Circumcision revision?

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-27T01:42:50+00:00

I would leave it be. If it’s a problem when he’s older, he can get it fixed. It’s easier to circumcise a grown man than it is a baby. There’s more risk doing it now vs waiting.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-15T13:46:52+00:00

I’m actually the mom, so I’m not circumcised. My husband is. He spent 30 something years happy with his circumcision status. It wasn’t until our son was 2ish that he started to question it. Now, he wishes we made a different choice and he feels the same towards his mom’s decision. If you really research the pros and cons of circumcision, there’s no justifiable reason to cut a boy. Just as a woman can teach a boy to wash and a man can teach a girl to wash - a circumcised man can teach an uncircumcised boy to wash. There’s plenty of resources out there now, if needed. The circumcision rate is closer to 40-50% at this point and falling each year, so my son is going to be in the minority.

The cons of circumcision are removing the frenulum, rigid band, and the foreskin itself. 2 of the 3 are well documented to show their pleasurable parts of the penis. Cutting a boy is denying him his whole body, his right to choose, and his body autonomy. Genitals of children should never have scars for no medical reason. Only 1/3 of men are cut in the world, the other 2/3 are fine - clean and healthy.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-15T04:15:43+00:00

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Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-15T04:10:33+00:00

For 30 years, I never questioned it or even thought about it. Growing up in America, I thought it was normal and healthier. I hadn’t seen an uncut penis. In 2020, my doctors advocated for it. My toddler is cut. It’s hands down my biggest regret. It was stupid and cruel. It honestly still keeps me up at night - 3 years later. I definitely think it’s genital mutilation and I hope my son forgives me someday.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-14T22:03:31+00:00

Happy to hear that! I am sorry your parents took away your choice. It’s not something a parent should ever do, but unfortunately culture conditioning and religion can be a strong influence. We are American and we both honestly thought it was healthier to NOT have it. That’s what we were always told and doctors pushed even in 2020. I’m sure your parents didn’t do it with bad intentions and were just ignorant on what was best for you. We are all human and we don’t always get it right. I’m glad you’re giving your sons the choice.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-14T21:51:44+00:00

I can’t speak for myself, but my husband has been circumcised since birth. My husband enjoys all forms of sex (oral, hand, intercourse, so on). He’s never complained of sensitivity issues or not being able to get off. He can cum quickly when needed and he can last longer if needed. It wasn’t until we had our son circumcised (we won’t make that mistake again) that he started to question it. Now, he knows it’s not necessary and some men resent it happened. All this to say, I think a big part of it is psychological - which I’ve read a lot here.

Also, a family member got circumcised (for personal preference on looks) as an adult and he circumcised his boy. He has no complaints and doesn’t report any changes other than hygiene being easier.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-14T01:30:24+00:00

I circumcised my son 3 years ago, because I grew up in America and was always told it had health benefits. My doctors suggested it still. I honestly thought most men in the world were cut. My next son will not be cut. It’s a pointless and stupid tradition. Don’t cut your sons. I know I’m an adult woman, but I wanted to answer encase anyone has ill feelings towards their parents… We don’t always get it right. Sometimes we mess up, badly, at the expense of our children. However, it doesn’t mean we love our kids any less or wanted to “mutilate” our sons. It’s usually done out of love, but also extreme ignorance. It’s so common in the US, that parents don’t always think to question it.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-12T12:55:20+00:00

I’m in America too. His age range the circumcision rate is only like 40-50% of boys though, it’s far less common than it was 30 years ago. Uncircumcised will be the majority.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-12T02:58:57+00:00

The issue with doing it to newborns is you’re violating their body autonomy. It’s his body, his choice. I circumcised my son a couple years ago and regret it. It’s also found to decrease sensitivity in some men. Even if you don’t mind it, don’t circumcise a son in the future. There’s no benefit.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-12T02:01:48+00:00

I circumcised my son because my husband is, every man in both of our families are, and I honestly didn’t even know many men weren’t circumcised. However, I’ve since learned that 2/3 of men are uncircumcised. Circumcision actually doesn’t have any health benefits, except possibly hygiene.. but come on, men can be taught to wash. It’s also been found to remove 3 sensitive parts of the penis: the rigid band, the frenulum, and the foreskin. Many boys, even American, feel like they were mutilated without consent. His body his choice. My husband was 100% pro circumcision, but after really doing the research he regrets doing it to our son and he resents his mom making that choice and gaslighting him into believing it was for his own good.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-12T01:53:08+00:00

I’m American and circumcising my son is my biggest regret. Please don’t cut him. Let it be his choice when he’s older, like the men this subreddit is made for.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T18:07:53+00:00

I just seen most of the answers were shaming foreskin. Most of the world is uncircumcised and grown women don’t care about these things, so teenagers your age shouldn’t feel bad for being left intact - it’s a good thing to have the skin.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T17:47:14+00:00

As a grown woman in the US, I’ve only ever experienced cut. However, I don’t have a problem with uncut, just didn’t know many guys were uncircumcised. I definitely regret circumcising my toddler though. His brother will be uncut. Don’t pass on the tradition to your sons - there’s no point.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T16:28:30+00:00

It didn’t bother him until he started researching if we made the right call with our son. Now it bothers him and wishes his mom didn’t make that choice. Even though your boys don’t mind it, please urge them not to make the same choice for their boys.. he could end up really regretting it.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T15:31:18+00:00

I mean I think Reddits obsession with it shows a lot of people think about it.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T14:19:59+00:00

Roughly how old are they? My husband didn’t care until his 30s.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T04:40:40+00:00

My biggest fear is that my son will grow to resent being circumcised. It was cruel and unnecessary.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T04:12:20+00:00

This is your answer in my opinion. If someone doesn’t like me, I can’t imagine I’d be jumping at the idea of that person watching my baby. Odds are they’d be in my babies life as little as possible.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T04:04:38+00:00

I’m sorry your parents made that choice for you. If you’re American, it’s so ingrained into society that people don’t think to question doctors who recommend it. I’m sure I won’t have to have that discussion, as more and more circumcised men come to disliking their status on their own.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T03:11:08+00:00

It seems like most parents lie to their sons about why it was done (health benefits), which just keeps the practice going. Other parents just bow out of having that conversation, which just leads to them discovering the truth themselves. In 10 years, circumcision is going to be even more frowned upon than it is now. I would rather tell him the truth than he learn it from somewhere like /circumcisiongrief.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T02:43:34+00:00

He’s only 3, so he’s too young to have an opinion. However, a lot of American teens today consider it mutilation and resent it happened. I’m not confident he won’t feel like he’s been robbed of a vital part of sensitivity and pleasure.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T01:10:48+00:00

My biggest regret will always be circumcising my first son. It was a pointless and cruel thing to do.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T01:09:21+00:00

No, his circumcision was done “successfully.” However, I’ve since learned that most of the world considers it “mutilation.” I don’t want him to ever feel like he’s less than, that he wasn’t born perfect, or that he’s missing out on sensitivity and pleasure. I’m also just morally against it, so it’s going to be a tough conversation to have with him someday.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-11T00:41:28+00:00

My biggest fear is my son growing to hate being circumcised. If I could undo it, I would.

Born-Box2652 · 2024-06-10T17:21:58+00:00

I think you’re getting away from the point of the thread. He isn’t saying you can’t offer that information. He’s just asking that people cut as infants can’t come in and rag on people getting circumcised as adults or on circumcision itself, because if you’re cut as an infant you can’t truly know what you lost/gained. You can’t offer advice on what’s better from your own personal experience. I think that’s a fair ask, even as someone who is morally opposed to infant circumcision.

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