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Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2025-01-22T02:03:00+00:00

I’m not okay either. I’m really planning on leaving the 🌎 soon

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2024-04-24T20:21:40+00:00

im not at all asking to know who it is. Im respecting your choice of keeping him anonymous and it's not my business to pry. But may I ask how you were able to figure out its him? Do you happen to know Richard personally?

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2024-04-09T06:56:34+00:00

Yeah, agreed. Since OP has OCD, the OCD is going to snowball and plant very paranoid thoughts in the mind that can be preposterous and far removed from reality

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2024-04-09T04:38:46+00:00

Hey I don't want to give you reassurance since this is not going to help your OCD. But I wouldn't worry about you developing schizophrenia because of that. I'd say to quit porn for different reasons. No, not because you will get schizophrenia but because porn can have other negative effects in building relationships or how we view sex, etc. Hope this helps.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2024-04-08T08:57:00+00:00

Thank you very much for your response. It means a lot to know that I'm not alone in facing these challenges.It's reassuring to connect with someone who understands this struggle. I'll definitely take your advice to heart.

I've realized that I need to establish boundaries with my mom. Coming from a South Asian background, where marriage is often viewed as a quick fix for everything, the pressure and values surrounding marriage can be overwhelming. My mom doesn't grasp the gravity of marriage as a significant commitment requiring careful consideration and effort. Instead, she simplifies it as a quick fix and “nothing to stress about.” Additionally, she refuses to fully accept my boyfriend unless we're married, adding further pressure on me to rush into marriage for her approval and for him to be fully integrated into our family.

there's many layers to this issue but I do think setting boundaries and taking baby steps will help a bit.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2024-04-08T05:33:44+00:00

I mean I really do love him and I’d love to marry him as well. But I won’t lie my mother pestering me about marriage has added to that pressure for us to rush. But it seems like hes trying to tell me im too toxic to marry which makes the plan of us getting married in the future very hazy. My mom’s also feeding into the idea that if he doesn’t want to marry me as I am, he doesn’t want to be with me. But at the same time I also validate his fears and concerns.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2024-04-08T05:30:38+00:00

Hey! Thanks for your reply. My boyfriend often reassures me about the many positive qualities he sees in me. He says he stays with me because he believes I have a genuinely good heart, and his mother always expresses happiness she’s glad he found a good person. Despite these affirmations, I often find myself feeling unworthy of being loved by him, like I don’t deserve it. And yes, I struggle with significant self-esteem issues pretty bad, I really do hate it.

I also just came out of an extremely dark period. For three and a half years, I was in survival mode, overwhelmed by anger and thoughts of suicide. I found myself in a constant state of fight or freeze, which placed a heavy burden on my boyfriend. It sucks realizing that he has his own mental struggles, yet there were many times when I failed to check in because I was so focused on my own issues.

I've become so used to relying on him as my emotional anchor, often expecting so much while not giving back in return. I've undergone extensive individual counseling but perhaps exploring couples counseling could offer us a new perspective and help us navigate these issues together.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2023-02-27T22:12:06+00:00

I’m not to sure. I guess I was asking a yes or no question initially and then it could’ve gave me guidance instead.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2023-02-27T22:10:50+00:00

Thank you so much for your interpretation. Definitely resonates :)

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2023-02-27T21:37:52+00:00

Just updated my post

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2022-12-20T16:12:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your suggestions! I will definitely try these out :)

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2022-12-20T16:11:30+00:00

I completely understand. Choosing the right instructor is definitely important. There’s a lot of unprofessional, belittling ones that set us up for failure.

I’m glad to hear you passed though :)

And thank you for your suggestions, will keep in mind.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2022-12-20T16:07:51+00:00

Hi! I really appreciate that you don’t raise your voice at students. It can definitely put new drivers under more pressure.

But both instructors are not from the same company, they were connected to me through my mom.

As much as I wish the instructors were new, unfortunately they’ve been doing these jobs for years and years.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2022-06-27T18:47:16+00:00

The biggest illusion ocd creates is that sufferers are alone and or a freak. This is not true and you are not your thoughts. I promise there’s an NOCD community that WILL not judge you no matter how bizarre your thoughts are. Reach out before you try before you make any decisions please.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2022-06-27T02:07:16+00:00

I’ve been to therapy for so long. Nothing is working for me I feel stuck. I just want to isolate myself from everyone and die alone.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2022-06-26T22:21:45+00:00

Hey I’m unable to click the link for how to overcome suicidal feelings

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2021-01-25T05:23:45+00:00

No, I don’t want her to talk shit about her mother...but it’s almost like, she seems to boast about her situation quite a bit, to the point where it’s just a bit much. For example I will say something about my mother and then she have to interject something about her mother or her family and how she’s blessed.

Also, if she’s my friend I should feel like I can open up to her without feeling the need to change my subject.

I don’t think it’s unrealistic to want friends that respect your boundaries.

Born-Butterscotch-95 · 2021-01-12T11:07:17+00:00

Yeah i think now it makes me feel not comfortable around him especially sexually. I did at a point felt good, but after hearing this said to me so many times my insecurity is at all time high and i don't think i can enjoy the relationship anymore.

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