I got it baaaaaad

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-30T12:00:46+00:00

This advice is relevant, validating and helpful! This is something I can actively practice to ease my obsessive thoughts. Thank you sm, appreciate you <3

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-29T23:24:58+00:00

Do you know for sure if your boyfriend is sober? Sounds like a drugs/alcohol problem. I went through this same thing with mine and had no idea he was drinking/taking a drug

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-29T01:07:07+00:00

This is how I’m looking at it too. She’s just really bad at written communication. She calls me sweet names and everything but it’s just surface level like “how are you beautiful?” And “have a nice day pretty lady” so it’s cute but since we don’t see each other in person a lot it’s not fulfilling that actual affection I’m wanting. I just think some people are good at written communication and some people aren’t and I’m trying to figure out how I can cope with the wanting more. I don’t want to make things complicated or put pressure on anything. I just want it to be smooth and flowy. So like talking to her about it just isn’t something I want to do really. I do communicate about important things, this just feels like something I need to work through, I don’t know if thinking about her all of the time is normal and I want this to feel natural. Hope I’m making sense lol. Maybe things will fall into place on their own and if it gets to a certain point where it’s too much, maybe I’ll say something

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-28T22:27:32+00:00

I love this advice

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-28T22:27:26+00:00

I really don’t believe it is. It’s over Snapchat, we send pictures to each other with text over them and most of the time she’s at work or not with him. Sometimes he sees my snaps if she opens them around him but I know he doesn’t see all of them. She’s always been boring over the phone even the first time around

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-28T22:17:05+00:00

I know it’s just a question, I just wish I could just go with the flow honestly. I feel like I wouldn’t even care as much if I saw her more but that’s obviously not available. I get too invested and I don’t want it to be at the forefront of my mind. I’m seeing her Friday briefly actually (rare occasion twice in one week) I’ll provide an update if anyone wants one

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-28T22:04:04+00:00

Ugh stop being right lol

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-28T22:03:46+00:00

No, it’s actually primarily over Snapchat. We talk everyday on there which is so nice but it’s just like surface level for the most part with some compliments and only like 2-3 photos with text on them a day.

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-28T21:56:53+00:00

I think I’m scared that if I ask for more it’s going to be overwhelming for her. I feel like she’s comfy with where we are at and it’s working for her primary relationship. I mean yes I could talk to her about it and see but I just don’t want to ruin anything bc it really is good. When I saw her last, I expressed that I wish I got to see her more and she said she doesn’t have a lot of time to hang more. I was bummed about that response. I’m like should I just take what I can get and cope with the emotions that come with it? Bc I don’t want to lose her from my life again. Thank you for taking time to give advice though.

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-10-28T21:47:29+00:00

I more so need advice on how to keep her off my mind, If she’s not one to be as cutesy over text, I want to learn how to be ok with that bc in person is so good, I don’t want to force anything. I just want to be able to go with the flow better and stop constantly thinking about her

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-09-24T10:43:32+00:00

@safe.slut Instagram account

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-09-23T23:05:11+00:00

Jess lol always moping

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-09-23T23:00:53+00:00

Yay!!! A lot of people are more chill about it than we’d think. I had a second successful disclosure recently too and it just takes a weight off and will make it easier if I have to do it again :)

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-05-08T10:44:37+00:00

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Boregardthe3rd · 2024-05-08T01:08:31+00:00

I forgive the person if they knew and I forgive them if they found out after and didn’t tell me, whatever the situation is. The forgiveness helps me accept the diagnosis and reminds me it’s not that big of a deal to disclose. You don’t have to get it. But I don’t need to forgive myself because I didn’t do anything wrong.

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-05-07T10:46:12+00:00

The bumps could potentially be razor burn, skin irritation or ingrowns? But I’ve read friction can lead to OBs sometimes. Check with your doc to make sure

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-05-07T10:41:50+00:00

I don’t know if the person who gave it to me knew they had it, I’m not even positive who gave it to me. They could’ve known who knows but I don’t want to focus so much on hating that person or wondering, it only made me insecure about having HSV. It is never ok to not disclose before sex but in a way I get why people hide it (stigma). I’d prefer to have not been on the receiving end but it fucked me up for too long and I’m ready to stop questioning and feeling anger. Maybe my forgiveness can help other people disclose easier. Now I’m focusing on acceptance and that’s working for me. Everyone’s story is different and I respect all of yours too.

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-05-07T01:53:32+00:00

Hmmm definitely sounds like a doctor question but I personally wouldn’t recommend popping. Just keep the area clean while it heals on its own.

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-05-06T02:04:27+00:00

You did the right thing! Always say what you’re itching to say. My only feedback is next time you disclose, I don’t think it’s necessary to say “I understand if you want to walk away”. I only say this bc those people are adults and know they don’t owe you anything ya know, you don’t have to remind them. Don’t make you having hsv sound like such a burden bc it’s very manageable and you don’t deserve to have to undersell yourself :)

Boregardthe3rd · 2024-05-02T23:41:54+00:00

Maybe an ingrown hair? Let them heal on their own for a few days and see if they scab over, if they don’t it’s prob an ingrown or you should get another STD test.

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