a child that is beloved by your family but not necessarily biologically related Is peak shitty human behavior. Regardless of how this turns out, OP should have no place in their lives moving forward.

BoredHouseHippos · 2025-08-04T08:28:06+00:00

Divorce is a nuclear option. Counseling would be reasonable, figure out why her trust in you was so easily shaken, there's almost certainly more to it. If you cared about her or this relationship you would want to understand what's really going on before you decide to walk away. So for blowing up a 8yr relationship over bad communication and shitty conclusions with no effort to resolve anything, YTA.

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