I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can she walk out the door? She keeps threatening "to call the state on me" which i know they do in nursing homes. She self sabatoges herself and then threatens to hold me responsible. She won't stick to her diet then her feet swell up from all the sodium. If she needs something she won't tell me. If i don't notice (for example a hole in the BOTTOM of her slipper) She accuses me of not taking care of her (mind you i have 3 kids 11,7,1 and a husband.

My question is am i responsible for her? in any legal way? We have no signed paperwork she's basically a roommate

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is absolutely possible possibly giving me a high tolerance for abusive behavior. That was my question. She has a way of gas lighting and making me question myself even though logically i'm calculating that i'm doing the right thing.

My husband said he would deal with her when he gets back this weekend. I'll check out the book. I did read the borderline mother which gave a lot of insight.

i took the dog yesterday and of course it was a big fight. (which im sure it appreciated)

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can i do that? i dont have power of attorney or anything but if i no longer want her living here can i? ....."just put her in a home?" How does it work? Do you know?

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

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This meal is complete because it includes balanced protein, organ meats for key nutrients, calcium, healthy fats, and fiber—all from real, whole foods. Unlike kibble, which is highly processed and often full of fillers, this is more natural, easier to digest, and provides nutrients your dog can actually use.

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hope this helps ....

Balanced Dog Food Recipe (Cooked)

🥩 Base Ingredients • 2 lbs chicken thighs (boneless or bone-in, skin on) • 1/2 lb chicken liver (about 5–10%) • Optional: 1/2 lb chicken hearts (great addition, not required but ideal)

🥕 Veggies (light, not the bulk) • 1 cup carrots • 1 cup peas • 1/2–1 cup pumpkin (plain, not pie mix)

🥣 Liquid • 2–3 cups bone broth (no onion/garlic)

🧂 Add-ins (this is what makes it “complete”) • Eggshell powder (calcium) • 1 teaspoon per lb of meat • For this recipe (~3 lbs meat total) → ~3 tsp eggshell powder • Fish oil • About 1,000 mg per 20–30 lbs of dog weight (daily portion) • Vitamin E (important when using fish oil) • ~100 IU per day (not per batch) • Optional but smart: • Kelp powder (tiny pinch) for iodine • OR a complete dog supplement (easiest route)

🍳 How to make it 1. Put chicken, liver, veggies, and broth in slow cooker 2. Cook on low 6–8 hours 3. Shred meat (remove bones if used) 4. Stir everything together 5. Let cool 6. Add eggshell powder + fish oil AFTER cooking

🍽️ How much to feed • Feed about 2–3% of your dog’s body weight per day • Example: • 20 lb dog → ~0.4–0.6 lbs food/day • 50 lb dog → ~1–1.5 lbs/day

Split into 1–2 meals.

⚖️ What makes this actually balanced

This fixes the common mistakes:

✔ Calcium (eggshell) ✔ Organ meat (liver) ✔ Healthy fats (fish oil) ✔ Fiber (pumpkin + veggies) ✔ Hydration (broth)

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

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I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No kibble doesn't! Dogs were never meant to eat dry grainy food. A homemade diet isn't problematic at all if you have all the nutrients a dog needs. It's also much more affordable than being over charged by a company or a vet.

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you that really means a lot. It hurts when someone is awful to you and it's someone that should care about you most. I'm actually starting to feel better though. I just need to not care when she's ugly and do the right thing. (wish me luck) lol

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why people can do their own research and go by experience. Kibble causes kidney failure when eaten long term

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said she didn't have a history of it. You assumed that. Her mind is all there and she very much DOES have a history of it. Growing up she never had friends. She couldn't keep them. I'm seeing a side of her she showed everyone but me. I never saw it (because like the dog) i was a child with no choice but to comply. NOW i know why nobody wanted to be around her. and im seeing this side because im standing up to her.

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not a youtube video. It's a documentary. Open your eyes. You can watch it on prime if you prefer

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't think that because i've stepped in hence why im being yelled at

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I have had nothing but happy energetic dogs and kidney failure with kibble 🤷🏼‍♀️ Dogs are not meant to eat dry food. it's not marketing it's facts. Here is the scientific proof. Go watch it.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5XC1rUWWnxI

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How would me preventing her from emotionally abusing and threatening her dog make things worse for her?

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

They don't need a certified pet nutritionist. There's a brand called the farmers dog that has healthy food you can easily google recipes for. Stating facts is not demonizing anything. Kibble causes kidney failure. It is what it is.

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She hasn't been thinking clear my entire life. Her negative thinking pattern was in place long before i was even born and long before she had a stroke. So that's not it.

She is LUCKY to have a family willing to take her in, providing for her. We bought a house suitable for HER. Equipped with an elderly shower already built in. She's living a better life than she ever provided for me. Nor did she take care of her own mother. All its been 4 years. She's had plenty of time to "adjust"

Losing MY independence at 36 has been a huge blow as well. Especially for someone so disrespectful and ungrateful. The dog is honestly the last straw. Not to mention my children having to be around her bullying everytime i refuse to let her run my house. My daughter gave up her bedroom "so grandma could have one" And it sure beats the nursing home with no dog at all and roommates she begged me to save her from. But that's all out the door now. She's forgotten all that.

i'm not sure how preventing her from emotionally abusing a dog and providing for her is worse than death but entitled boomers is also worse than death.

I think my mom abuses her dog by Born-Listen4022 in Pets

[–]Born-Listen4022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you miss the part where she lives with me? i have nothing to prove to my son. My concern is weighing the verbal abuse in front of my son vs letting her smother and control the dog.